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#1 WinterIsComing

Posted 26 April 2012 - 12:30 PM

Hi all, we have a Baby Ergo and we don't like it. It is mostly DH who uses it and these are the reasons why he has come to hate it:

1. DS falls asleep in it pretty quickly, but in doing so, he presses his face right into DH's chest, his head completely enclosed by fabric. To be honest, this freaks us out - there is not much breathing space and we are worried about a sleeping accident/SIDS.

2. He feels unless he hunches his shoulders, he cannot give the baby space - whenever he straightens his back, he feels the baby gets squashed into him.

3. It feels like DS's legs have to be too wide apart.

DS is 3 months old and 7.5 kilos.

Would BabyBjorn solve the above issues? Which BabyBjorn would you recommend - classic or comfort? Or any other carrier?

Help!


(We will keep the Ergo for when he is older, then it should be good).

#2 B.feral3

Posted 26 April 2012 - 12:33 PM

Oh wow... of course all those things would be happening with bub. You need to be using a Heart to Heart infant insert with a bub that age/size. My second child was not able to sit in the Ergo without an insert until he was about 8 or 9 months.

#3 B.feral3

Posted 26 April 2012 - 12:35 PM

P.S... even though I have an Ergo with insert, I also love my Hug-A-Bub.

#4 WinterIsComing

Posted 26 April 2012 - 12:35 PM

I never got the insert as the instructions said that from 5.5 kilos, it was OK to use the Ergo without the insert...and DS was big from the beginning.

So you think the insert can fix those things? How much did your baby weigh when you stopped using it?

#5 Alacritous~Andy

Posted 26 April 2012 - 12:36 PM

I love my Ergo, but had the same issues when DS was that little. Definitely hang onto it.  DS is nearly two, and I still love mine.  I started using it regularly when he was about 9-10 months.

I have a different carrier, which was a hand-me-down one with no brand on it.  It is brilliant.  I suspect it might be homemade, though, so that's no help.

I think the best thing to do is to go to a baby shop and try out a whole bunch of different ones.  I borrowed a friend's baby bjorn one day and it was dreadful for my back/shoulders.

#6 RockyV

Posted 26 April 2012 - 12:40 PM

Also loved the Hug-A-Bub but unsure if this will solve your issues. Might be worth trying one on in a shop to see?

#7 FizzlingFireboxes

Posted 26 April 2012 - 12:41 PM

We had the baby bjorn when DS was born, I ended up buying an ergo. The baby bjorn has alot of weight on your shoulders, so that might be something for your DH to think about.

Also when DS would fall asleep in the bjorn his face would be on my chest as well, every now and again I would have to lift his head up as it was just a sweat pile against my chest, so the same thing would happen.

Go into stores and try different ones on. original.gif

#8 B.feral3

Posted 26 April 2012 - 12:41 PM

QUOTE (Nat1976 @ 26/04/2012, 12:35 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I never got the insert as the instructions said that from 5.5 kilos, it was OK to use the Ergo without the insert...and DS was big from the beginning.

So you think the insert can fix those things? How much did your baby weigh when you stopped using it?


I can't recall what my first child weighed when I stopped using it but my 3rd is 4 months now and 6.2kg. I tried him in the Ergo without an insert the other day and he is no where near ready. It felt dangerous. He has a long time I think before he rides without it.  original.gif

#9 Wyn99

Posted 26 April 2012 - 12:44 PM

You definitely need the infant insert for the Ergo. I used a Baby Bjorn until 5-6 months but then it started to hurt my back and shoulders, so I sold it. Hold on to your Ergo .. it will be fantastic when bubs is a little older (from about 9 mths up to 2 years at least). In the meantime .. mabye look at ebay for 2nd hand baby bjorns?

#10 treefalls

Posted 26 April 2012 - 12:46 PM

Hey OP. The Ergo can feel awkward with a smaller baby, for sure.... especially at first. I love mine though - I got the infant insert this time and I think it's magic! I think it would really help in your case. (You have to get the new style with the padded base). Otherwise you can use a rolled up hand towel (folded in half lengthways and rolled) to use as a bolster underneath bub's bottom and knees.

