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Or thinking about it?

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#1 GlitterFeralFarts

Posted 16 July 2012 - 04:48 PM

Okay - this section is WAAAAAAY too quiet - where are you lot?? HEY?? biggrin.gif

So, in finding out if there are any of us left here in EB Land - who is planning on Home birthing? Or thinking about it?

Or am I the only one? HAHA

Well - I'll start the ball rolling - we are home birthing in Nov.  This will be our third child and second home birth!! :yay:
We have had no scans other than our first dating scan and I had just had a miscarriage at 9weeks a few weeks beforehand - and I mean a few weeks - I was waiting for my next cycle to start charting again - so we wanted to check that there were no complications. Everything looked fine!

Feeling like Death has taken up residence in my body though - BWAHAHA so feeling as normal as I do when pregnant - SO SO SO looking forward to this being over and done with!

I keep looking around for things to do - but at our third, we kinda have things as we need them. Our youngest is turning 3 in Sept and this new bubba will be due the week or so after our eldest birthday - all gonna be an exciting time, I'm thinking!!

Had the usual bullcrap already from friends and family rolleyes.gif laughing2.gif But I told them, if they are not willing to buy me a house, they have no say in how I live my life (Hey, it was worth a shot at a house LMAO!!)

So, any one else taking this journey this year? original.gif

#2 Feral_Pooks

Posted 16 July 2012 - 05:04 PM

I'm taking the journey of investigating it further because DP wants another baby in a couple of years, and I am considering home birth as a way to address one of my major concerns which has currently led me to feeling like not having another. I'm interested in the ins and outs of the process. I guess I've read a lot about what a home birth is like to actually do, but not about how to arrange one, what it's like in lead up etc. I know vaguely that there's some out of pocket expenses which is what ruled me out of investigating it further for my first baby, but I'm now happy to overcome that obstacle with time and planning on my side.

So if you ladies don't mind I'd love to stalk this thread original.gif

#3 GlitterFeralFarts

Posted 16 July 2012 - 05:12 PM

Welcome Pooks_!! hhugs.gif

I started off my home birthing journey with a traumatic hospital birth - I swore black and blue I was never having another ! laughing2.gif I even tried to convince my Dr to give me a hysterecomy!  Super glad he didn't!! biggrin.gif

Money can be a big thing - I have found that it tends to be a stumbling block for many want to be home birthers.

So this is the perfect time to work out if it is right for you! Best thing about home birthing, if you get to the end, and decide that you don't want it anymore - you can change - or vise versa!! biggrin.gif

My main expense is the outlay of the birth support or midwife - prices vary depending where you live and some midwives are happy to arrange payments other prefer upfront.   Always go with word of mouth recommendations as well as your own research IMO.

Feel free to ask any questions - remember, we were all in your shoes once, we know all about the questions that can pop up from the depths of our minds biggrin.gif

Edited by Freakypet, 16 July 2012 - 05:13 PM.

#4 Feral_Pooks

Posted 16 July 2012 - 05:16 PM

Thank you freakypet original.gif

By the way- congrats!

#5 leisamd

Posted 16 July 2012 - 05:22 PM

congrats freakypet and cherryames!  Hope it goes well!

I wish I was planning one for this time (#4 due in Feb) but our housing situation is not ideal and I can't make it work :'(  Unlike my other 3 this one came as a total surprise so of course worst possible timing for a HB!

Maybe next time?  Eek - maybe 4 is enough!  laughing2.gif

#6 GlitterFeralFarts

Posted 16 July 2012 - 05:24 PM

Oooh, fingers crossed  CherryAmes - are you nervous/excited/etc?

#7 GlitterFeralFarts

Posted 16 July 2012 - 05:26 PM

lol - we're thinking the same with just three liesamd!!

Thanks all - it has been a very hard journey to get here again, so hoping that everythng goes well!! biggrin.gif

#8 Oma Desala

Posted 16 July 2012 - 07:24 PM

We're planning a homebirth for December. After a few years of trying it's good to finally be pg - we'd pretty much gotten to the point where we thought it'd never happen. This will be our second child, first HB. DS is 6 and begging for a sibling.

Congratulations to all - looking forward to sharing this journey with likeminded people.

