A layby as a baby shower registry
And what to include
, May 05 2012 02:16 AM
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Posted 05 May 2012 - 06:06 PM
Personally if you have lots of kids stuff, maybe ask for childrens books - that gives people lots of scope to get books from their childhood, board book, Mr Men book etc.
Oooh, that's a great idea! Do that, OP! And better yet, get your guests to write something in the inside cover of the book.
Posted 05 May 2012 - 06:09 PM
Would it be more polite to just add my mother or friend's phone number with a "Call X or Y with any questions" and let them suggest it if someone appears particularly stuck?
If your friends and family like the idea, then it's not a problem. If you're only inviting a small group of people and they're all an board with it, then go ahead.
Still not my style, but if it works for you, go for it.
Posted 05 May 2012 - 07:30 PM
I have no issue with Baby Showers for when people are expecting their first babies... but, I think I wouldn't even go if it was suggested to pay off someone's layby. TaCkY
It is so lovely picking gifts for babies or otherwise like a PP suggested ask for books - that would be a lovely way to start a litttle library!
Posted 05 May 2012 - 09:04 PM
Give your mum a list of items you'd like (or not) and put on the invite 'call [mum] with any questions'.
Then, on the day, when people hand you a lovingly wrapped present of something they thought was cute/useful enough to give you, take it and say 'thank you very much, you didn't have to' or simply, 'thankyou very much'.
When you open it say 'thank you, it's lovely' and look the person in the eye. You might be pleasantly surprised by what you receive.
It's not difficult to be a gracious present receiver and you'd best get used to it since I'm betting you'll be inundated with gifts at the shower, the baby's birth, the baby's first birthday etc etc, given that, as you said, he/she will be one of the first babies to arrive amongst your family and friends. In my experience people simply love to shop for babies. I know I do
Posted 05 May 2012 - 09:11 PM
To be honest OP I think it's a terrible idea. (I also think wedding registries are tacky, but I think this is worse.)
If you don't want a shower, don't have one.
Please, don't do it.
Posted 05 May 2012 - 09:17 PM
Sorry but I think it is rude to request friends/family to pay off her nursery furniture.
I didn't want a baby shower, the whole process made me uncomfortable & I too had already purchased almost all yje things needed. Instead my SIL organised a high tea for me & my close family & friends, there was no presents involved too so it was lovely.
I think your contradicting yourself. You say that your uncomfortable with having a party yet you want to have a $500 lay by for guests to pay off?
I agree, if you truely don't want one then don't & definitley don't expect to have your laybys paid for.
Posted 05 May 2012 - 09:34 PM
I really like the PP suggestion of books as gifts - a book registry would be a lovely idea. A child can never have too many books!
Posted 05 May 2012 - 09:47 PM
I don't like the idea of a layby. Seems pressured to me.
I don't know why so many people detest baby showers. Its mostly close family and friends who attend these things anyway and these people usually always buy the baby things when they are born. Don't know what the big deal is.
I didn't have a baby shower, didn't really care much for putting on a party type thing and having to entertain people. And it wouldn't have mattered if i did or not. The amount of things dd got when she was born was ridiculous. Most people like forking out money for babies.
Posted 05 May 2012 - 10:50 PM
I think it sounds pushy and rude OP. Sounds like you don't trust anyone to buy you anything and want to choose your own stuff instead and get everyone to pay for it. Offensive!
Posted 06 May 2012 - 12:44 AM
tacky tacky tacky!
Posted 06 May 2012 - 01:20 AM
Sorry, not keen on the idea, I love being able to tell my kids, "aunty x bought this for you before you were born" plus there are things you won't have thought of,
I bought my best friend a baby swing (fisher price battery style type) for her baby shower as my kids had almost lived in theirs, for almost 6 months that was the only way they could get their baby to sleep, she certainly didn't have one on her list of things to buy but she often told me afterward that on nights when bub just wouldn't sleep without going in the swing, she would thank god for friends that knew better than she did. With your idea, you would lose the personal side I think.
Posted 06 May 2012 - 11:40 AM
IMO, the best part about going to a baby shower is going shopping for tiny little baby gifts and then watching the mum-to-be open all the presents and have everyone ooh and ahh over them. Putting money onto a layby takes all the fun out of it!
Posted 06 May 2012 - 01:55 PM
Please don't do it, reeks of scabbiness. I did not have a baby shower for any of my children they are not my thing. I have attended baby showers some are a gift grab some are a lovely get together.
Posted 06 May 2012 - 02:07 PM
I hate baby showers with a vengeance - these days they are more of a gift grab.
However I will comment, putting on a layby is fraught with risks, what happens if you don't get near enough money for it? Then you have to stuff around adjusting what is on it and you may end up with things you don't want or even need. If the baby place doesn't do a gift registry then find a place that does.
I don't go to baby showers but if I was presented with an invite with a gift registry that is beyond RUDE. Not only are you going to hold an event for an up and coming birth but you expect your guests to shell out on items that you have chosen and there is that big expectation to do so.
Not only are you expecting presents but you are telling guests what to buy.
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