[sotnos]

Same here although I am going to make a bigger effort to keeeeeep attending the playgroups rather than think 'stuff it' after 1-2 go's.

[Sassy Girl]

I feel loneliness as a 27 year old mum. For my friends that's pretty young to have a LO, everyone else lives for the night and going out and I'm very much a day creature these days. EB is my friend, oh sad I know!

I was the same but I was 20 when I had our first. None of my old friends had children until they were in their 30's. I suppose that loneliness can come with being a SAHP no matter what your age

[natangel]

I am an older mum and SHP aged 44 (soon to be 45) with 2 DDs aged 2+10 months and 8 months.

I find it incredibly lonely and isolating at times.

My best "mummy" friend with a child the same age as DD1 is 10 years younger.

All the mums at DD1's pre school are at least 15 years younger.

I don't think that age is a problem in itself; more so finding common ground apart from a shared interest in parenting.

In any case, i'm used to being out of sync with my peers.

I dropped out of school whilst my friends continued their education. Spent 4 years travelling whilst they began working in their professions. Started uni in my late 20's when they were settling down with partners and having children. Married in my late 30's and had children in my early 40's when their kids had grown up.

The boredom and repetitiveness (ground hog day every day) gets to me more. I love playing with my children, but I hate household chores and errands.

I'm planning a return to part time work this year to alleviate the loneliness and boredom.

[sophiasmum]

I was 40 when I had DD2 & thankfully I still had interaction with school mums where my DD1 & DS went, but none of them had babies so I felt restrictive on what I could do with them.

Now one of those mums is pregnant & I look back & think that was me at the same age & I wonder how she will go when the baby comes.

But happily I am well past that stage of my life & happy with their ages now & am glad to be done with babies & not wanting any more.

[Mum_of_five]

My bubs Emmy is our 5th and a huge surprise at 42... My children are DS14,DS12, DS11, DD4,DD8 weeks..DH is 43..I have friends of all ages but don't really have friends my age group with babies, and they are glad it's me and not them with a baby it has been a big shock and Emmy has reflux which none of my others had, so that has been difficult because I get even less sleep than most mums with newborns..
I suggested an older mothers group to my MCHN because they have young mothers groups but nothing for the 40+ new mums/ mums again.. At least we wouldn't feel so alone and could support each other.. If anyone lives near each other here, maybe we could have a catch up with those who are close by.. Just a thought

[Everafter]

I found the first few years of my daughter's life very lonely. I didn't have a mother's group and playgroup wasn't really my scene - they all seemed to know each other and the sky would fall down if you didn't take a long a plate of some homemade, organic, sugarfree whatevers for morning tea!
There was one group of friends who all had kids the same age, I caught up with them once a month, but none of them were local.
When my DD started at kindy, it was a blessing, and I made a couple of local friends, finally had coffee buddies! Some of our girls started dancing at the same place, so that helped too. DD's bestie goes to the same school as her now, and that was great, I made sure to join in as much as possible with school activites, and it's a great step from there to say to other mums "let's go and get a coffee".

That said, I do worry that this little one won't have much opportunity to meet kids the same age, I'm so busy with DD and her activities etc, and I also fear the fact that most other mums with babies will be some much younger.

[epl0822]

One of my best friends and I have a huge age gap between us. We met after we both had babies (I was a young mum and she an older mum) and we developed a friendship pretty quickly. I don't think age is a major issue when it comes to forming friendships, as mums you can find some basic common grounds there. Join a playgroup or a local church or some other activities in your area.