It is quite easy to get them in an awkward position and you need to get them in it and then reach inside and sort of jig them around  bit until their bottom is closer to your body and the head can lean back against the fabric more. You can also roll the top of the infant insert down to form a collar to support the back of their head. I've managed to put my baby in it correctly and incorrectly, so it's a pretty subtle thing... I really think trying again is a good idea before giving up!

I've got a Baby Bjorn as well, which is not bad if you can pick a cheap one up on eBay. I wouldn't recommend buying a new one at this point because your baby will be too heavy soon and they get quite uncomfortable. The Ergo is worth persisting with for the comfort and longevity. If you get the position right then their head will lean back into the fabric and you can hold it securely with the shade cover thingy that snap-fastens to the straps. the infant insert is only $35 I think and so it's a pretty cheap 'fix' if that's all you need.

Also, get on the Ergo website and watch the videos about how to get the baby in. They're tedious at first, but it does give you the tips about where there bum should be positioned etc. original.gif

#11 lactasticmama

Posted 26 April 2012 - 12:56 PM

The bjorn will be just as worse. I'd stick with the ergo & try the insert. Or try a sling of some sort. The Hug-a-bub is a good option.

Check these links out to help you decide original.gif

http://theecofriendlyfamily.com/2012/02/ba...ontent=FaceBook - I know you're not intending on carrying him FF now, but it has info on better hip placement in baby carriers

http://baby-carriers-downunder.com/selection_guide/

http://www.midnightmommy.com/2012/01/babyw...osition-is.html

HTH some how original.gif

Edited by PippityPip, 26 April 2012 - 12:56 PM.


#12 Bluenomi

Posted 26 April 2012 - 01:02 PM

I'm with you OP, I hate Ergos. I'd avoid the Hug a Bub as well, I found it horrible to use and it has the same face squashing thing as the Ergo. DD hated it, screamed her lungs out.

DD and I both love our Bubba Moe though. Best sling ever.

#13 dimensionk

Posted 26 April 2012 - 01:06 PM

Beco Baby Carrier Gemini

These are supposed to be great. I  think they're available on eBay.
http://www.amazon.com/Beco-Baby-Carrier-Ge.../dp/B003YE24EE/

You can have them facing either way, and can breastfeed pretty privately
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SCqbkvpwzyY

Edited by dimensionk, 26 April 2012 - 01:11 PM.


#14 muggins_00

Posted 26 April 2012 - 01:09 PM

You can fold up a wrap and squish it into the bottom of the Ergo before you put bub in. That will help boost them up a bit higher much like the insert would original.gif

#15 WinterIsComing

Posted 26 April 2012 - 01:27 PM

Thanks all, I will start with the insert, go to the store and try it out with our Ergo.

#16 findingada

Posted 26 April 2012 - 01:49 PM

I just thought I would mention another alternative ...

I made my own Hug-A-Bub style wrap when my babies were small. There is no sewing involved - all you need to do is buy a piece of cotton knit jersey about 1.5m wide and 4.6m long. Note that the fabric can shrink a lot when it is washed for the first time so don't cut anything to size until you wash it first. Cotton knit jersey does not need the edges sewn because it rolls up and hides the scissor cut. You can then learn how to tie it from large number of Hug-A-Bub or Moby Wrap videos available on YouTube. When travelling by car, I used to tie the warp on before we left the house and then just popped baby in it when I got out of the car. That was much easier than trying to tie it in public. I only used my home-made carrier the first 6 months and then moved on to the Ergo after that.

Oh and I second keeping the Ergo - I still use it for my 2 year old!

Edited by motherwrites, 26 April 2012 - 01:50 PM.


#17 lactasticmama

Posted 26 April 2012 - 01:55 PM

QUOTE (motherwrites @ 26/04/2012, 01:49 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I just thought I would mention another alternative ...

