[Plappermaul]

Thanks BMJ.

I am a little concerned about a friend's son - reading through those signs he exhibits a few of them, especially the sensory and behaviour ones.

He is a very happy, smiley boy who is meeting all physical milestones but I just feel like there is something a bit 'off'.

I'm not sure how to bring up my concerns, she is a very good friend but I don't want to offend her. My little girl is slightly older and I don't want my friend to think that I'm comparing our children IYKWIM.

You have provided much food for thought!

[baddmammajamma]

Thanks for the support and for helping keep this thread active.

Plappermaul, it is a really tough situation to have concerns about a friend's child (or any child who is not your own). Among parents, there is no consensus on what the best practice is. Some parents will appreciate their friends' candor and concern, while others might be offended.

If your friend does give you an opening of any sort ("I'm a little worried about Billy's fixation with lights." "I wonder when Billy's speech is going to kick in."), you can always use that as an opportunity to encourage her to get things checked out -- for her own peace of mind. Developmental screens (by an MCHN or GP) are painless and easy.

First Signs, which is a gem of an organization that is devoted to helping parents/care givers/professionals recognize the early warning signs of ASD and other developmental issues, has put together a valuable piece on things to consider if you want to express your concerns "Parent To Parent:"

https://www.firstsigns.org/concerns/parent_parent.htm

Hope this helps!



ETA: I just went back & re-read all of my posts here. I swear, I don't work for First Signs! I just love their work, that's all.

This post has been edited by baddmammajamma: 06/01/2012, 06:58 PM

[baddmammajamma]

The nerve! Bumping her own thread!

Doing so because there seem to be a number of people expressing concern today about the development of their very little ones.

FYI: On each toddler & kids board (12-24 months; 24-36 months; 3-5; 5-8; 8-18), there are pinned threads that cover the most common "ASD flags" for kids in those ages groups. Some of those flags might surprise you.

As I am so fond of saying, if you have concerns about your child's development -- ASD or otherwise-- the very best thing you can do is get those checked out with a qualified professional. Your GP (or MCHN) is a good starting point and can refer you on to a developmental paediatrician if needed.

[baddmammajamma]

updated & bumped

[soontobegran]

I am very glad you bumped BMJ and am bumping again.
I hope you don't mind but I often refer worried parents to your threads as I don't believe they could get better information anywhere.

EB is very lucky to have you as an advocate and a resource. x

[baddmammajamma]

Bumping in light of Autism Awareness & Acceptance Month