[alexsdad]

Hi, I need some help!!

My 2 years and 9 months daughter was started on toilet training about six weeks ago. We had sort of tried a few times prior to this but with a new baby we didn't want to put ourselves through the stress until we knew she was ready. At the very least it got her familiar with the concept.

She started back in full time day care six weeks ago. We have a great centre who were keen to help.

We started her as they suggested she was ready, as she was taking off her nappies. So we started and provided she was taken to the toilet she was good with her wees. During this time, she has only once done a poo in the toilet (and only because she thought she had already done it).

Week before last she was quite unwell with early pneumonia and was pretty much bedridden, so we let her stay in pull ups for a couple of days.

Now she might as well be a baby. She is not using the toilet unless we really make her. If we dont, she poos and wees anywhere and is almost proud of it. At day care she has become terrible, she will go through 4 - 5 changes of undies a day. They have been very understanding but I think their patience is wearing off (as is ours!), as she doesn't even really try now. They will ask her if she needs to go and put her on the toilet, but then she will wet herself two minutes later.

We are not really sure what to do! We went with the flow to start, figuring she would get there eventually and we just needed to be encouraging.

She is a very clever girl, I think almost too clever. She knows what she needs to do but we cant help that think she may be doing this for attention. My wife and I have tried talking to her about it together and separately but its no good. She says she wants to be a big girl and she knows where poo and wee is meant to go.

We are considering putting her back in nappies/pull ups. I think this is going backwards but we don't know what to do. We cant take her anywhere like she is now.

Does anyone have any suggestions?? Anyone been through a similar thing?

Any help much appreciated!!

Thanks