#9 leisamd

Posted 17 July 2012 - 08:12 AM

QUOTE (Freakypet @ 16/07/2012, 05:26 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
lol - we're thinking the same with just three liesamd!!

Thanks all - it has been a very hard journey to get here again, so hoping that everythng goes well!! biggrin.gif

Lol, I had the same panic about #3 too - and he was a much awaited planned pg...

Unfortunately we just sold our house and are in temporary housing with parents until we buy so far too chaotic to plan a HB this time!  Of course those surprising 2 little lines came up 2 weeks after we moved out...  rolleyes.gif

If you don't mind I'll hang around though, I'm planning to go with a caseload midwife so as similar as I can.  original.gif

#10 secret~sammy

Posted 18 July 2012 - 01:59 PM

I am planning a HB for my first in February next year.

At the moment I’m in a nice safe bubble because we haven’t told anyone about the pregnancy (let alone the birth plans) but DP is chomping at the bit to tell family next week after the 12 week scan so I assume it will all hit the fan then.

#11 deejie

Posted 18 July 2012 - 02:45 PM

I am not pregnant yet, or even TTC, but am stalking in here because when we do plan to have baby#3 barring catastrophe, he/she will be born at home.

QUOTE (secret~sammy @ 18/07/2012, 01:59 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
At the moment I’m in a nice safe bubble because we haven’t told anyone about the pregnancy (let alone the birth plans) but DP is chomping at the bit to tell family next week after the 12 week scan so I assume it will all hit the fan then.

I was very nervous when telling people about our home birth plans for DS2. I had support where I least expected it (my uber-conservative Mum!), so don't write everyone off automatically original.gif Some people have the common sense to ask the right questions instead of automatically passing judgement.

#12 meemee75

Posted 18 July 2012 - 10:21 PM

Nope..not me.

My family is complete with DS & DD but congratulations to everyone who is pregnant  and HB'ing ddance.gif

You've been away for a while Freakypet....welcome back!

#13 GlitterFeralFarts

Posted 19 July 2012 - 04:12 PM

Thanks Mee, good to be back.

Lurkers and commentators more than welcome biggrin.gif

I don't discuss it with most people anymore - over the need to 'explain' LOL

As we are free birthing, most people don't approve but I figure 'meh' they aren't living my life and I'm not living theirs, so peace dude! biggrin.gif

The one thing different I am doing this time is I ** WILL ** be getting some sort of birthing stool - I need something to hold on to.

Hubby keeps asking me what music I want - I keep telling him "Can you record silence?" BWAHAHA

Am in the midst of 'nesting' or reorgansing this dump of a house - moving bedrooms and offices and loungerooms - I think the only rooms that aren't being reorganised are the bathrooms and kitchen!! roll2.gif

I did discover that with my bad back, pregnant and feeling like crap, I can STILL manhandle a three seater couch from one end of our huge house to the other!  I RULE!! HA

#14 tick

Posted 19 July 2012 - 06:38 PM

I *was* planning one .... but she was born 3 weeks ago (at home, as planned).  


#15 Oma Desala

Posted 19 July 2012 - 06:54 PM

QUOTE (tick @ 19/07/2012, 06:38 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I *was* planning one .... but she was born 3 weeks ago (at home, as planned).  


Congratulations Tick, that's wonderful news!

#16 kristabelle01

Posted 19 July 2012 - 07:06 PM

Hiya original.gif

We are planning a home birth for our baby boy due at the end of October. This will be my first homebirth after 2 relatively uneventful hospital births. Im in Perth so have access  to the Community Midwifery homebirth program, Yay!  

I haven't received any negativity about homebirthing, just a few questions and quite a lot of support. A lot of people are clueless and have no idea about high risk/low risk, the roles and responsibilities of midwives etc. To be honest I keep things very simple it's no-ones business anyway wink.gif


#17 deejie

Posted 19 July 2012 - 09:11 PM

QUOTE (tick @ 19/07/2012, 06:38 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I *was* planning one .... but she was born 3 weeks ago (at home, as planned).  


Argh Tick, I didn't know! Congratulations  wub.gif Wonderful news! I hope you are enjoying all those new baby snuggles.

