[mummabear]

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[itsaboysworld]

The main age related issue I am seeing in Matty who is 11 is backchat. Everything comes with a smart a*se comment from him. He is feeling the need to challenge me a lot more, and its different from his ODD issues as you can see its an actual challenge to see if Im still boss.

He has many other personality and behavioural changes but the above is the main one id put down to hormones and his age.

[Malaya]

One tip I remember is have these conversations when you are not facing each other directly. Sometimes it's harder to open up when you have to stare into someone's eyes, especially mums! So sit on the couch next to each other, or in bed next to each other or the dining table

I hope you can find the reason and a solution ASAP! tough gig parenting.

This post has been edited by Malaya: 31/03/2012, 08:16 PM

[mummabear]

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[Malaya]

If I had to threaten punishment for every bit of bad behaviour, I would need a diary to keep up. No, I am not kidding. How am I meant to treat him like a man in the making when he is so immature?

I wish I had the answer to that! Good luck!

[~*Twilight~Zone*...]

I tend to mostly ignore the hormonal outbursts as I still now my DS is a good kid. I do let him know it's not right to act out that way but I certainly don't punish him or hold it against him in anyway. Once it's done and over it's forgotten and we move on. Now I'm not saying you do, just explaining how I deal with it.

My DS is certainly getting more leg hair but at the stage it's still blonde and not all that noticeable. No blackhead or pimples yet thank god but the BO is one to watch out for. It suddenly appears without warning. When I noticed it on my DS I took him to the shops and let him pick what he wanted but I did sway his choice as he wanted body spray and that just wasn't cutting it.

Other than that he hasn't turned too feral yet although he now has his first girlfriend which I haven't been officially told about yet

[AMPSyd]

My 11 yr old hasn't started showing any signs as yet, nothing.

He has a gorgeous singing voice, very alto. Unsure what will happen when that voice breaks. My neighbour said all the Year 8 boys last year voice's broke and it was very funny listening to a bunch of 12-14 yr olds yelling at a soccer match with breaking voices.

[tassiegal]

So far so good with my just turned 11 year old. He is the quieter of my 2 boys and hasn't ever really been too much trouble... Yet.

I guess the one thing I notice is that he knows everything (thinks he does) but not to the point where he is being rude.

[lucy ando]

my eldest son is 11 1/2 - definately over the last 6months or so has developed ATTITUDE! i think alot of it comes from school and friends who are the year above and alot of kids seem to get everything they want and have unlimited access to internet/phones/computers/tv/games/be able to stay up til whenever...
my son is very hot and cold - answers back all the time! questions our decisions and authority ! bosses around his siblings ! is very impatient and demanding and self centred !

i presume this is the normal pre-teen stuff. i am now learning not to buy into it and just give the explaination or consequence i'm happy with, and leave it at that. i think it's a learning point for us as parents too.

my husband has just started talking to him about puberty etc and really trying to connect and stay close to him during this time -- fingers crossed.

he is also really gorgeous, smart, helpful, independant, honest and funny - so we do get the good with the bad which helps

[Ianthe]

My 11 year old is absolutely as you are describing your son. He will be 12 in June and this behaviour has been happening for a few months. I have no doubt it is hormonal. He has always been such a kind, compliant child.

I do make sure we have time alone on a regular basis to have a chat. That has done wonders with my relationship with my 15yo. I think they really need that reassurance as they get older.