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Chrissie Swan: I was the other woman
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Posted 06 May 2012 - 10:54 AM
Given that Crissy has never worked in advertising,
let alone as a copy writer- I have read her resume its on line. And that she had a boyfriend at the time. I fail to understand how she thinks she is any less of a liar and a cheat than her one night stand! Its more than a bit rich- its cookies and cream milky way rich!
Posted 06 May 2012 - 11:23 AM
After pondering this for a while i think i would do a letter.
With as much detail (places, times kind of thing, not how we did it) as possible. Even copys of texts and emails.
I would include my contact details aswell if she wanted to contact me. Then its up to her what she decide to do.
Yes it may cause pain.
What's worse though, random kids from affairs rocking up at door one day, possible unknown sti's and all the issues involved there and being treated like a dumb@ss who dosen't know whats going on under their nose.
I'd rather know and deal with some shortterm pain
Posted 07 May 2012 - 07:05 PM
The story sounds like bullsh*t to me. Either it didn't happen at all, or she was knowingly the other woman but doesn't have the balls to confess to something actually newsworthy.
Posted 07 May 2012 - 08:25 PM
I'd leave them alone.
What is with all the newbies posting in this thread?
Edited by Space_kitty, 07 May 2012 - 08:26 PM.
Posted 08 May 2012 - 01:36 PM
I'd tell for sure. I've been the 'other woman' and told the partner as soon as I realised the story I'd been spun was completely untrue.
I've also been the wife who's been cheated on & I always contact the other woman - really doesn't get me anywhere but at least I know that she knows he is married and he's probably lying to her too !! and it makes me feel less of a fool.
Posted 09 May 2012 - 05:16 PM
For anyone arguing an 'open marriage' policy or not knowing what the married couple's situation is: if this were the case then why call yourself by a false name and hide who you are? The argument that it is not 'the other woman's' business is crazy if she's been manipulated too, and if it is not her business, is it not the business of the ignorant wife?
No. In this scenario the man was manipulative and abusive - sleeping around and keeping it from your family is dangerous - STI's transmission - impregnating other women - the wife deserves the information and what she does with it is her choice.
Any other advice assumes that the wife is the 'little woman' the man should remain in control of and a woman who needs shielding from the fact her husband is a complete 'you know what'.
I would want to know and I would not blame the "other" woman in this case.
Posted 10 May 2012 - 01:56 PM
Make the gutless cheating rat tell his wife himself. If not, then you should tell her, either anonymously or in person. (Whichever one you have the strength to do at the time) It would have been hard for you not to feel guilty, although as I’m sure you know now, you had nothing to feel guilty about.
In my experience, especially where children are involved, it is better to find out early as time is the only thing that will heal the cheated and the process needs to start sooner than later. Also the children need to come first (always) and be shielded from any petty squabbling and the inevitable blame game that follows.
Posted 12 May 2012 - 11:33 AM
I have been both women in this situation. With the same man believe it or not my ex BF of 4years cheated on me & my best Male friend told me in front of my ex so he had no chance to lie.
Then when I had left him a few years later & saw him again & then found out he was seeing someone else also. I made him tell her or I was going to.
He told her and she still came to me trying to get confirmation.
I didn't like her but that wasn't the point she deserved to know & he deserved to be punished for his behaviour.
Posted 12 May 2012 - 11:58 AM
I'd back away and not tell her. Why? I have no idea how she'd react. Their marriage is also none of my business.
Posted 16 May 2012 - 11:10 AM
Chrissie I am feeling your pain and love that you need closure to the point of stalking. ME TOO!! I worked for a very strict Catholic man, kids in very exclusive private schools, family was number one and religion number two in his life. I became good friends with his wife and also his PA. So good that we did the girly weekends in Daylesford...ho hum...Anyway, long story short, yep he was doing the PA. I resigned from my job, told the PA that she made me sick (she too was married) but was never able to explain to the wife why I left. After many sleepless nights, I decided that the wife should be told, however I also knew that she would not believe me. I had no photos, but had seen many a deleted email - dumb PA deleted but then didn't delete again. So now I see the wife at netball all the time, and she is currently consoling me as my husband has been having an affair with a friend of mine. Days of Our Lives?? Bold and the Beautiful?? SHAME, SHAME, SHAME
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