[Nicole-Bris]

Has she called since Christmas 2010? If not, well then I don't see why you are the only slack one. I can't remember the last time I called my inlaws. They also live interstate and DH is the blacksheep of the family and doesn't really get along with his parents. I think they may phone eachother maybe once or twice a year but we went and visited in January this year.

[au*lit]

The last time I spoke to her was when I saw her on the weekend. I don't think I have ever called her, or maybe once. DH calls her and FIL and they call to speak to him. They always send their love but don't generally speak to me on the phone. Same goes for my family (I call/receive calls from my family, DH doesn't). Works for us.

I'm not terribly close to MIL. I don't have a problem with her, we're just not kindred spirits. Plus, she could talk underwater with a loaf of bread in her mouth, generally about the most mind-numbingly boring and inane minutiae of other people's lives, so I'm pretty happy to maintain the status quo.

[lsolaBella]

I'm not terribly close to MIL. I don't have a problem with her, we're just not kindred spirits.

This is my MIL and I. We don't choose to 'chat' to eachother. Any of our weekly exchanges are very brief and only relate to the kids or DH. On the other hand she came overseas with us in Dec for 2wks. Not the best time of my life, but I realised the importance of that for DH and the kids.

The only times I usually 'sit' down with MIL to chat are Easter or Christmas if we happen to be in town (as often overseas or interstate seeing my family).

ETA: In terms of conversation I have probably had more conversation with my brother's MIL (who is German and lives overseas) in the past 10yrs on the few times I have seen her compared to my MIL.

This post has been edited by lsolaBella: 13/04/2012, 06:05 PM

[Miss-Lis]

2003 LOL.

She is a weird woman and we don't have contact with her anymore.

[Bel Rowley]

About 2 hours ago, she and FIL babysat the kids all day while I was doing something for uni assignment. I see and/or speak to my PIL at least once a week, probably more than I speak to my own parents. I certainly speak to DH's parents more than he does.

[~LTM~]

Not since Christmas 2011. They live interstate and mostly talk to my DH. We don't have a home phone, so they just call his mobile.

I don't dislike or have any problems with her, I just don't have a need to speak with her.

[*lalah*]

I don't think you're slack. I see my MIL a lot, but it's DPs job to stay in touch with her, not really mine. You could always send her emails/pictures etc... but don't feel bad just because you don't have the same relationship with her that others have with their MILs.

[Cappie]

I think your DH only calling her a couple of times a year is pretty slack TBH..

I second this - DH speaks to his Mother a little less than I speak to her, but at least one check in phone call a week. I guess it depends on the family though?

I last spoke to MIL this morning, and we text many times during the day. But then we are very close and even more so since I have provided her with her first grandbaby i.e. she has a big excuse to call me a lot, to remind me to send another picture message etc.

In summary, in my situation, yes it would be incredibly slack, but that isn't a blanket statement for you, you may not have that sort of relationship with your MIL.

[frenchalex]

Ha!! I can understand au*lit!! Funny how everyone else's lives are interesting but I never get asked about my own!

I don't understand why people think it's slack that Erica 2012 hasn't called her MIL. Why is it her responsibility? It's different if you have a close relationship or she looks after the kids etc but otherwise I don't understand why it has anything to do with her to maintain a relationship with the in laws. I am sick of husbands/partners expecting the women/mothers to manage all aspects of family life - including the relationships with their own parents. I must say my own husband is not bad at keeping in touch with his family but it is certainly at a different pace to the relationship I have with my own parents.

[FrogIsAFrogIsAFr...]

Yesterday. I can go for 2 weeks without speaking due to both of us bring busy, but it's not usual.

She's been a big part of my life since 1993 and I speak to her more than my own mum, who lives interstate.