[Pooks*potters]

Camizebrav I'm sorry you're going through that, all I can say is that I had all of those dark feelings too and sometimes I got myself through the tough times by telling myself that next Monday I'd get an abortion if I needed to, then Monday would come and I'd tell myself I'd test it out for another week. All I can suggest is availing yourself to every possible kind of support that you can, and making sure that you ask for help from medical people and those in your life who you love, and keeping your eyes on the prize. Also I found distractions really helped, so whatever works for you... something to take your mind off it even if just for 20 minutes. You'll find the ladies here amazingly supportive. I don't think I would have gotten through it so well without EB.

tinkster23 I'm so sorry. I remember those days well. They pass but they do last an eternity. I hope you're getting through the worst of it all now. It's just so unfair that you have to go through this and if I could take it away from you I would. You'll get there one day at a time.

[J-A]

Hi all,

Sorry i haven't been on for ages but just wanted to quickly update you all. Piper Grace was born via c-section this morning weighing 7 pounds 4 ounces and 48 cm long. I have to say extremely happy if a little suprised we have a little girl to add to our family. On phone so will update properly once home.

Thinking of you all, sorry to those still on the hg journey.

j-a

[mountainmum]

Hi ladies! Been ages since I was on last. Thought I'd swing by a give you all some hugs.

I know how tough it is. You're all doing great.

J-A, WAHOOO!!! That's soooo fantastic. Congratulations to be through HG hell and have you're gorgeous bub!

Everyone else still on the HG rollercoaster -- many hugs, thoughts, parayers.

xxx

[Guest_HopeFaithLove_*]

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This post has been edited by HopeFaithLove: 22/04/2012, 03:39 PM

[hollysmama]

Hi all, I haven't been in for a few months. I feel I didn't really belong seeing as how I was feeling half normal during my second trimester.

I'm so sorry some of you are still suffering so badly. I have been fairly lucky in the fact that I can get through the days feeling almost normal, my only lagging symptom is heaving in the mornings. Most mornings I struggle to keep my breakfast down and all I can do is lie down until it passes. I'm usually feeling pretty good by about 9-10am. I'm very much looking forward to getting this kid out. Only 6 weeks to go!! Hopefully a bit sooner. It's so frustrating when people ask how you are going and they just don't understand how miserable this feeling is. I feel so sorry for those of you are sick all day for 9 months. I remember in the beginning how depressed I was feeling because I knew what to expect. And going though those first 3-4 months felt like torture. I was in such a dark place, I regretted my decision to fall pregnant again, and if there was an abortion pill sitting in front of me, I would have taken it. But I feel so good that I have gotten through it, and so glad that I didn't do anything I would have regretted. I can't wait to meet my little boy, to see his face and hold him for the first time.

Anyway, sorry for rambling. Congratulations to all of you who have had your babies. And I'm so glad you are all able to move on with your lives and enjoy your family. I can't wait to feel like me again, and do things with my daughter.

hopefaithlove I'm so sorry for what you have suffered. I wish I had some advice on how to mentally prepare yourself for another pregnancy, but I don't I'm sorry. I think this is the sole reason we will not go back again. 2 times is enough, I couldn't possibly go through another pregnancy and come out the other end mentally/emotionally unscathed. I hope someone here has some good advice for you.

[Guest_HopeFaithLove_*]

I hope the next 6 weeks sail by quickly for you and then you will have your precious blue bundle

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[Luvbngamum]

Hi Lovely ladies,

It has been soooo long since i have popped by, just so busy with the kids but i think of you all of the time and will try harder to be here more often.

