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#1 minidiamond

Posted 25 April 2012 - 04:31 PM

I would like to have some kind of celebration of our impending arrival but the idea of a bunch of women sitting around talking about babies/playing games and oohing and ahhing after each bunny rug is opened,  doesn't hold a great deal of appeal to me. I completely appreciate that it's really nice idea for some but just not my cup of tea; I'm not really a girly-girl.

So I want to have a gathering of our friends, anyone done any alternatives ? I have read of 'Blessingway' but it's a little too earthy for me.  Of course we could have just a baby welcome party but if anyone has heard of any other names for gatherings, or has bright ideas it would be appreciated !

A BBQ might be a bit tricky as it'll be cold, maybe a champagne brunch ??   Our place is probably a bit too small as well, so might have to be an alternative venue.  We are in Sydney.

Any suggestions appreciated !

Edited by Liltuss, 25 April 2012 - 04:36 PM.


#2 Lainskii

Posted 25 April 2012 - 06:22 PM

I had a high tea for mine as the 'baby shower' that was planned didn't happen due to dd being born 8 weeks early.

It was a really nice break from the hospital trips and a great way to catch up and relax. There was some ohhing and ahhing over presents I received though, but you could specify 'no presents' if you really don't want any.



#3 autumn sun

Posted 25 April 2012 - 06:41 PM

You could call it a Baby Blessing - people might still refer to it as a baby shower as that is just the usual term. I can't think of venue ideas unless you have a relative or friend who is happy to host.

You don't have to play games - some yummy food and a chance to chat is great. People do like to see you open the presents though.

Do you want baby presents or are you all set? Otherwise you could have a children's book theme party and ask people to bring a book for your child's library. I love kids books - so I wish I'd done that! (Though the baby stuff was handy too)

It doesn't have to be an all-girl affair either - guys can welcome your little baby-on-way too.

Have fun!

#4 autumn sun

Posted 25 April 2012 - 06:44 PM

Did you know you can hire parts of the Darling Harbour aquarium or the Australian Museum (skeleton room! how stupendous would that be!) for parties.  The National Parks hire out islands in Sydney Harbour for the day. Depends on your budget! I'd love to hire an island for a day!

#5 roses99

Posted 25 April 2012 - 06:48 PM

My gorgeous work colleague threw me a lovely champagne afternoon tea on her stunning back deck.

It was wonderful.

There were no games. Just a group of friends sitting around sipping champagne (except me - non alcoholic) and chatting.

I don't think you have to call it anything. Or even if you call it a baby shower, it doesn't have to be a traditional baby shower in terms of having silly games etc.

#6 whatnamenow

Posted 25 April 2012 - 06:52 PM

What about a spa morning with a few close friends?

I can imagine as i get bigger the idea of a pedicure would be pretty good ( dont imagine i could manage to reach my own feet by then. )

I am in no way a girly girl just trying to be practical that by then my feet might need a little TLC.
Would be alot less the traditional baby shower just alot of girls together gossiping..

#7 minidiamond

Posted 25 April 2012 - 07:04 PM

Thanks for the suggestions- just to be a bit clearer, I'd like men & women.  I'm not into a 'girly' gossip thing (ie generally turns into baby/kid chat & I have a few single friends so don't want them feeling like I used to at baby showers !)  so the spa, high tea etc might not suit the men so much.

Autumn sun, I read about baby blessing (similar to blessingway which has the native american tradition) but I also want to avoid religious overtones.

I know I sound like I'm being fussy so sorry if it seems I'm 'rejecting' some of the suggestions !!

I would love to hire somewhere, just not sure we have the budget - and yes, I do need a few baby things, but it's not imperative, we can afford to buy our own !

#8 CubaLulu

Posted 25 April 2012 - 07:20 PM

Why not just book a restaurant for a lunch or dinner with a group of close friends? Instead of gifts everyone can just pay their own way (you can often arrange a banquet deal for a large group with a fixed price per person)...

#9 Mrs_Princess

Posted 25 April 2012 - 08:08 PM

You could have a BBQ or Picnic with heaps of delicious food, pretty blankets and everyone BYO's a chair and have it somewhere really nice or meaningful to you or your DH.

You could go on a boat that is hired out for functions either for lunch or pretty night time dinner cruise.

I wouldnt call it anything, just invite people to help you celebrate the fact you will be having a new baby soon original.gif Im sure you could find some nice wording on google.

#10 Guest_Retro_Mumma_*

Posted 09 May 2012 - 07:32 PM

Im going to do a high tea, ive got a friend who does candy buffets with lollies, chocolates, maccaroons, flowers etc and ill let her do her magic and just have the girls over. No pressies or games just to show everyone the nursery and catch up.