I made my own Hug-A-Bub style wrap when my babies were small. There is no sewing involved - all you need to do is buy a piece of cotton knit jersey about 1.5m wide and 4.6m long. Note that the fabric can shrink a lot when it is washed for the first time so don't cut anything to size until you wash it first. Cotton knit jersey does not need the edges sewn because it rolls up and hides the scissor cut. You can then learn how to tie it from large number of Hug-A-Bub or Moby Wrap videos available on YouTube. When travelling by car, I used to tie the warp on before we left the house and then just popped baby in it when I got out of the car. That was much easier than trying to tie it in public. I only used my home-made carrier the first 6 months and then moved on to the Ergo after that.

Oh and I second keeping the Ergo - I still use it for my 2 year old!


I did this too, much cheaper than buying one!

#18 meemee75

Posted 26 April 2012 - 01:58 PM

OP  - you can roll up a small hand towel and put it under his bum , sort of sitting on it with his legs froggied inside the Ergo.
Try that first before you buy the insert.
Babies are usually out of the insert by 5-6 months.

Don't get a Bjorn..they are crap.

You could try a moby or hug a bub if you don't mind learning how to wrap.
They are o sale here

http://www.nursingangel.com.au/categories/...rs/Wrap-Slings/


#19 Tesseract

Posted 26 April 2012 - 02:01 PM

Yep, homemade hug-a-bub style is great. I found with the hug-a-bub wrap I would gently turn DD's head to the side and tuck it under the shoulder piece...so her head was turned to the side for breathing. I would swap sides each usage.

Although I found wrapping it quite easy (after watching the videos and a few goes to practice), DH always needed me to wrap it on him lol. A 'Close' baby carrier is like a hug-a-bub but already wrapped and held with two rings, so same benefits but easier to put on maybe.

I had a second hand Baby Bjorn but hated it. Awful on my shoulders, no real support for DD. She dangled from the crotch and her head would lop to one side...not good!


#20 jules77

Posted 26 April 2012 - 02:03 PM

I had an infant insert and hated it, luckily I had borrowed it from a girlfriend !!

I ended up just using the ergo with my baby without it, but modified how he sat in it.

I didn't put his legs through the leg holes until he was around 4 months old, instead I popped him in the ergo in a crouching position - so with his knees up towards his chest.

I also used to position him so that his head was to one side, as opposed to facing me. This felt like he had more air!!

I'd try a makeshift insert, like PP have described, using a towel or blanket, before buying one, as your bub is nearing the end of the time when they are most useful.

Alternatively, maybe see if you can pick one up on ebay or gumtree.

#21 ~Jot~

Posted 26 April 2012 - 02:10 PM

Please don't buy a Baby Bjorn. Your baby's basically held up by their crotch and it's bad for their hips for their legs to be dangling like that, not to mention the pressure on your shoulders. The Ergo is much better for you and for baby.

As others have said though your baby is too young. I used a Calmawrap (same as Hug a bub) until my daughters were about 6 months, then switched to the Ergo. Motherwrites' suggestion of making one is a good one, my friend  bought some material and made 3 out of it for half the price of buying one, no sewing required! That said I bought my Calmawrap second hand, it had been used for 2 babies and I used it for my 2 as well, and it's still going strong. Love it!

#22 lactasticmama

Posted 26 April 2012 - 02:23 PM

QUOTE (~Jot~ @ 26/04/2012, 02:10 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Please don't buy a Baby Bjorn. Your baby's basically held up by their crotch and it's bad for their hips for their legs to be dangling like that, not to mention the pressure on your shoulders. The Ergo is much better for you and for baby.

I've heard them being referred to as 'crotch danglers', lol!

#23 Cranky Kitten

Posted 26 April 2012 - 06:31 PM

The other option is to look at carriers like the beco butterfly2 or Manduca - they have built in newborn inserts and are much more adjustable than the ergo (I have both an ergo and a beco and wear the beco way more often). I'd keep away from the crotch dangler style carrier, they're not good for your back or bub's hips. Plus once bub is a little older the back carry totally rocks!

#24 PreachersWife

Posted 28 April 2012 - 09:46 PM

Another option which isn't as popular here (yet?) is the Boba. They have just bought out a new version, G3 which is suitable for newborns with no insert.

I have a G2 (more for toddlers) that I bought specifically for traveling and it is fantastic. It's a SSC, like the ergo but has a much higher back. I can comfortably, or I could before I got pregnant, carry either my 2yo or 4yo.




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