[Fanny McPhail]

I probably wouldn't react at all.

If he was speeding and got caught, the fine is punishment enough. Its not my job to make him feel worse. I understand why your DH has decided not to go out and think, in the circumstances you have described, was a sensible decision but again his to make.

[follies]

My partner got one driving to Canberra for business, on a double demerits week, without his P plates on.

$900 and loosing his license for 3 months after not having one after a 4 year suspension (don't ask, before we met) and 3 years of laziness in getting a new one was punishment enough.

He tried to hide it from me but I found the letter.

Now he drives like a Grandmother, which is just as annoying.

[Guest_holy_j_*]

Totally unlikely as he rarely drives, but in the past when he has, oh well, don't do it again, and make some room in the budget to pay it off for the next couple of months. As he has reacted to me when I have gotten speeding fines in the past.

[Working_Mummy]

I think you both handled it like responsible adults given the tight circumstances.

You didn't blow your cool - it was not something that happened before/regularly which could be classed as an accident / warning, ie let him deal with it.

He has taken appropriate measures to ensure it is paid, even if it does mean sacrificing his night out.

[YandiGirl]

My lovely man got one a couple of weeks ago. I said, "that'll teach you!" End of story.

He was mortified though. Which actually surprised me as he speeds a bit, 5-10ks over the limit, a lot! I keep banging on about how you don't get fines if you don't speed, but he doesn't always listen.

[Oriental lily]

Depends on how it happened.

If it was an accident like yours op I would just shrug it of as being a bit of misfortune.

If it was 70 in a 60 zone I would be a bit annoyed for being careless. Anymore than 10k over I would be rather p*ssy if the area was a well known speed.

For being dangerous and reckless and not paying enough attention.

Ultimately though if it is a rare occurrence then what's the point in getting upset over.

We all make mistakes.

The only time I would be furious is if it was happening far to often.

I have been driving for 11 years and DH for 18 and between us we only have gotten two tickets. One each.

So its a rarity.

This post has been edited by Oriental lily: 18/04/2012, 01:10 PM

[vääräsääri]

In the case of my DH, I would shrug and move on. Given his driving, it would be a one-off, he follows traffic regulations pretty faithfully, so there would be nothing gained by getting angry or annoyed with him. He'd already be annoyed enough with himself anyway, without me adding to it.

[HollyOllyOxenfre...]

I must be a hard ass, coz I'd crack it at DH regardless. Speeding really peeves me, and I'm a shocking backseat driver with DH if I see the speedo creeping over the limit. If it was a couple of k's over (say 63 in a 60 zone - do they even fine for that?) I'd probably be ok with it and just make sure he paid it off, but 10k over is way too much

But I guess I'm mean

[Bluenomi]

How is his driving record before this? If he hasn't any "priors" he can always write to the authority that issued the ticket and request leniency.

I got pinged doing 67 in a 60kph zone and wrote in asking for it be revised to a warning. I admitted I was wrong (which I was) and that it was a lapse in concentration. They kindly cancelled it.

They can only say no.

That really bugs me. You got busted speeding so you should just pay the fine. I don't care if you've never been caught before, you were still speeding.

[Fairey]

It wouldn't bother me really. He's a big boy, I'm a big girl. Nothing we can do to change the situation (I usually get the fines though)... Do the crime, do the time and pay the fine.