JA....YAY....I have thought of you a lot lately, knowing you would be getting closer, so very happy and relieved that all has gone well and little Piper Grace is here safely. Will check on FB to see if you have pics there. If your DD1 is anything like mine Piper will be the best dressed little lady around. Kelsey just turned 17 and spends all her money on buying Lily shoes, clothes, blankets etc....The other day in Pumpkin Patch she bought Lily one of those teddy bears that you dress in little clothes and then bought the bear and Lily matching outfits...a little dress and a fur coat, LOL Lily is better dressed than anyone else in the neighbourhood, and so is her teddy bear....I really hope that you are enjoying those early newborn days, they are my favorite days ever. I just can not believe how quick your time seemed to pass. CONGRATULATIONS, oh and i LOVE her name...really really do xx

Bettymm..Have missed our chats too, just so busy with two little ones, and three big ones. When I find time to get on FB will check out your page too, you always have such cute photos and they give me ideas on photos I want to take of my babies. Hope your beautiful girls are doing well and will try to catch up more often xx

Chedasha..WOW Estella is approaching her first birthday fast now. I clearly remember this time a year ago. You were near the end and i was wishing it was me. Guess the beautiful Estella will be walking soon...Then you will be really really busy. Walking adds a whole new dimension to being a Mummy, followed closely by climbing. xx

dr seuss..I feel like i have missed out on little sage growing. I bet she is beautiful and loved by your other little ladies. She sure is a big girl....Great to hear of her wonderful weight gains. Zofran sure did no harm to her. Have you put photos on Fb? Will check that out too xx

To all the new ladies, I have been where you all are, 5 times in fact. The only way I ever managed 5 was to have the large age gaps that we have. Our eldest is 17 then 14, 11, 2 and 6 months. There was no way I could have done them one straight after another. I always left it long enough for the memory to fade slightly and be over shadowed by the wonderful memories of newborns and babies. I found the last 2 the hardest by far. Number 4 was the most difficult HG pregnancy for me and TTC number 5 was the worst thing. I knew I wanted one more baby so that number 4 had a sibling to grow with but I had just been through the hg thing and was terrified. They have the closest age gap but I am 42 and did not have time to wait another couple of years. I guess in the end it came to a head when I knew I would regret not having another one one day and just decided to get it over with. I cried every time we DTD, fearing it would work and then fearing it would not. I was a total wreck when I got the BFP and fell a part for months, regretted it, prayed for a miscarriage, day dreamed about a termination and counted down the days like never before. I am ashamed to say that now but it was the hg talking...It makes you feel and think things that in your right state of mind you will never have felt. That is how you know you have hg and not normal morning sickness. If you are feeling so bad you are praying it would all just end and that you will lose a much wanted baby then you can bet you have HG. I have felt this every time i have been PG but more so with the last 2. Funny enough though the last two have been the best births, quick and very easy and I have enjoyed parent hood so much more with them. I guess because i am older and know that the time passes so quickly so i am enjoying every single second with them. I also know that the real guilt i feel when i think about how i once prayed they would go away has led me to be so protective of them, even obsessive at times. I am terrified that they will be taken from me now because it was what i wanted back when in the depths of HG. Those feelings have caused some post natal depression and anxiety in me too, I had it after number 4 whilst trying to decide on number 5..and during my 5 th pg. I have had a touch of it this time too, in the past 2 months. Post natal anxiety rather than depression. It was triggered when we lost our cat I think. She died unexpectedly and was not 2 yet. now I wake every morning with that feeling of dread in the pit of my stomach like something bad is going to happen. I had it the night before Willow died and then I woke and found her in the family room dying and now every morning I have that same feeling when I wake. Think the feelings of losing one of the kids is tied in to it. I know the hg caused the thoughts I had but terrified that God or the universe or fate whatever...will answer the prayers I once had.

So know that you are not alone....I am a Registered Nurse, a mother of five beautiful kids and a very practical, straight forward thinker but Hg has had a big impact on my life and continues to do so after the babies have been born. The nausea goes away but it leaves scars that take longer to heal. It robs us of children we planned to have but are to scared to go through hg again for, it robs us of that wonderful excitement other women get when pg, robs us of that wonderful pg glow. I am one baby short of our planned family. We always planned to have 6. When we met 24 years ago that was our plan, we both wanted a big family and worked hard to be in the position to do that. We nearly got there, just one short. I am 42 now and have done two hg pg in two years and just dont have it in me to do it again now. I thought 3 or 4 months ago that maybe I might as was still under the influence of those hormones but now that they are going I know I am just too old and too tired and was too terrified to go through it all again. HG has robbed me of my one last baby.