#18 GlitterFeralFarts

Posted 22 July 2012 - 09:47 PM

Awww, Congratulations Tick!!

kristabelle01 - welcome!! biggrin.gif

Well, I have discovered that you can apparently become allergic to stuff you normally aren't, when you are pregnant and that for me, that means my body punishes me for it after I get better! LOL!

I have been down with a nasty case of sinusitis (or however it is spelt) - ended up sleeping on the couch so that I would remain upright and not have my face feel like it was a tire stop for a semitrailer!

I am still nesting madly - only for the moment, that consists of ordering Hubby around! HA

Baby is kicking my BUTT - literally Tounge1.gif and the kids are loving it.

I have decided that I don't have nearly enough towels and so have started a mad hunt through the local op shops and garage sales.

How is everyone else progressing?

Edited by Freakypet, 22 July 2012 - 09:48 PM.

#19 peppersmum

Posted 30 July 2012 - 05:14 PM

Oh my congratulations freakypet, I had NO idea!!!!!  So excited for you!!!!!  (how can I not tell you are PG on pinterest????  Well unless you're having Dr Who's Baby or something!!!!!).

Not surprised you are freebirthing .... I will definitely be back in EB world in November to check for your news (was just popping in quickly to ask a photography question - my world is way too different now to the normal EB parenting sections so not an area I can be for general stuff anymore).

Anyway just had to pop in say CONGRATS!!!

(Oh and like mee-mee we are finished so no more HB's for me).

#20 GlitterFeralFarts

Posted 31 July 2012 - 07:08 PM

awww, thanks Peppersmum blush.gif If it's a Who bubba, it is definately 10's!!! HAHAHAHA  roll2.gif

I don't tend to pin bubba stuff - we have no need of anything LOL!!

I do want to say - loving your pins!!! biggrin.gif

How's everyone else traveling?

#21 Oma Desala

Posted 07 August 2012 - 08:01 AM

waves.gif hi everyone. It certainly has been quiet in here.
Well we've reached the 20 week mark. Still striking people (including family) that are questioning our choice to HB which is part of the reason for refraining from posting too much on EB at the moment. I know I shouldn't let it get to me but it's really hard at times. But enough of that...

How is everyone else going at the moment?

#22 GlitterFeralFarts

Posted 07 August 2012 - 05:09 PM

Hey Oma - yeah, we still get it as well - even though this is our second rolleyes.gif  I did meet a lovely elderly lady at my rummage sale today who had two of her three at home in England - she couldn't understand why people here don't like it - LOL

It just gets to a point where I actually roll my eyes and change the subject :heehee:

Cherry - I have no idea on the BFing as I can't BF, but it seems to be heaps of support out there, don't worry about asking biggrin.gif

I too am not doing much - I really should be getting my hypnostuff organised, but I think I am actually trying to ignore the end bit LMAO!!

We are at something like 25 (?) weeks - we are due somewhere in the beginning of Nov - still feel crappy most of the time, can't wait until I am no longer pregnant and have a new squishy to coo over biggrin.gif

#23 secret~sammy

Posted 07 August 2012 - 07:15 PM

Well, I'm 14 weeks along now - had a busy few weeks telling family and friends that we're expecting but I won't be telling work for a few more weeks so it's like a half-secret..

Pretty much everyone asked what hospital I was birthing at so my plan of not offering the information but not lying either goblownen out of the water pretty fast. No reallnegativeve comments about the HB but it'll be a few more weeks of no comments from my veropinionateded (and never, ever wrong  wink.gif ) mother and aunt before I'm sure they're not going to blow a fuse in my face.

I'm loving reading through all the birth stories those who htraveledlled this road before me have posted.

#24 leisamd

Posted 08 August 2012 - 04:09 PM

Glad to hear things are moving along nicely, Oma, Cherry & sammy!  Sorry you're still feeling sick FP, hope it eases up for you!

We lost our little one at 12 weeks unfortunately.  So if we get our number 4 one day maybe I will get to HB afterall.

#25 GlitterFeralFarts

Posted 10 August 2012 - 09:48 AM

I'm so sorry leisamd! {hug}

As a mum who lost my last one at 9.5weeks in Jan, I can sympathise. sad.gif

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