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DD wont sit down and enjoy

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#1 stella80

Posted 03 May 2012 - 01:05 PM

Seems silly to me to be posting this but I really want to go out with DD more to story time at the library but she just walks around and distracts all the other kids or, when we are at play group, she just walks off outside looking for play things. I have tried sitting with her on my lap and encouraging her to listen. We have stories at home and she will sit in my lap no prob. I have also tried just ignoring it and listening to the story myself hoping she would join in. No good either.

Please some suggestions. Is this just something she will get the hang of the more we go to story time?? I get so disheartened when I see all the  other good little children sitting quietly and having fun sad.gif

#2 Daisy Goat

Posted 03 May 2012 - 01:09 PM

She obviously doesn't  like it. My twins had no desire to listen to a story for more than about 30 seconds till halfway through their year at Kindergarten . So they were 4.5 years old.

Story time was just not something we ever did after a couple of failed attempts.

Don't get disheartened , just accept she doesn't want to and find a more active activity for her.

The same as some children won't leave their mothers side some children don't want to sit when there are better things to do

#3 babychacha

Posted 03 May 2012 - 01:13 PM

Think you will just have to accept that it doesn't interest her.

I was hoping my DS would enjoy story time at the library or similar such activities but its a big fat NO from him. Just doesn't do it for him. He also likes story time at home.

I remember when he was still crawling (maybe around 11 months old) and I took him to a gymboree type thing where they sit down for about 20 mins and listen/watch the teacher before heading off into the gym room. My DS just did laps of the room until it was time to go into the gym room. I would constantly go and get him and try to encourage him to stay put....it was really stressful as all the other kids were doing it.

I've since learnt that it is just not who he is.

#4 jeska~and~her~secret

Posted 03 May 2012 - 01:13 PM

My DD was the same as yours but worse - her favourite things were pulling books off the shelves, or trying to grab the books that the librarian was actually going to read to the children! ohmy.gif All of the other children seemed so calm and interactive and happy and I felt so frustrated she couldn't 'get' it.

I just decided we couldn't go to storytime. Instead, we go swimming, go to the park, arrange playdates and she goes to childcare twice a week. She interacted with other children a lot, and we read books to her at least three times a day. Maybe just give it a break OP, and go back a bit later? I am sorry I don't have any constructive advice, just letting you know (like PP) that not all kids are into storytime.

#5 Lyn29

Posted 03 May 2012 - 01:17 PM

Perhaps try taking her to the library for exploring, unstructured time with you. It is probably to interesting a place for her to not want to explore a bit - once the novelty wears off (if ever!) she might be happier to settle for a story.

And as the PP said, maybe she just doesn't find it interesting enough. At home she has your 1-1 attention and is probably a more active participant. Don't be at all concerned that she doesn't join in with groups at her very tender age. :-)

#6 chipsy

Posted 03 May 2012 - 01:18 PM

I would say give it a rest and try again in a few months, or as PPs have said try to find some activitites that she does engage in. Its no big deal. and I have never been to a story time whwre ALL the kids just sat and listened, at least a few were always distracted or being noisy. its pretty standard.

#7 Kitty Fantastico

Posted 03 May 2012 - 01:23 PM

It sounds like there are more interesting things to see at playgroup. My son's like this too. All the kids will sit there and listen while he tries to play with the toys. I usually try to sit away from things he can touch and at the back of the group so as not to distract anyone. Sitting at the back also means I can make a speedy exit if he gets too cranky.

eta: Sometimes I whisper in his ear and point to to book and say things like "can you see the frog?" to try and keep him still.

Edited by Kitty Fantastico, 03 May 2012 - 01:26 PM.

#8 Luci

Posted 03 May 2012 - 01:25 PM

I have two children and they have sometimes surprised me with not liking activities - ie we have been to various kid's activities over the years which I think will be great but some of them are a success and others they don't enjoy at all.

If you have taken your child to a certain activity several times and they don't engage with it, I am not sure if there is a lot you can do. It's hard to convince a toddler to join in and have fun.

I would look for another activity to try, and maybe give the story time another go in a few months.


#9 bubmakes3

Posted 03 May 2012 - 01:26 PM

My DS is more than happy to sit on the floor and listen to a story at day care but wont have a bar of it at playgroup or the library - not really sure why!

#10 Sweet like a lemon

Posted 03 May 2012 - 01:29 PM

She is having fun, just not having fun the way you want her to have fun. I think you should drop the expectations on how she should behave. She is only 19 months old, going by your sig.

Edited by ForsakenTruth, 03 May 2012 - 01:30 PM.

#11 *~*

Posted 03 May 2012 - 01:34 PM

Sounds fairly normal to me.  I work in a large library and during story time, some children will sit and listen, others will wander around.  I think it also depends on the library you go to - we are a large library and don't have a 'silence policy'.  The stories are often interactive as well - so the children aren't expected to just sit there.  

Perhaps once she is used to the library environment she won't be so compelled to wander around - it won't be so new to her so when it is time for the story she will be get used to focusing on the story and blocking the other stimuli out.  


#12 Flutter Bug

Posted 03 May 2012 - 01:38 PM

Hi there. I would say that she probably just isn't interested. How engaging is the story teller at the library? I've been to a few and some of them are great at getting and sustaining the attention of the children and others tend to be a little bit boring!

I used to take my DD1 ata similar age and all she wanted to do was climb up and down the stairs in the library for the whole time we were there! But at home she loves her books and wants to be read to all of the time and will sit with me for very long periods of time.

So if it were me I'd give it a rest for a few months, you could still go to the library and choose books together to take home. Their attention span at this age is still pretty low so I wouldn't be concerned that she isn't sitting and listening.

You might be better off going for a great walk together and talking about all of the things you see on the way and having a play at the park - this is what I did with my DD and we have the best time together!

Now at just over two years she loves story times at the bookshop and at the library and will sit for a good 30mins or more!

Edited by Flutter Bug, 03 May 2012 - 01:41 PM.

#13 Majeix

Posted 03 May 2012 - 01:39 PM

IMO it is not that unusual although it does feel like it is only your child. I wouldn't stop going. I would continue to go unless the child did not like it. I had children that did not sit still and they certianly hae not been the only ones I have seen although I hate teh feeling everyone else is sitting quietly adn yours isn't. I didn't let them be overly disruptive but I didn't expect quiet stillness either, I got involved in the rhymes, I  gave them some books of their own to read, I sat at the edge although where htey could clearly see and let them wander a little (not through the story time group though). If they disrupted the group we left. Eventually the older one got it(little one stiil little and hasn't been as often) and became one of the most enthusiastic participants and they have always loved books. They enjoyed it though just had not devloped the skills to sit quietly if they hated it I wouldn't have continued and it was difficult having a child that wouldn't sit through it. With playgroup thats a good option as it is only a small part of the progam (or it should be) and it won't matter if tehy don't stay for that bit they will get there eventually.

I also think that kids gym, parks and indoor play centres are great and provide a way to interact with other kids etc without trying to push them into sitting quietly through structurd acitivites beore they are ready for them .

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