[BabyAyla]

My baby is about to turn 4 months old and I am concerned that she doesnt do things other babies do. In my mothers group lots of the babies if not all are rolling and can hold their heads up, they can stand flat on their feet - held of course and ayla can do none of this. She can move her head from side to side when on her tummy but prefers to rest and lick the play mat instead!

Im freaking out like ive done something wrong!

Has anoyone else felt like this?

[lsolaBella]

Mine could hold their heads up but that was more to do with them being reflux bubs and spending lots of time sitting up looking over my shoulder.

DS1 rolled at 5m, DS2 6m and DD was nearly 7m before she rolled.

Children all develop at different rates.

If you are concerned talk to your MCHN.

Oh yeah... this is the first of MANY milestones.

As for walking DS1 walked 16.5m DS2 19.5m and DD is 15m and showing no 'signs' of walking. Most children walk around the 12m mark. My children are in the last 5% or less to walk.

[BabyAyla]

Thanks, I plan on discussing it with the MCHN.

You just can help but feel like 'why isnt my baby doing that or showing signs of it'...

[BabyAyla]

Oh and she holds her head up no problems when im holding her, its like she just cant or wont on the floor.

[lclb]

It is really hard not to compare our first babies to other bubs at mothers group but believe me you will drive yourself insane if you get too caught up in it! Easier said than done I know, I was totally caught up in it myself!

We had a child in my mothers group who crawled at 5 months! My DS was on the slow side, didn't crawl til he was 11 months! (that is 6 months of me wondering what was wrong with him). Said early crawler walked at 9 months! My DS walked at 13 months.

Talk to your MCHN but remember they all develop at different rates and in the end it will even out!

I'm sure your DD is perfectly fine!

[LittleRB]

I'd talk to your MCHN or ring the MCHN 24 hour line to discuss it with them.

DS was rolling at 12 weeks but he was very physically advanced. Now at 17 months he's great with physical develoment but isn't talking or using words/gestures anywhere near as much as the girls in our mother's group. It's difficult when there's so many babies you are comparing to.

FWIW, most babies in our mother's group started rolling by 4-5 months but we had one girl who wouldn't roll til just over 6 months. Nothing wrong with her, she was just content lying and looking around!

[Princess.cranky....]

First lesson of motherhood, don't compare your baby to other babies. It's really hard not to but as a PP said, you will go insane worrying if you keep looking at what all the other baby's are doing.

None of my kids were rolling at 4 months and I think it's quite normal for a 4 month old not to be rolling.
Sounds like your DD is simply more interested in licking the mat than holding her head up. None of my kids were too keen on holding their heads up for tummy time at that age.

My 6 month old is not sitting yet but I am not worried about it. DD2 sat at 8 months, crawled at 13 months and walked at 19 months. She was just doing it her own time but there was nothing wrong with her. All babies develop at different rates. It's important to look at their overall development and not just what they are not doing. Your baby might not be doing something other babies that age are, but she might be ahead in other areas. So look at her overall development and don't always focus on what she is not doing.

And try not to worry. Your not doing anything wrong.

This post has been edited by Princess.cranky.pants: 06/03/2011, 11:05 PM

[~squiggle~]

Try not to worry too much. My DD was a late roller etc, but is now hitting a lot of language milestones early. They really are just a guide, different babies are just better at different things. It definitely doesn't mean you've done anything wrong!

[Sweet like a lem...]

Some babies are just very laid back, but MCHN will address any concerns you have.

[Penguin78]

Oh and she holds her head up no problems when im holding her, its like she just cant or wont on the floor.

Haha, my DS is great at holding his head up normally but put him on his tummy and he would rather suck his hands!!!