[bee76]

Thank you all so much. I am nearly in tears reading your replies, it is so good to hear from others who understand or have experienced similar issues. It means a lot.

In positive news, my daughter has just achieved 9 continuous dry nights again. We still have the mat on her bed, with the alarm on. She raged against it for the first couple of days and we gave her the choice not to have it, but reminded her that it had worked in the past and she kept it (initially with bad grace, but happily now).

I have become a complete "drink" dragon over the last couple of years: always nagging her (and her sister) to drink more. It's easier to keep track of when she is at home, and maybe that is part of our recent success - she's on school holidays. We are seeing the Wetaway clinic, and the nurses there have monitored and supported my daughter's progress. One of them gave us the paed referral.

After reading your comments, I will definitely get the paed appointment for my daughter, once the practice reopens. As someone said, it will be good to completely eliminate medical reasons. If there is nothing medically wrong, we can hopefully help her to accept that some things just take time.

My sister in law is planning a cousins' sleep over these holidays, and I really hope she can stay dry for that. She is really looking forward to it.

Thanks again all, for providing a listening ear and empathetic comments!

[bee76]

My DD prefers others to not to know she wets the bed but has said it at a sleepover party because another child was being teased. I was proud of her for that!

That was incredibly brave of your daughter, if she is anything like as private as mine. Rightly proud

[mumandboys]

My 9 year old still wets frequently (probably 4 nights out of 7).

We've seen a urologist and she says he has a small bladder. We've tried to stretch it by giving him more water, but he's still had no success so we're about to start the alarm training.

I feel for DS as he's the oldest. His younger brothers 7 and 4 have been night dry since they were 3. It's really difficult and I can see it affecting his overall confidence and self esteem.

I hope to kick it with the alarm training. DS is very motivated so I'm pretty positive about it.

[meemee75]

My MIL who is 64yrs old wet the bed until she was 13yrs old. She was quite pleased DD was night dry at 3 1/2 yrs becauseshe was worried it was genetic. Dp never wet ythe bed although he has what he calls a small bladder .& wakes 1-4 times a night to pass urine. At my urging He's seen a urologist and had investigations done like a cystoscopy...even trialled some drugs. Nothing was found during the scope & the drugs made no difference. Maybe some people just wee more at night?
I feel for you OP, hope she becomes night dry in the near future.