[7girly-girls]

We have 7 daughters and to our complete surprise had a son last year. I think I've heard it all when it comes to comments from strangers & my dh has suffered many remarks over the years. While I learnt to deflect these comments early on there have been people that don't leave it as a simple off the cuff comment & have even tried to argue 'c'mon seriously you must really want a son deep down' despite having told them we were perfectly happy with girls. I even had one elderly man, a complete stranger tell me a story of his friend leaving his wife after she gave birth to their 5th daughter. The baby was born, he walked out & never returned. I'd just given birth to our 5th dd the week before so wondered what he was hoping to achieve by telling this story
Most comments are good natured but an idiot occasionally comes along.

[Sunnycat]

I always wanted a daughter and was quite vocal about it prior to finding out I was having a DS. I particularly wanted a daughter first.

Well I had a delightful little boy. He is the most beautiful, happy thing I have ever encountered in my entire life. If we have more children I would be blessed to have 20 more delightful little boys just like DS. If I had a DD I would love and adore her too but I truly don't GAF what sex any future children are.

[PurpleChicken]

We have one DD, with another on the way and that will be it for us. Both of us love the fact that we'll have 2 girls despite the fact that DH will be outnumbered!

I can't count how many times I've been asked if DH wanted a boy. Gets tiring.

I always just answer that no, he's happy with his 2 daughters and wouldn't change it for anything.

[niclucian]

I have a boy and frankly when my wife was pregnant all I hoped was to be healthy whether it is a boy or a girl.

[kmaharaj]

I am so saddened to read of all the bad attitude the people have encountered towards them have children of the same sex. I would just give anything to have a child, boy or girl doesn't matter. I would just be happy with a healthy child. I guess some people don't even realise that a healthy child is a blessing, gender doesn't matter.

[libbylu]

We had 4 DD's in 4 years--WE were thrilled but apparently nobody else seemed to share the joy.
We felt it particularly after our 4th beautiful daughter when DH started calling friends and family from the delivery suite to tell them and was met with " well that was a waste of time" and "never mind" and "better luck next time" to the point he stopped calling anyone. No way was anyone going to destroy our happiness with their crappy attitudes. One would be excused for thinking that she was sick or something
I detest that attitude, I got so defensive for this poor little 4th daughter who didn't ask to be born yet was already a disappointment to people.
I gather that many felt out anger and of course once they met her she was accepted and loved but when we got pregnant again it was presumed that we were 'going for a boy'
We weren't, we weren't trying for a baby but it happened and we were ecstatic and of course presumed we would have a 5th DD.
Our 5th child was a boy and we felt not one bit different because we had a son instead of a DD, but of course we were inundated with flowers, gifts and cards from people who didn't send them for DD3 or DD4 just because he was a boy TBH I felt like packing them up and sending them back. If our girls didn't deserve a card in their eyes then why did our boy?

Apparently "you aren't a man if you don't have a son"-----thank goodness my DH was able to prove his 'manhood' on his 5th attempt

I thought we might have got past this attitude as a society. What you describe is exactly what happened to my grandparents in the 40s and 50s. Except that numbers 4 and 5 were twins, with the second twin emerging being the first boy in the family. Many cards were received by my grandfather congratulating him on the birth of his son.....and my poor aunt born at the same time didn't even rate a mention!

I have to admit though, that being the mother of a son, and now quite possibly two sons (my brave sonographer made a boy prediction at 12 weeks) with no plans for any more, I do feel a twinge of sadness about the possibility never mothering a girl. I have been so close with my mother during the last 5 years - she supported me so much during a difficult first pregnancy and labour, and a difficult post natal period in the way that only a mother could. She sat by my hospital bed holding him (a refluxy baby) for hours on end so I could sleep. I guess there is no guarantee that I would have such a relationship with a daughter but it makes me a little sad I might not get the chance. Either way, I am absolutely over the moon to be pregnant again and if this little one is a boy he will loved and cherished as mightily as the first.

[Nofliesonme]

We had 2 daughters and fell with number 3. The amount of times I heard I bet your hoping for a boy drive me
Nuts. Yes I would like one but it won't make any difference. He was a boy an we fell again. Obviously I wanted 2 pigeon pair if I listened to everyone else. When actually I didn't care. I would have like another girl actually. That really annoys people.

[jodi]

I am so proud of my same-sex family... I just can't imagine it any other way! We aren't 'missing' anything... our family is perfect!

If anyone asks (and they do!!) I just tell them that we are proof of evolution - we are breeding men out of existence!

[Flaxen]

My OH has a teenage daughter, as well as our 18mth old daughter.

His sister keeps telling me that i better have a boy next time as its important to give him a son. Its like she has no idea that the sperm is the x or y, and that i have not much i can do about it. Urrgh, thats what comes of leaving school too early!

This post has been edited by Danielle01: 14/08/2012, 10:09 PM