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Posted 30 April 2012 - 02:33 PM
AFC - yep I have a scan booked in for 7 wks And after katem666's post, I've booked in with an OB at the 8 wk mark so we don't miss out.
As for telling people - I'll probably tell me parents soon since they were an excellent support during our m/c (and hopefully we don't need that sort of support this time around, fingers crossed) - but I have a feeling we'll wait as long as possible (probably when I start to show) for everyone else.
Are people planning to do a FB announcement? Reading those really hurt as a long-time TTCer so I'm thinking I won't say anything online.
Posted 30 April 2012 - 04:04 PM
Congrats to the newest bfp's
I rang and booked my ob today because he is super popular and I know he takes on less patients around Xmas/ny so he's not too busy! So very lucky to get in. He likes to do a 10 week scan so can't wait until then!
Imiss buttercup - i've already told my mum, sister and mums group, couldn't help myself! It's nice having their support in these early weeks.
Spitzmum - I know what you mean about fb announcements. I found that hard when TTC ds 1. I prob will do an announcement but not with a photo of the scan. Somehow that always seemed worse?
Aprilfoolschild - so this was your last cycle before trying donor eggs? Wow!
That's as far back as I have time for to reply to
AFM - I have that full on, absolute exhaustion happening. I could sleep anywhere anytime. Hard when running around after ds 12 months old Also everything smells super strong and I can't go near raw meat or my compost bin lol!
Rest up ladies
Posted 30 April 2012 - 04:24 PM
Peppymum- Yep and TBH we didn't have even the remotest expectation for it to work this month/cycle.
Miss Buttercup- Haven't told anyone yet. We're unsure who to tell & when. Am sure it's going to be a huge shock to alot of people especially to my parents. Virtually noone knew we were doing IVF or desparately TTC. Probably assumed we chose to be childless!!
DH's parents/family know about IVF since we had to supply a VERY valid reason for my inability to attend the parents 50th wedding anniversary o/s last year (was cycling). All DH family is o/s. We had last been back 12-13 years ago. They were fine since all doctors.
My family is all interstate & only brother knows as DH felt guilty having to tell his family & encouraged it. (DH had insisted on telling noone)
Posted 30 April 2012 - 05:21 PM
[/size]April Fool’s Child, I know I should try and thinkpositively, and you are right, you just take one step at a time, just have tokeep reminding myself of that! Congrats toyou BTW
Shirley Temple, is this your first baby? I have two children already (8 and nearly10. I can’t wait for the next 3 monthsto pass, that’s for sure. I’m seeing mydoc this Friday and I know she’ll definitely recommend I go for a dating scan,so I will. Besides, it will give us an opportunityto see the baby’s heartbeat, which always give me some relief! Best wishes to you!
Lovemylife, you are right, I need to enjoy the pregnancy asmuch as possible, and will certainly try my best! It’ s just that I’m nearly 40 and havingalready had a MC, I know that a full term, healthy baby is just that little bitmore challenging. That said, I knowheaps of people my age, and older, who have had perfect healthy babies, sofingers crossed again. I hope you andyour peanut do well, and good for you make the decisions that you have. Each to their own I say!
As for symptoms, the only ones I’m experiencing aretiredness from about lunch time-ish, but it’s not intolerable (yet!) and I’vebeen getting headaches most mornings, both which I’ve experienced in perviouspregnancies. My boobs aren’t sore, likeprevious pregnancies, but I’m only 5 weeks, so plenty of time yet! Oh, and like Spitzmum, I’ve been gettingfluttering very low down in my womb too. What is that? Just tissue andmuscle and stuff moving??
Hope you ladies all had a good weekend and sending EVERYONEhealthy, happy baby dust! xx
Posted 01 May 2012 - 08:10 AM
Rockyboyray - I think I was told once that the weird fluttering and stretchy feelings are the hormones starting to prepare your womb for the coming changes. Not sure if this is true or not!
