[lovealpacas]

I was really strict with this.
No booster & you're not welcome to visit the baby.
Was I popular? I couldn't care less

Babies die from whooping cough, I'd rather people feel offended than put my only baby at risk.
Get your DH to insist on the booster.

This. For a few of our friends, DD1 was the first baby of the 'group', and there was/still is a WC epidemic in the area, so I said that anyone who wanted to come visit needed the booster. They all did it as they knew how bad WC is.
OP get your DH to tell your MIL to google Dana Mcaffrey and 60 Minutes

[Propaganda]

I would mention it, mention I'd really appreciate it if she did, but I am not one to be strict about it.

Unless I planned to be a hermit until the baby was fully vaccinated, every person close to us getting booster shots wouldn't guarantee health, and most people I know aren't idiots and would stay away if they were showing any signs or symptoms of illness (of any sort).

[tres-chic]

As the people who would be around her the most, after DD (my third) was born I had DH, and both my parents get WC booster shots.

I'm the last one to panic about these things (I'm relaxed about germs to a degree, for instance) but it is a fact that WC innoculation rates are falling fast where we live, unfortunately.

All three did so without hesitation.

So yes, I would ask her. I don't see any down side in protecting a newborn and I'd be surprised if a caring grandparent would either.

Good luck OP.

[lovedupmumma]

Unless I planned to be a hermit until the baby was fully vaccinated, every person close to us getting booster shots wouldn't guarantee health, and most people I know aren't idiots and would stay away if they were showing any signs or symptoms of illness (of any sort).

I know, I feel somewhat like this which is why I'm asking.The thing is she will often turn up on a planned visit and not be 100% well and say something like "I've just had this cough and runny nose all week, I'm sure it's nothing", whereas that's what WC can look like in adults. She won't let us know in advance if she's not well before coming over, and once she's there it's pretty damn hard to say "Sorry, you'll have to go.", particulary once the kids see her.

Whereas my mum missed seeing DS2 for about a week after his birth because she had a cold and kept away. She was sad about it but knew it wasn't the end of the world.

I don't want to be overly hyper, but I need to protect bubs. Have asked DH to speak to her, which he will. Don't know if he thinks it's actually important TBH.

[lovedupmumma]

Unless I planned to be a hermit until the baby was fully vaccinated, every person close to us getting booster shots wouldn't guarantee health, and most people I know aren't idiots and would stay away if they were showing any signs or symptoms of illness (of any sort).

hence the double post
I know, I feel somewhat like this which is why I'm asking.The thing is she will often turn up on a planned visit and not be 100% well and say something like "I've just had this cough and runny nose all week, I'm sure it's nothing", whereas that's what WC can look like in adults. She won't let us know in advance if she's not well before coming over, and once she's there it's pretty damn hard to say "Sorry, you'll have to go.", particulary once the kids see her.

Whereas my mum missed seeing DS2 for about a week after his birth because she had a cold and kept away. She was sad about it but knew it wasn't the end of the world.

Sorry, my browser is doing strange things lately, hence the double post.

I don't want to be overly hyper, but I need to protect bubs. Have asked DH to speak to her, which he will. Don't know if he thinks it's actually important TBH.

This post has been edited by lovedupmumma: 19/12/2012, 07:33 PM

[I'm Batman]

You can tell her to leave, if she lies and says shes not sick, you only have to throw her out once.

[mumto3princesses]

You can have whooping cough and not realise you are sick with no runny nose symptoms and not even a real cough. So, yes I would be asking her. No booster, then she doesn't see the baby.

DD#1 had it a few years ago and wasn't sick at all. She just had a very very mild tickle in her throat type cough which I thought was her asthma. She didn't even notice the little cough and it wasn't very often either. Otherwise perfectly healthy. (Vaccinated) We know a boy in her class also ended up with it, very sick and we guess he must have caught it off her and he was also vaccinated.