[Jane01]

I'm sad that in 2013 we still have to choose between a baby and a career, or think we need to.

I think you will find it is an advantage to have a child early. They will be more independent when you want to ramp up your career in your 30's - this is typically when women's careers fall behind mens. Many people are still at uni in their early 20's, so it is not like you'll be behind the rat race if you take some time off.

[cinnabubble]

I'm sad that in 2013 we still have to choose between a baby and a career, or think we need to.

We're only discussing it because the OP has fertility challenges. The rest of us manage it at some point or another.

This post has been edited by cinnabubble: 12/01/2013, 06:56 AM

[MakeLoveNotBacon]

Plenty of relationships fail no matter what the age of the couple.

This is true but statistically the younger you are, the higher the rate. Especially when you add in children. The best of marriages falter under those delightful little imps.

I know two people under pressure to have children or lose their chance and both relationships failed within first year of child. The 'now or never' ultimatum is never a good way to choose the father/mother of your children. I just think the OP needs to be realistic about it.

[Jenflea]

"The 'now or never' ultimatum is never a good way to choose the father/mother of your children."


Fair point Madame Catty.

[jessietroy]

And this:

You're 25 FFS. You're at the beginning of your life. You can pick a life partner, but there's no way to know if you'll have the same partner for life.
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How rude are you....... Have you not had good luck with relationships???? If so, I can think I see the problem......

This post has been edited by jessietroy: 14/01/2013, 08:47 PM

[DressageQueen]

I had my first at 23, went back to uni when he was 1, and am now working full time and preg with #2 (uni deferred for now as I'm due at exam time). It's always felt like no issue at all trying to balance work/home/uni but I think this is due to having a fantastic DF who shares the load with me equally.

I would always, always put having kids before developing a career. Having kids has a time limit, having a career does not. That being said it's important to be set up as well as possible financially which it sounds like the OP is. Working FT/studying PT or vice versa with kids is not as hard as it's made out to be.