Told my mum over the phone this morning - not sure she understood me as she's got the flu and is severely jet lagged after coming home from their annual trip to France, but she sounded happy at the news (if a bit delirious from whatever drugs she is on!)
Anyone got the heartburn yet? I seem to be getting it after every meal, regardless of whether it's a biscuit, a medium snack or a larger meal like dinner.
Posted 01 May 2012 - 09:12 AM
Good Morning Everyone!
AFC - As far as I understand with gender swaying, it works on the premise that male sperm are faster swimmers but die quicker, where as female sperm last longer. So if you want a boy, try to go as close to O as possible (so the boys get there first), whereas for girls, try a day or two before. But there is also an element of chance, so it doesn't always work out! Can't believe how crap your first GP was, glad you got a 2nd opinion!!
LoT - smells aren't too bad yet, but the tiredness is really kicking in!
Zarlias - I know how you feel, I hate getting told off, but surely it will be once and then they have to face you are pregnant and move on!
LovemyLife - Nice of your GP to be happy with your tests! Mine was with my first, but this one made me do a blood test, then come back for the rest of the tests, such a faff! Really hoping your placenta is in a good position this time, and you can have the VBAC you want! It would be rare to have 2 previa's in a row? i completely understand your desire to want a VBAC, and I'm sure the midwives will support that (just maybe not the Ob's!)
spitzmum -Congratulations! It has been a very tough journey for you and I'm so glad you got your BFP! Nice strong result! 3 Capricorns? interesting household!! I am planning to do a FB announcement around 12 weeks, only as we have moved interstate (for the 2nd time) and its our main communication method with family and friends back home. I do get a little bit of heartburn, hoping its not going to stick around, it was one of the symptoms i missed out on the last time around!
katem666 - Congratulations! Hopefully you can get into an OB. Good news, is that you are due at the beginning on the month, so they probably haven't taken a lot of bookings for January yet, but hoping they aren't all planning holidays! Agree with the out of pocket expenses, scary stuff! Is this your first bub?
MissButtercup - Congratulations! Glad it was a shorter TTC journey for you this time around! We have told close family (parents/siblings) and my best friend, so they are there for us in case it all goes wrong, will probably make the news public around 12 weeks?
peppymum - The tiredness is just compunded when you have a toddler! I know I was tired the first time around, but it was much easier to lay on the couch then!!
Rockyboy - Its my 2nd, my DS is 18mo. I'm just nervous and don't want to be too confident and jinx myself!! I was super confident with DS, and then had a bleed at 6wks and completely freaked. It was fine, obviously, but it scared me. I just want this baby soooo much! I'm hoping I will get to do a dating scan as well, I will feel loads better to see a heartbeat.
AFM - I got my official test results back yesterday! HcG 107 at 3wks6days. Am really not happy with the GP I am going to. We've just moved to NT from WA so it was my first experience with the local clinic. First time they made me do the blood test to confirm the pregnancy (last time round I did all the tests at once), and when I went back yesterday I have to do all the standard tests and go back in 1-2 weeks for the results and a referral to the OB!!! Talk about taking their sweet time! As I'm going private this time, I guess I'm just a bit impatient to get booked in - I will give the Ob's office a call today and talk to them about it.
I would also encourage everyone to book in with their Ob if going private ASAP. They usually have a quota for each month. We should all be lucky so far, as we are all due early in the month, so they shouldn't fill up just yet, but they may not be taking a lot of clients due to the time of year.
We have told our close friends and family, who were quite stunned and happy for us.
Ok better go, DS is making an artwork with his morning tea.
Edited by *ShirleyTemple*, 01 May 2012 - 09:14 AM.
