[neaka]

Hi everyone,

Im not trying to spark a do i/dont i circumcise thread. I have made my decision that we will NOT be circumcising DS2 who is due in 2 months. DH and i have agreed to disagree.

When we had DS1 I left the decision up to my husband who wanted to have him done. I have regretted it ever since after having formed my own opinions on the subject. I dont see the point and i dont want to put my little newborn through the pain and me through the stress of it just so he can look like his daddy and brother.

That said though i am interested to hear if anyone thinks its bad that he will be different to DS1 and Daddy? Is it really that big a deal for boys to 'look' the same?

Please note, this isnt going to sway my mind about not having him done, i just want to know if there will be any fallout from my decision (DH seems to think there will be) but ive put my foot down.

TIA

[Jemstar]

It truly will not be a problem. My eldest was circ'd at 6 for medical reasons, his brothers are not done, it is a complete non-issue.

[neaka]

Thanks Jemstar, i think i just need some reassurance that he isnt going to hate me in the future for not having him done!!!!

[~Nic~]

None of my three boys have been circ'ed, but DH has been. It has honestly never been an issue.

ETA: - Just remembered... according to my mum, my dad was circ'ed, but my brother wasn't. I didn't even know until I asked... it was never a problem there either.


This post has been edited by ~Nic~: 14/04/2012, 10:43 PM

[Guest_NinjahAlpaca_*]

He's so not going to hate you.

If he wants to be done when he's older he can do so, easily, and under a lovely GA where he won't know a thing.

If anything I think he'll respect you for leaving the decision up to him.

[CrunchyNut]

We were in the same position, I let my DH bulldoze me into it with our first child together and I too regretted it, so when our second DS arrived he was quite sick and we thought we were going to loose him and there was no way I was going to let anyone do anything to him other than what was medically necessary so my DH lost out. So far theres been no issues and really I can't see why there would be and if there is we'll deal with them when/if they happen, its been more of an issue why their younger sister is completely missing hers rofl!

[Maeli]

I am so glad that my first 3 children were girls. Dh & I actually had an arguement that left me in tears whilst I was in the car in pre-labour heading to the hospital to have baby no.1 because he was so adamant that if it was a boy he would be 'done.'

By the time we had our first son I had researched circumcision (both sides,) & was more adamant than ever that it wasn't something that I wanted for my child. Hubby ended up doing his own research & is now a total convert, & would NEVER consent to someone circumcising one of his children.

As for them looking like Daddy. Seriously? The only thing my boys have ever noticed about 'Daddy being different' is that Daddy has hair down there!

[soontobegran]

They won't even notice until they are old enough to explain why there is a difference.
You simply tell the older child that hospitals stopped doing the circumcisions by the time he was born...it is not untrue because public hospitals have stopped them.

[tibs]

OP I am in the same position, early on in my first pregnancy I agreed to let DH decide - worst mistake ever What's done is done but I won't let it happen again, unfortunately my DH (who of course is also done) doesn't agree with me. And now my family who didn't agree with getting DS1 done are saying I'd better get DS2 (if this baby is a boy) done so he matches DS1 and DH So I'm on my own with this unfortunately so it is nice to read of someone else in the same predicament.

They won't even notice until they are old enough to explain why there is a difference.
You simply tell the older child that hospitals stopped doing the circumcisions by the time he was born...it is not untrue because public hospitals have stopped them.

But they'd stopped doing it by the time her DS1 was born too? They'd stopped here in public hospitals by 2007 when my oldest was born but in our area it hasn't made much of a difference as my son who is done has always been in the majority (mother's group, swimming lessons, preschool.

[lozoodle]

I'm a mother of girls only at this point, but I don't see the problem.

I'm pretty sure brothers don't sit there comparing. Kids dont notice this sort of thing, its the adults who make a fuss about it.