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Posted by nik&j , 11 September 2012 · 229 views

So to be honest, it's taken me almost two years to open up about all that has been going on in the 'fertility' department. Dont get me wrong I have a lot of family and close friends I can talk too (and some I do) but it doesnt always help... no one can truly relate to you in this situation unless they too have or are going through something similar.

Back in October 2010, I married my best friend.... seriously he would have to be the best man I have ever met, he is unbelievably loyal and supportive, I am so blessed in that department. Hubby & I ventured overseas for a month for our honeymoon and upon returning we agreed that I would go off the pill and we would just see what happened. I have always had regular periods (28/29 days) the first month I was a week late, so the excitement sank in... I was sure I was pregnant! Then AF arrived, It was an emotional roller coaster from that moment. I never wanted to 'try' I just wanted it to happen but after the late period in December it was too hard to not keep trying month after month. By August 2011 Hubby & I both had check ups with our GP, Hubby was sent for a Sperm Analysis and they did find he had a low morphology %. We booked into see our fertility specialist Dr Kan at IVF Australia, he reveiewed our file and ran more blood tests etc at this stage he couldnt see a reason why we werent falling, he said although hubbys morphology was low he had well above the numbers and after all it only takes one. I was then sent for a HYCOSY, all came back clear. We decided to keep trying naturally in the hope it would still just happen. I was given a script for Clomid which I was advised to try for 4 months.... still no good! We have been trying naturally (including acupuncture and chinese medicine) up till last week when we returnd to Dr Kan for the next step (almost 12 months after our initial visit).
So now the decision.....IUI or IVF?? I am leaning more towards less invasive to begin with, but hubby is leaning towards the higher success rate with IVF?
I never imagined I would be in this situation.....
We have booked another appointment for October 10th to book in either IUI or IVF so we are hoping our first cycle will happen November (we are away at the end of Oct).
In the meantime, we'll continue trying................................




Reading your story has touched my heart as we share a very similar story.
My husband and I did the honeymoon overseas in 2009 and I also stopped the pill once we got back to reality.
And that's when we realized that getting pregnant wasn't going to be as easy as it 'looked' for everyone else.
My periods had always been regular but once stopping the pill they only came every 3 months or so.  I was on clomid for 6 months and nothing happened which was so disappointing.  We then made the appointment at IVF Australia where we met with Prof Chapman. And this is where the journey began. We both did all the tests etc and we were told everything is fine and normal, to keep trying.  So we did for another couple months and still nothing.  
When we returned to the IVF clinic we had the decision of IUI or IVF.
I felt IUI was best for me as it was less invasive and since there were no 'real problems' I thought that would be the best option.  My first IUI cycle failed and that was heart breaking.  Then I decided to give IUI another try and at the scan before the trigger shot, the cycle was cancelled as there were too many eggs, 16, and they couldn't take the risk, it was devasting to hear.  After waiting another couple months, we decided IVF was the next step.  The process went very well, with 1 frozen embryo as well.
We are now blessed with our gorgeous baby boy who was born on new years eve 2011.
Life is amazing with our little angel and we couldn't imagine it any other way.
Make the decision that you feel the most comfortable with.  The best of luck and I hope everything works out for you very soon.
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QUOTE (JadaChanel @ 15/09/2012, 09:50 PM)
Reading your story has touched my heart as we share a very similar story.
My husband and I did the honeymoon overseas in 2009 and I also stopped the pill once we got back to reality.
And that's when we realized that getting pregnant wasn't going to be as easy as it 'looked' for everyone else.
My periods had always been regular but once stopping the pill they only came every 3 months or so. I was on clomid for 6 months and nothing happened which was so disappointing. We then made the appointment at IVF Australia where we met with Prof Chapman. And this is where the journey began. We both did all the tests etc and we were told everything is fine and normal, to keep trying. So we did for another couple months and still nothing.
When we returned to the IVF clinic we had the decision of IUI or IVF.
I felt IUI was best for me as it was less invasive and since there were no 'real problems' I thought that would be the best option. My first IUI cycle failed and that was heart breaking. Then I decided to give IUI another try and at the scan before the trigger shot, the cycle was cancelled as there were too many eggs, 16, and they couldn't take the risk, it was devasting to hear. After waiting another couple months, we decided IVF was the next step. The process went very well, with 1 frozen embryo as well.
We are now blessed with our gorgeous baby boy who was born on new years eve 2011.
Life is amazing with our little angel and we couldn't imagine it any other way.
Make the decision that you feel the most comfortable with. The best of luck and I hope everything works out for you very soon.


Thank you so much for sharing with me, and for commenting on my blog.
It's nice to hear stories of Hope.
Congratulations on your little baby boy.... what a blessing!!
Can I ask.. did you fall on your first IVF cycle? How did you find it? ie. injections etc? Were you happy with IVF Australia?
Thank you again :-)
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MiracleBubba
Sep 19 2012 07:37 PM
Nik&J - I am new to the blog thing as well. (read mine to find out more about my situation)

I wish i had a positive story to add but unfortunately i dont. Although DH & I are probably no where near IVF stages just yet, i was bawling while reading your Blog.  cry1.gif cry1.gif

As you will read in my blog i am currently on Clomid & it does not look as thought its working. After numerous Appointments the GP im seeing is hopeless and todays appointment has left me just really emotional. I even said to DH - that we'll be the youngest couple to do IVF!! I dont think its that bad yet but gee it feels like it

I just wanted to say i empathise with your situation and although mine may not be as far developed as yours - I can see exactly where you're coming from and i know what kind of emotional rollercoaster you'r experiencing. It sucks to put it lightly.

I hope & pray that you & your DH will make the right decision leading to a very sticky BFP!!
Good Luck & keep us posted. xx
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QUOTE (Madline @ 19/09/2012, 07:37 PM)
Nik&J - I am new to the blog thing as well. (read mine to find out more about my situation)

I wish i had a positive story to add but unfortunately i dont. Although DH & I are probably no where near IVF stages just yet, i was bawling while reading your Blog. cry1.gif  cry1.gif

As you will read in my blog i am currently on Clomid & it does not look as thought its working. After numerous Appointments the GP im seeing is hopeless and todays appointment has left me just really emotional. I even said to DH - that we'll be the youngest couple to do IVF!! I dont think its that bad yet but gee it feels like it

I just wanted to say i empathise with your situation and although mine may not be as far developed as yours - I can see exactly where you're coming from and i know what kind of emotional rollercoaster you'r experiencing. It sucks to put it lightly.

I hope & pray that you & your DH will make the right decision leading to a very sticky BFP!!
Good Luck & keep us posted. xx


Hi Madline,
Thank you so much for your comment. I am so sorry to hear you are going through a rough time, i can completeloy understand the emotions you are going through at the moment. The early stages are probably the worst because you are still facing the fact that you are even in this situation let a lone having to deal with everything else that comes along with it. Keep hope... clomid does work for some people so you may not even have to venure down this path yet. I pray that's the case for you.
If you ever feel like you need to vent feel free to message me, or my email is nikki27t@optusnet.com.au
Praying that you get your BFP really soon too original.gif
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