[Mrs Flanders]

At the risk of sounding like a brat, I wanna get my own way!!

I love a name for our son (due next Wed) and think it's so perfect I can't imagine using anything else. Most people I've told love it too, including the wise people of EB! It's a stand out, beautiful name that is suitable for childhood and adulthood.

But problem is, of course, DH doesn't love it. He says he's tried to get on board with it but "just doesn't like it that much." His choice is a nice name, but one that is very popular. Top 10 popular, which I just can't get excited about. It was my grandad's name, which makes it kind of special but still, I can't see past 'my' name.

We had a similar issue with DD but luckily found a compromise. But I feel even more strongly about it this time.

How do I show him how perfect it is? Anyone faced the same problem?

[mumandboys]

You could do what I did for our #2...

Drop it for now, wait until you've just given birth, then ask if you can name the baby XXX.

Yes, it's a tad manipulative... but, worked for me

[PippityRoo]

No idea, but if you figure it out, please do share.

Hope you get him on side with you.

[lozoodle]

I had two names. One I REALLY wanted, and one I sort of wanted.

DP HATED the one I sort of wanted. So I pretended that was the name I wanted. He got so sick of hearing about it that when I said if he agreed to Holly (the one I really wanted) that I'd never mention the other name again. That was good enough for him

[mks81]

Have no idea...with DD9 he hated any of my names. We ended up making a deal as we didn't know the sex. If it was a boy I got to name baby after my brother who had died. If it was a girl, he liked a name he picked out with his mother's name, (she was also deceased) as the middle name.

As she was a girl he got his way....but I did like the name at the time and when she was born it was her all over.

As much as you like the name, it is his child as well so I guess you can't hold him down till he says yes...can you do a similar compromise or deal? I wouldn't think saying yes from either party to something your not fond of is a good idea.

This time around I have given up on any unusual names before mentioning them as I know OH will hate them. However he has liked a couple of suggestions but I'm holding my fav so far close to my chest.

Good luck!

[keke]

I just brought up the name I liked on a very regular basis (daily ). After a couple of months of name discussions he gave in. Now that I'm having slight second thoughts DH is certain that it's the right name and won't let me change my mind. He says he has got used to it

[mks81]

I just brought up the name I liked on a very regular basis (daily ). After a couple of months of name discussions he gave in. Now that I'm having slight second thoughts DH is certain that it's the right name and won't let me change my mind. He says he has got used to it

That gave me the giggles.

I really wish a neon sign would come down with this one's name...I am so sick of looking at names and umming and ahhing.

[AryaStar]

Drop it for now, wait until you've just given birth, then ask if you can name the baby XXX.

In exactly the same position right now OP and due to give birth to a boy in around four weeks. DH neither really likes or hates my choice and is kind of "meh" about it more than anything so at least he is not strongly opposed to it.

I've asked DH to come up with his own list but he hasn't really pushed the issue or come up with a name he is really passionate about like I have so my approach is going to be as per the above quote.

I'm going to play it cool, not put the kibosh on any of his ideas in the meantime and go in for the kill once the baby is here. In a lovely and most persuasive way

This post has been edited by Shady Lane: 03/04/2012, 07:00 PM

[NK0709]

My hubby was set on the name Alasdair... it was the only one he wanted, and he fought hard for it... He then said that as it was a boy he got to choose...

I hated that name.... so I told him if he could come up with a list of several names I would then choose from that list (so in effect he had first choice of names). this is what he chose...

Alasdair,
Alastair
Alaster
Alaister
Alasder
Felix
Hamish
Duncan

I obviously discounted all the variations of Alasdair and Felix (I had a cat named Felix, doh) and I thought Hamish was perfect, but that was also vetoed, so we ended up with Duncan... in the end it was the perfect name as it was Scottish and our son has red hair lols

This post has been edited by NK0709: 03/04/2012, 07:03 PM

[4WD_Baby#1]

I wanted River and Leo but wasnt allowed, but I got both Brayden and Emily. He didnt want Tobias or Silas. I hated Daniel. I wiill let him choose second time around.