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#1 wylie2007

Posted 01 May 2012 - 02:00 PM

My 13 month old corrected daughter has started to say the f word. I have been pretending not to notice so as not to encourage her by reacting but she is doing it alot and in context too, for instance she will fall over then get back up and say oooooooooo f****!!!!!! What can I do to get her to stop?

ETA- We don't swear around our kids but we are staying with my in laws at the moment (in the process of getting our own house) and they cant help but swear if say they drop something or hurt themselves.

#2 wylie2007

Posted 01 May 2012 - 02:37 PM

That's been my strategy so far, I hope it works, It makes me feel like a horrible mum having my baby running around swearing like a trooper, lol.

#3 Mamabug

Posted 01 May 2012 - 02:48 PM

I was quite upset to hear my 6, 5 and 3yo discussing which one was the 'rude finger' a few days ago.

I hate the stuff the older ones are picking up at school...I would be beside myself at what you are hearing.

Hope it does pass and you are in your own hme/environment sooner rather than later.

#4 Maybe this month

Posted 01 May 2012 - 07:54 PM

My 17 month old has come out with s*it a few times and the f bomb once.  We don't respond.  Just keep acting as normal.  To her, it is just another word and we hope she will lose interest if we don't make a big deal about it.  Could you speak to your family about trying to tone it down?  I swore a lot before child and manage quite well now to avoid it so if I can do it, it is definitely possible!  Of course you would probably need to approach it sensitively since you are staying with them but fingers crossed they will be good about it.  Good luck.  And don't stress too much.  It is another word and it will pass.

#5 TinMan

Posted 01 May 2012 - 08:01 PM

On the inside I'd be secretly proud that she was using the word in the right context in terms of her language development.

On the outside I would be ignoring it and redirecting her.

#6 SuboptimallyPooks

Posted 01 May 2012 - 08:02 PM

Swearing toddlers are so cute! Maybe teach them a new word for the context? My friens's almost 2 year old said 'codswallop' recently and it was almost fatally gorgeous. I choked laughing original.gif

#7 wylie2007

Posted 02 May 2012 - 07:10 AM

QUOTE (TinMan @ 01/05/2012, 08:01 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
On the inside I'd be secretly proud that she was using the word in the right context in terms of her language development.

On the outside I would be ignoring it and redirecting her.

Lol, I do love that she is starting to use words in context, just not that word  rolleyes.gif. She also tells people off if they are doing something she dislikes.... in fact she tells herself off if she is doing something she knows is naughty..... she puts her little finger up in front of her, gets a very serious face and says NO, lol its the cutest thing I've ever seen

#8 spottydog

Posted 02 May 2012 - 07:18 AM

I often change the word, if its not a nice one to a different one, my daughter then thinks the new funny word is the rude one, and i tell her not to say it and she repeats it.

I said omg recently and she thought it was funny, so i changed it to oh my goodness and she now thinks goodness is the word i dont want her to say.


#9 Kay1

Posted 02 May 2012 - 07:27 AM

Yep change the word with a casual correction and then when she uses it give a big reaction like "oh dear, what happened!" etc. Ds1 used to say "oh shock!!" when he dropped something. So cute.

#10 ChocolateTeapot

Posted 02 May 2012 - 07:29 AM

DD1 started saying the f word at about the same age, luckily for us it sounded almost exactly like the same as when she said quack lol.

She's trip over say fffffffff and we'd just go "wheres the duck?" "what do ducks say?" after a couple of weeks she seemed to forget about swearing.

#11 Mariamsmum

Posted 02 May 2012 - 07:36 AM

I did the same thing as chocolate teapot, I would say "truck?" where's the truck? what noise do trucks make?

He soon forgot original.gif

Now he is 5 and that doesn't work anymore!

#12 gabbigirl

Posted 02 May 2012 - 07:45 PM

I was watching my 3.5 yo get frustrated the other day, accompanied by a For F*s sake.  Oops, mental note to self.  They can hear you..always...

#13 eachschoolholidays

Posted 02 May 2012 - 07:52 PM

Are you sure she's not trying to say "truck"?  DD's childcare centre nearly had a heart attack until they worked that one out - I think she was about to be suspended for swearing  happy.gif

#14 wylie2007

Posted 03 May 2012 - 07:20 AM

No, its definitely the f word, She really emphasizes the fffff, lol.

#15 Emma600

Posted 03 May 2012 - 09:21 AM

We're pretty good at not swearing around our kids also but my DH once hit his head once really hard on the fridge door and let out a "For F...k's sake"
DD (2.5) copied it of course and although she didn't quite get the word right, it sounded more like "For far's sake" I was also a bit impressed that after only hearing it once she got both the context and the inntonation perfect.
Embarassing though I agree, I'm following your strategy also .... just ignore it and hope she forgets it. So far she's only said it at home so it's not really been a problem.

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