Posted 01 May 2012 - 10:15 AM
How much are people putting aside for expenses (for those who are going private)? I haven't really started researching costs yet - I'm sure there have to be some threads on EB. I'd better start looking and preparing a budget
I figure after IVF at $7k a pop, the pregnancy costs shouldn't scare us too much
Posted 01 May 2012 - 11:15 AM
Spitzmum - I think it depends on the Ob and whether you have private health insurance or not. I know back in Perth it was around $2-$3k for a management fee, plus between $100-$200 per appt, plus scans (up to $300) etc. You get a rebate form medicare (not much) for some of the appts and scans. Then the hospital is covered by insurance, you just pay your gap/excess?
I'm a bit nervous about being up here in NT, as the only Dr's are at the one private hospital and they work together, so really they could charge whatever they like! Everything is quite a bit more expensive up here! Hoping its not too far outside the norm!
Posted 01 May 2012 - 11:52 AM
Just a quick one...
Spitzmum- I am wondering this too. If anyone can advise please do.
I did a rough calculation last night after my ob's details arrived in the post and think we'll be OOP about $4500 for him if no complications. But then there's scans, blood tests, hospital (depending on your fund cover), antenatal classes, and once admitted for the birth - any pathology & pharmacy bills incurred & gaps for the anaesthetist / assistant / paediatrician if end up with csection.
Have absolutely no idea what these are worth but sure don't want to fall short on the day.
We scrimped it for our last FET, so feeling a little depleted right now.
Posted 01 May 2012 - 03:34 PM
I've just started a spreadsheet and will go some research from the EB forums, the medicare rebate schedule and whatever else I can find. I'll post the results tomorrow
(Yay - my first night off in a week, I've been marking 1200 exam papers for my uni students since Friday - I'm a little bug-eyed!)
Posted 01 May 2012 - 11:03 PM
Well, congrats to Spitzmum, Katem666, and Miss Buttercup. Its nice to see this group filling up nicely!
Well, Im not sure about the cost of a private OB, but im sure if you ask around in other groups, there will be people willing to share their costs.
Im going public, so cant really help with any of that
So, Im seriously bloaty, or fat, or something. I feel huge. My poor DH has to put up with me turning sideways, and asking 'am i bigger' nearly everytime I see him.
Anyway, such a diplomat (or well trained), hes just been saying 'your imagining it, you cant be showing already', until today, where he said... 'yeah you are a bit bigger now'.
So now Im kinda freaking out, thinking im definitely having twins, lol lol!
And to all the gender swayers out there....im predicting a pink one for me. All the men in my husbands generation have only produced girls. Its pretty much a dead cert for us.
Posted 02 May 2012 - 08:02 AM
I'm still researching - but I found this on the NIB website which was quite helpful - a week by week guide to the sorts of costs that can be incurred
Posted 02 May 2012 - 02:29 PM
Congratulations to everyone on BFP
got my BFP on Friday, had doctors appt and bloods done on Monday very excited and scared at the same time EDD 4 January
Posted 02 May 2012 - 04:21 PM
I know what you mea about being scared and excited
Anyone planning to go the Baby Expo in Sydney in a few weeks time? OH is worried about being seen by someone we know while we're there I figure there will be thousands of people and the chances are pretty slim.
Posted 02 May 2012 - 04:23 PM
Hello All and welcome and grats to the newbies
I too am planning on going public, so am of no help regarding the costs of private. From my research, if anything goes wrong they send you to the public hospital here anyways, as they are set-up to manage high risk pregnancy more so than the smaller private ones. I did consider at one stage going private in a public hospital, but honestly can't see the value in it, especially after hearing stories of OBs going away, not getting there in time, or overbooking themselves and sending a proxy (all of which would p*ss me off had I paid 1000s for their services)
I hope we're all feeling well enough. I apologise in advance that it is highly unlikely that I'll ever be one of these lovely people who sit and do personals - unfortunately my brain just doesn't work that way - it runs in circles and gets way ahead of me.
It's very exciting to see so many people starting to show up in this DIG. In my last, I was due at the end of the month, so it was well and truly in full swing by the time I even knew what EB or a DIG were.
