[rubesmummy]

DD has been toilet trained for a few weeks and has done really well, only about 2 or 3 accidents, but will NOT poo in the toilet, she holds off until night time when she has a night pullup on to do it. She keeps telling me she feels sick and has a sore tummy,,,,when she does go its hard, and DD has never ever been constipated

What do i do!!!

[blackbird]

My son refuses to poo too, he will just go in his undies but he is great with wee's he even woke dry this morning and went right to the loo when he woke, he even does well out and about thanks to his travel cushie tushie, so I too would like to know what to do! good luck

[meljb]

For months DS wouldn't poo in the toilet, only in a nappy, i was told it's quite common.
Maybe you can tell your DD that she doesn't have to poo in the toilet and she can ask for a nappy if she wants to do a poo, this might help with the consipation issue. Then if she asks for a nappy tell her ok, but ask would you like to do poo in the toilet like a big girl? (or similar phrasing, whatever works for you)
This worked for us, but it has taken many months. He now does most poos in the toilet and rarely in his night nappy.

[Eaststkilda]

We went through and it took ages! For a long time she would ask for a nappy to do a poo, and then go and stand in the corner and do it. She was almost 4 by then... eventually we went the tough love and said no more nappies. She was constipated for about three days (and really in agony).... so we gave her some laxative for children, and she couldn't hold it in any more. She did it in the toilet, and was so proud of herself and it was never a problem after that. It was such an amazingly psychological process to watch, she really was very frightened of letting go...

[Snagglepussed]

It is psychological a lot of the time!

Doing a poo in the toilet and flushing it away can be quite daunting for the littlies. An absurd type of separation anxiety!

Maybe try a potty for poos and then get her to tip it into the toilet and flush! From there progress to sitting on the toilet and you may just be pleasantly surprised!

[roses7]

My daughter also had this issue, as did a friend's sons. What worked for us, when she was 3.5, was out and out bribery. We went to the toy shop and she chose a toy that she really wanted. It went in the cupboard for her to have when she did a poo on the toilet. She held on for 3 days, and just when I was thinking I would have to give her a nappy, she sat on the toilet and with a lot of emotional support, she did a poo. My DH was convinced she'd go back to the nappy after she got the toy but from that day on she used the toilet. She had really wanted to do it but fear was holding her back.

My son is just TT now at 2.5 and always poos in his undies. I've tried offering bribes but he's too young to understand.

It is very common and I think you just have to be patient until they are that bit older.

[mummyof*4*]

Dont want to scare you but my DD has just turned 6 and has just started pooing in the toilet.

She was the same as your DD OP, she would hold off and hold off until the night time nappy and then go. We struggled for a very long time with this issue - my DH wanted to go cold turkey without nappies and I didnt ( she had a few episodes in hospital with impactions and severe stomach pains).

Coming from a background of anxiety myself I could see it was causing an extreme amount of distress.

We tried bribery, stickers/charts...you name it we did it.

I eventually did the same stuff my psych did with me. We started by letting her have the nappy, but going into the bathroom to do `it'. Then once she had that down pat, we made her go into the toilet. Then sit on a toilet with a nappy on. ( I did read once that you cut a hole in the nappy where they cant see it, make them sit on the toilet and do a poo and it just falls out into the toilet - didnt work for us ). We then progressed to doing a poo on the toilet without a nappy which she did with me or DH sitting there with her. She regressed a few times, but is now happily doing it on her own - although we make sure that we give lots and lots of praise and congratulations.

Good luck OP

[Lukri]

My sister in law had this same issue with her son. At his pre-school they used to put a pull up on him and sit him on the toilet when he wanted to poo. Then after he got used to that they actually cut a hole out of the pull up without him knowing and put him on the toilet. He then pooed straight into the toilet. When he realised he was so happy and hasn't looked back since. I thought it was a clever idea.

[rubesmummy]

thanks everyone, mummyof4....my sis in law told me the other day she had the same problem with my neice, she would only go in the nappy till she was just about to start pre primary! NOOO i cant go for that long!

i was so excited about the TT part i just naturally thought the poo would come too, oh i was wrong. The bad part is that shes all snuggled in bed and then wakes to do a poo and we have to do the whole night reading etc all over again.

i have a feeling though once she does one she will be ok, its just getting that ONE out!!

guess i just have to perservere, i do like the idea though of doing it in a nappy in the bathroom, then in the toiilet room itself and then graduating from there. I also reckon she cant kinda hold the poo in like she can wee so doensnt get she needs to go before its coming out (she does a few in knickers here and there)

thanks everyone@!

[Wicked Witch!!!]

It's a very common separation thing because they see it as losing part of themselves into this big hole. I've used a potty for some children and they found it easier. I made them tip it into the toilet too!!!

good luck!