[Obesa cantavit]

Ok Ill see if I can explain what I am thinking.

Seeing as most women need some emotional/interlectual involvement in sex, do you think that they can emotionally cheat on their partners? By this I mean have an emotionally intimate relationship with someone with no sex, physical, cyber, written, spoken or otherwise. I am not talking about flirting either.

Is having a deep emotional involvement that excludes your partner cheating?

(hope I have explained myself enough)

[lsolaBella]

I would say YES.

If a woman is not getting that kind of close emotional contact with her partner and finds that with someone else outside of the relationship and hides that fact, then YES, I would categorise it as emotionally cheating. It is taking something out of the 'realationship' and bringing in a 3rd party IYKWIM?

This post has been edited by lsolaBella: 22/09/2009, 08:37 AM

[Boltandblip]

Of course they can.

Sorry I dont know if I know what you are asking as I think it is pretty straight forward that women (and men) can have emotional rather than physical affairs.

People have affairs for a whole variety of reasons.

I have never had one but I supose you could say I am in the "emotional space" where I can see why someone would have one.

This post has been edited by ~questions~: 22/09/2009, 08:41 AM

[~Alchemy~]

Of course they can!! Why would women be any different from men in that respect? I would think women are probably more guilty of emotional cheating than physical because it is often emotional connections that women seek out rather than simply sex. (generalising of course)

I view it as cheating whether it is emotional or physical and humans are capable of both regardless of the equipment they posses.

[Obesa cantavit]

Thanks for the replies. I do actually agre that you can have an emotional affair, I just wanted to gage others views

Why would women be any different from men in that respect

They wouldnt. I am just taking it from the persperctive of a women doing it as I would assume that being (generally) more emotionally involved in sex then men IYKWIM that it would be more prevelent with women then men. Not saying it doesnt happen the other way.

This post has been edited by Obesa cantavit: 22/09/2009, 08:52 AM

[~Bellyfruit~]

yes as can men.

[KT1978]

I think that is exactly how most affairs start....

[countrymel]

If you transfer all your emotional closeness to another person it can and will affect the primary relationship. It's that old doozy left over from teenagehood... when you are to wimpy to just break up honestly so you manufacture an argument.
If you are 'close' emotionally to someone else then you will not be making the effort to be close to your 'legitimate'(?) partner... a self fulfilling prophecy if you will..
How many times does one need to hear "his/my wife doesn't understand him/me" to know it is a cliche?

[Obesa cantavit]

Countrymel and KT1978, thank you, I hadnt really looked at it that way/made that connection.

[Rachaelxxx]

I see where you are coming from and over the years I have found a connection for want of a better word with a few different males and at times have thought if I wasn't with my dh I could see really see myself with this person. I would never take it further, I've never wanted to take it further and I've never needed to take it further (meaning I get a lot of emotional support from my partner, don't take that the wrong way I'm not trying to say people NEED to have an affair), but I have felt an attraction to a couple of different men other than my dh of course .

I think there are a lot of grey areas with this type of thing, I certainly don't think it's black and white. What you do with your feelings is another story.