Or maybe a BBQ with kids and partners, im not sure yet.

#11 Kitty Fantastico

Posted 09 May 2012 - 07:46 PM

QUOTE (Liltuss @ 25/04/2012, 08:04 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Thanks for the suggestions- just to be a bit clearer, I'd like men & women. I'm not into a 'girly' gossip thing (ie generally turns into baby/kid chat & I have a few single friends so don't want them feeling like I used to at baby showers !) so the spa, high tea etc might not suit the men so much.


Since what you're suggesting is nothing like a baby shower, I would just do away with the name and call it a "pre-baby get together" with your friends, a final catch up before the craziness of parenthood begins. I'm not in Sydney, but you could just go out to lunch or dinner at a nice restaurant, or even a pub if that's your scene.

#12 marnie27

Posted 09 May 2012 - 08:31 PM

We had a "baby warming" a few weeks before DS was born.

It was basically an afternoon tea, mainly adults but a few children as well, where we thanked everyone for their support over our 4 year, very difficult, fertility journey.  Our DS's godmother made a speech which was just gorgeous and we all lazed about enjoying a gorgeous sunny afternoon with our friends because we knew life was about to change.

We specified no presents and didn't play any games about from asking everyone to fill in a little card guessing baby's gender, weight, length, arrival date and name (as we didn't find out gender and didn't tell anyone our name choices).

It was perfect.

#13 MayaAvenues

Posted 17 August 2012 - 12:05 AM

In my opinion, a baby shower is just some of you hanging out and talking and having fun with your friends and family, before the hectic lifestyle begins. it doesnt mean it needs to over the top.

Im planning a friend's baby shower and she's very laid back so thats the plan, and these are the invites I picked out and had customised biggrin.gif


Yellow Baby Shower Invites

What do you think?

Source: http://www.impressiveinvitations.com.au/ba...invitation.html

#14 niggles

Posted 17 August 2012 - 12:18 AM

That looks like a traditonal baby shower invite and so the exact opposite of what is being asked for PP.

I'd just have friends around for 'pre baby drinks' or 'one last hooray.' If you want it to have a slightly celebratory feel then serve cake. I think that'd do the trick. Without a formal invite people won't feel obliged to bring a gift but if anyone wants to they probably realise it's a good enough time to do it.

#15 smultron

Posted 17 August 2012 - 10:30 AM

As PP said : pre-baby drinks or the last hurrah! Love the sound of that.. You could call it a pre-baby brunch or whatever you want- ppl will get the gist and those who want to will bring a gift, some won't so it is likely to be more casual and really just a celebratory get-together of your friends, male and female.

if you want to steer away from a booze-up which might end up being in a pub, then perhaps see if there is a local cafe that has a room separate from the rest that you could have your gathering in..? Many smaller venues are happy to be a bit more flexible than a proper function venue so you can get more atmosphere, great food without a huge hiring fee.  We have a wine bar near us that allows people to BYO food which is great- they have a room at the back that people can use for private functions as long as they buy some wine/beer of course.  Other cafes near us I can think of are happy to get their money by providing platters of food/ tapas etc if there is a gathering..

i lovee the idea of a champagne brunch or afternoon tea. You could do a brunch easily at home with some quiches, croissants, fruit platter.. or do bacon and egg rolls on the bbq to feed the masses! With some pastries and fruit platter for afterwards. Bubbles- alcoholic and non-alcoholic and tea/coffee- EASY!

#16 Futureself

Posted 17 August 2012 - 12:19 PM

I was thrown a Sunday Brunch in a marque on the golf course. Heaps of fabulous food, circulating champagne and juices, some men came, there was wine - it was just a get together of people in honour of the baby really. Everyone bought gifts but I didn't open them there, I've always found it odd and uncomfortable when people do that. There was one game - a trivia game of Nursery rhymes, children's characters and books etc in teams that broke the ice, everyone enjoyed immensely, and people got uber competitive whilst playing. And it was won by some of the menfolk  wink.gif

I've also thrown a friend a "Baby storm" that was just a BBQ on a Sunday afternoon, mixed genders, decorations, people bought gifts but again they weren't opened and oohed and ahhed over.

So really, you can do whatever you want, call it what you want and have a lovely time being surrounded by people who care for you and your baby and want to celebrate.

#17 MuppetGirl

Posted 17 August 2012 - 12:24 PM

When I was pregnant with DS my closest friends, my mum and my MiL all went out for a nice lunch.

Was more personal, no games and no gifts. Was a fabulous celebration original.gif




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