So a quick update on Little Lily Eden....She was a great sleeper. 10 -12 hrs a night from 6 weeks but that has all vanished. Her 4 month vaccinations ended that. She was grzzly with those vaccinations and began to wake at night. Initially once and then twice a night. The last 3 or four weeks she is waking every three hours and not settling properly. I am guessing she is teething now. During the days he sleeps ok. A couple of naps ranging from 1 hour to 3 hours in length. She is on solids now and Loves her food, weighs 7 kgs and is just so beautiful. She smiles all of the time and is just so happy. Smiles at everyone and 'talks' non stop. I adore her to bits. All of that regret and negativity vanished the minute she was born and she has continued to be so worth it. I can not believe we ever came close to not having her. When I think that she was very nearly not going to be here, that i almost decided not to ttc and she would not be here.....I am so glad she was meant to be because watching Harry love her and play with her is wonderful. Seeing her tiny face light up when she sees me is magical. That is exactly why I have done this 5 times.

Good Luck to everyone going through this right now. Try salt and vinegar chips...They were all i ate for months...nd almonds at night to ease that hungry nauseated feeling I would wake with at 2am , would have a handful of almonds and go back to sleep. I will be back more often and will also try to get on fb more too...I do get fb messages through email and do check my emails daily. But will make it a habit to get her at least once a week.

Love to you all xxx

[Camizebra]

Luvbngamum Wow! What a great post! Thank you so much for sharing. You are so right, hg does rob of us so much. There were so many times that I was just utterly devastated at the unfairness of it all. You are an inspiration at having 5 hg babies - I have literally talked myself out of ever doing this again. I seriously doubt my mental capacity for handling what I have been through another time. You are a survivor! (PS salt and vinegar chips sound so yummy right now too lol!)


JA Congratulations! I can't tell you how much I love hearing stories of healthy hg babies. It must be such a huge relief after all you've been through so have a gorgeous, healthy bubba and no more sickness.

I had my 19 week morphology scan last night and all is well, thank goodness. I was so worried that there would be something wrong with the baby due to the hg and zofran and stemetil, but no, everything is as it should be so far and we are so grateful. Oh and it's a boy!

I know it sounds negative but I have pretty much given up hope of the hg going away. 19 weeks and still vomiting and on medication. One thing I will say though is that since I've been on the zofran there have been no IV trips to the hospital.

I hope all the other sufferers are coping just a little bit more as each week passes. Lots of hugs and love and wellness vibes to you all.

[protected]

Hi everyone,

I'm new to this as the thought of a HG support group only popped into my head today and when I goggled it I found this, also I haven't been well enough to go online until recently.

I'm 17 weeks pregnant and have HG. I've been suffering since 5 wks, 3 days after finding out we were expecting.
At my peak (9 wks), I had lost 8 kilos in what seemed like overnight, was hospitalised for severe dehydration... needing 8 litres through IV, and was vomiting up to 13 times a day.

I'm now on Zofran, Maxalon, vitamin B6 and more recently Largactil all 3 times a day and I'm finding they are working enough to keep me out of hospital but not enough to led my normal or anything that resembles that life. I've also tried phenergan, ginger and virtually every old wife's tale remedy there is, all with no prevail.

Has anyone else tried or is on Largactil? I was apprehensive about taking it with possible side effects, but was also unsure with Zofran and to be honest, will now try almost anything my GP/OB suggest.

I've been blessed in that my GP and also my OB both had HG in the past and are both amazing support. My OB said "I'd rather labour every day than go through what you are going through with HG" which was and has been such a support to me.

My DH is AMAZING! I don't know what I would have done without him and my family have been great support as well.


I'm still praying and believing I will feel better when I start to feel the baby moving or around 20 weeks like some HG sufferers... I need to believe that right now!

Appreciate your support and love reading your successful baby stories xx

[mountainmum]

Hi everyone!

Just wondering if anyone knows of an OB in the Lismore / Northern Rivers area who has treated HG before?

From what I can gather we only actually have two OB's and one GPOB.

Also has anyone tried using steroids? If you're desperate for relief it might be something to ask your OB about. Prednisone has helped a lot of HG gals.