I have never been so nervous carrying something (I know I don’t look nervous, but I was totally feeling it)… you know it’s not difficult to carry and you know it’s been designed to be safe, but there’s a small part of me that just thinks the worst. “What if I drop the baby capsule?” and “what if he falls out?” were just two of the silly thoughts I had in my mind. Silly now that I think about it, but totally legitimate thoughts at the time!
I checked and re-checked the safety harness to ensure it was secured before we left our room and headed downstairs to the patient discharge area. Jayden cried incessantly when I put him in the baby capsule and I felt so bad. I couldn’t wrap him to make him feel secure so I just had to soldier on. The moment I picked up the capsule and started walking though was magical… he stopped crying!
As we were heading to the lift we received our first “Oh he’s adorable!”. Two things I have to share here:
1. I was happy that little Jayden looked like a “he” as I know a lot of friends who tell me about their babies being consistently mistaken for the opposite sex.
2. It gave me a little tingle of satisfaction (and I’m sure it will continue) when we received those kind words about our son.
So I get to the car and I put Jayden into the baby capsule base and lock it in place and I check that the seatbelt is super secure (I should note that the night before I tightened and checked all the seatbelts and bolts to make sure they were as tight as they could be as well). He started to cry again and so I suggested that my wife sit in the back with him to make sure he’s as settled as can be especially because the baby capsule is rear-facing and there would be no way for us to see if he’s okay or not. Just like before, as soon as the car started moving… quiet. Pure bliss. The movement must be the most calming thing for newborns.
The drive home was probably the slowest and most cautious I have ever driven too… I am Asian and the way I drove home would probably fit the stereotype well. Haha. I gave way to everybody and didn’t enter traffic until there was a massive gap. If the lights turned amber, I slowed to a stop. I actually stopped for the full 3 seconds at STOP signs rather than casually roll over the line. You get the picture. I felt like Jayden was made of glass, so I did my best to ensure he wasn’t hurt. I hope this over-protective nature doesn’t go on for too much longer as it can’t be good for everyone.
We made it home in one piece and took a nice family shot at our front door. We were about set foot into a new chapter of our lives. One we would would take together as a family.
Once inside I popped the baby capsule onto the Bugaboo frame and wheeled Jayden around the house to give him the grand tour. He was tired, so we let him rest a little before his next feed.
I was so glad to be home with our new little family member and I couldn’t wait for all the other milestones which were to follow!
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