Is there anyone here who truly tried to swing their baby's gender? I have looked at it, as I am very confused as to how we caught the egg this month (Only BD twice, one 4 days before and one 4 days after O, assuming I had a 28 day cycle, which I can't assume as I haven't ever taken any notice of it). I think that DH must have phenomenal little tadpoles, as we have now fallen in the first month of trying twice. Let's just hope that we got it right this time.
I think that symptoms have started to kick in - namely a constant, slight, underlying nausea. Odd, as it didn't happen til week 7 last time, and it was terrible (part of the molar pregnancy apparently). I hope this time isn't so bad, but TBH, I would take feeling sick over the alternatives. Thinking I might go to Dr next week and ask for a scan in week 7/8. By then, if there's going to be a heartbeat, it should be there.
OK, mammoth post. Take care all, and uterine duct tape all round
Edited because I somehow hit "post" too early
Edited by Zarlias, 02 May 2012 - 04:34 PM.
Posted 02 May 2012 - 05:34 PM
Ok at best guess, I think it will be about $6k all up in Sydney with a doula. I suppose I'm just extra paranoid after a m/c and long term infertility,plus the public hospital that we'd be fed into doesn't have the best maternity reputation
No gender swaying here (because we used IVF)
I did give in to curiousity and check out some baby furniture websites during lunch today Way to early to think about that sort of stuff but I couldn't help myself Anyone else done something similar?
For those who are having their 1st (like hubs and I) - does anyone have any baby stuff yet? 2 yrs ago I bought a beautiful baby comb set, a onesie and a plaster handprint Christmas ornament kit while on holidays overseas - they've been sitting there waiting very patiently for bub
Posted 02 May 2012 - 09:59 PM
I haven't bought anything except for a copy of "What To Expect" that I found for $14.99 at Aldi a couple months ago.
I do find myself idly flicking through EBay to see what's around and how much it'll cost, but I pretend that I don't.
I'm thinking that maybe if we get to the halfway mark with all engines still firing, it'll be shopping frenzy time. I will be unstoppable (as will my Mum lol)
Edited by Zarlias, 02 May 2012 - 10:02 PM.
Posted 03 May 2012 - 09:04 AM
Welcome Buzz and congratulations on your positive.
Zarlias- I wouldn't worry about the personals, I'm sure I'll get to the stage where only reply to last 2 or 3.
It's good just to have an update from you on where you're at and what your thoughts / opinions are.
Spitzmum- Thanks for the link to NIB site. i've guestimated $6-7000 to be set aside which should also include a slush fund for unforeseen tests / events. However I am expecting to not spend all that.
LoveMyLife- I had to laugh at well trained your DH is. My DH just keeps asking when I'll start showing - I don't know whether he's excited or concerned at the prospect of me looking bigger!! I'm sure I will look huge though as I'm only 5'3'', so not much room for bub's other than out, out and even further out front.
I had contemplated the baby Expo in Melbourne recently & DH thought we were getting ahead of ourselves.... wouldn't you know it we ended up pregnant! I have to admit though I have collected lots of info off the net and EB over the last 18 months that I am interested in purchasing. My favourites is going to explode.
I too am checking out baby furniture online, so much to think about with the first & no friends / family to supply hand me downs. They've either passed them on or are still using them for second children.
What I am seriously thinking about now is how much needs to be done to our house b4 bubs arrives i.e. unfinished renovated room, etc which I decided to leave last year as didn't know when / if we'd need it; and a need to fit off our hydronic heating by next winter....panic is starting to set in. I'm wondering how long I will be physically capable of doing stuff.
Posted 03 May 2012 - 09:09 AM
Just wanted to pop in and introduce myself, I got my BFP yesterday and my due date is the 1st Jan (we're hoping it will be a few days late, or maybe even 1 day early so every NYE would double as a party lol! )
I'm only 5 weeks so am not booking in any appointments etc until I'm more confident it will stick - I know how morbid that must sound, but I've suffered a m/c in the past & don't want to get my hopes up & then have to go through that again Besides, it hasn't really sunk in yet!
