[EssentialBludger]

Why do 7/8yo girls have to be so b**chy and petty?

DD is part of a threesome friendship at school - someone is ALWAYS left out. Last year it was DD coming home crying every day that the other two were being mean to her, now it's one of the other girls.

I had a long talk with DD about how she felt when she was left out, how it makes the other girl feel bad etc. She's denying it quite vehemently though.

Now they've all been told to stay away from one another, and DD doesn't really seem to have anyone else. She was the new girl in the 3rd year of school and finds it quite hard to break into friendship circles.

Argh! Can't they all just be friends and play nicely?! I cant put up with this crap until year 12!

Is anyone else dealing with b**chy primary school aged girls?

This post has been edited by EssentialBludger: 05/05/2012, 06:34 PM

[Unatheowl]

Oh far out. I dread those puberty/adolescent type years....sigh

[follies]

Never really stops. I know adults like this.

[LeChatNinjah]

We had the exact same in our street last year when a 3rd girl moved in for a while and started playing with DD and one of the neighbour's DD's - they had been playing for years.

The dynamics of 3 are so, so different. I had the big chats with all of them, and it still happened. In fact, it only stopped when the new kid left again.

I think the best thing you can do is try and introduce a 4th into the mix and see if you can get all 4 together for a playdate and monitor them pretty closely.

I'm so sorry R is going through this - it had me in tears last year, so i know how you feel.



Oh, and FWIW, I didn't hold back on telling any of them off if this kind of thing happened within my hearing - I don't care if it was my kid or someone else's, any bulling type of behaviour earned a right bollocking, lol!

[howdo]

So relieved my DD's don't have this issue.

DD1 has so many friends it'll never happen and DD2 has a small group that has always been quite stable. Even if there is friction between the other two it never bothers D2 and she just rolls with the punches.

[Unatheowl]

So relieved my DD's don't have this issue.

DD1 has so many friends it'll never happen and DD2 has a small group that has always been quite stable. Even if there is friction between the other two it never bothers D2 and she just rolls with the punches.

small hijack. Sorry op if this is not cool and i can remove post.

Do you think this is coincidence/luck? If not, what is it about their personalities that allow them to interact more positively? How would a parent go about preparing young girls for these situations? What would you have done differently?

[Mrs.Brown]

Oh yes, this is happening with DD and she is only 6! She copes with it badly as well, due to anxiety and social skill issues.

Girls are horrible - I mean that with the best intentions lol, I love my daughter, but after raising 3 boys I should have told the OB at my c/section to add a doodle when she was born. lol

Boys are so easy. And we are no where near the teen years with DD, I am dreading it. There must be a job out there where I can depart when she is 11 and return when she is 21? Some kind of overseas long term contract maybe

[bubaburns]

Is it just me or are girls getting younger when they start to get b**tchy. My poor dad (4 daughters) always has said once we turn 14 on goes the b**tch switch and it doesnt go off until we are married and then its not is problem. lol I feel for your DD i hope it can be worked out.

[Curly Wurly]

Playdates with lots of other girls is my suggestion. She needs to widen her circle of friends. Mixing and playing with a lot of different girls. This will enable her to "'float" from one group to another when issues arise.

[ubermum]

It has started for us in kinder