TBH, I'm a little worried about how I'm going to handle a 3yro with ASD (who is HUGELY demanding of me), and a newborn, as I have no help. DH has told me I HAVE to sort out some sort of help within the next few months, so I've been looking into my options, but it's pretty hard to find what I'm looking for! Especially since we are new to the area. But still, I'm looking forward to having another, we find ways to cope don't we?
Congratulations to you all, and I hope we all have a boring, unevenful 8 months or so! Looking forward to getting to know you all!
Posted 03 May 2012 - 10:00 AM
Welcome RockTot and congrats on your BFP :)
AFC - I'm a shorty too! And quite slim - I'm looking forward to putting on a bit more bulk :)
I was also thinking about what needs to be done around the house. I was restoring my grandmother's rocking chair - I think I'll have to stop, I'm fairly sure that sanding off 50yr old varnish might not be something I should be breathing in. DH said he'll finish off the sanding and re-varnishing while I work on making the cushions.
Posted 03 May 2012 - 10:29 AM
I would recommend Baby Love by Robin Barker for the first-time Mummies out there. And if you can all hold out until the stocktake sales to buy your baby goods, you'll save a lot of mulah. The stores also have baby weeks (usually arounf Sept/Oct) where a heap of stuff is discounted. Make your selections and write a list for the big items. Take it to Baby Bunting or Mothercare and you'll get a good discount. Otherwise take note of the catelogues now and check out the price reductions through the year. Don't pay more!! There is another expo in early Ocober at Jeff's Shed for Melbournians. This is the better expo, and its free to enter, just need to print the voucher or get it from sponsors (Baby Bunting, pumpkin patch etc) You can even get them to send you vouchers.
I love shopping for baby!! hehehe.
I just had my bloods confirmed. A really low number (66) but I think I was only 10DPO when I had it done last Friday. AF is due tmr, but there is no sign, so I'm certainly up the duff. I don't want to be pessimistic. My last pregnancy was terrible. I have high hopes of an easier one!! I've already booked my OB, because I'm scared about everyone being away during xmas/NY.
Stay well, everyone.
Posted 03 May 2012 - 11:59 AM
Hi all, not much to say but just wanted to keep in the loop. It's so nice to read everyone's posts and hear what you're all thinking. Funny how lots of us try not to get carried away early on with planning for baby's arrival. I'm definitely trying not to, in light of previous MC, but having had two great pregnancies, hopefully all will go to plan and I can also start getting carried away with you all! Hehe! I have started thinking about the house though....we have 3 rooms, my daughter has the biggest, and I don't want her sharing with her brother (a bit too old for that now), so I'm thinking she will have to move in to the back room (our room), as there's more room in her current room for our queen size bed and the baby's cot and change table. I'm one of those mums who doesn't rest easy or go back to sleep easily when I hear my baby stir, but I'm hoping I can teach myself to be more relaxed as there's nowhere else for the baby to go!! Here's hoping. Oh, some great news, my DP proposed y'day and I very happily accepted! This will be my 2nd marriage, 2 children to my XH, so it's a very exciting time for us. Have a great day all and hope you and your peanuts continue to flourish xx
Posted 03 May 2012 - 07:27 PM
Wow it's wonderful to see soo many BFP. Congrats everyone.
Would love to hear what number pregnancy this will be for everyone. This is pregnancy #4 for us but unfortantely i miscarried one in 2008.
We aren't making any chances to our house for bubs as we're trying to sell so we can build... fingers crossed it will sell soon.
Posted 03 May 2012 - 11:58 PM
Scared to jinx anything but And hoping I can stick around. It's midnight and despite being sooo tired I can't sleep!
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