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Is this a slippery slope?????


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#1 ABabyPlease

Posted 25 April 2012 - 10:13 AM

Hi, my 7mo baby does not sleep in our bed and I would like to keep it this way.  Sometimes in the morning - when it is light outside - we bring him into our bed for cuddles to delay me getting straight out of bed.

In the long term, I don't mind cuddles in the morning as he gets older, but is letting him getting used to cuddles in the morning the beginning of him wanting to sleep in our bed?

Thanks
BTW - I have no objection or judgement to those of you who have babies sleep in our bed - it's just not for me.

#2 EsmeLennox

Posted 25 April 2012 - 10:17 AM

I think one of e great things about being a kid is cuddles in bed in the morning with your parents, and I very much doubt that if you have a regular bedtime routine that it will lead to him wanting to sleep in your bed all the time.

#3 Feral-as-Meggs

Posted 25 April 2012 - 10:18 AM

I hope not, cos we do this too.

I will say good morning, open the blinds and show him the morning,  change his nappy before hopping back in my bed.  Hope he gets the right idea.

#4 seaside_feral

Posted 25 April 2012 - 10:19 AM

I do not have children of my own yet, but cuddles in the morning is one of the things I am looking forward to most about having a baby!  Such a special time I can only imagine.

Your baby is 7 months and already seems established in sleeping in his own room, this may or may not change as he grows older as kids go through different phases with these things, but I would not stop those morning cuddles out of fear he will want to sleep in your bed!  As he gets older I suppose you can "rationalise" with him a bit more - you go to bed in your bed, and come in to mummy's bed in the morning.  

I'm sure others will have much better advice.  


#5 Becstarinator

Posted 25 April 2012 - 10:20 AM

My 4 year old DS has always slept in his own bed but comes for cuddles in the morning.  I welcome the extra 10/15 minutes in bed, especially on the weekends.

It doesn't happen everyday.  Like this morning he came into our room but wanted breakfast so no cuddles.

#6 happygurl06

Posted 25 April 2012 - 10:30 AM

Enjoy every minute of it!

#7 Roobear

Posted 25 April 2012 - 10:30 AM

DD is 15 months and has been cuddling in our bed in the mornings since she came home from hospital. She has always slept and seemed to prefer sleeping in her cot so no preference to our bed at all.

#8 my serenity

Posted 25 April 2012 - 10:41 AM

QUOTE (Roobear @ 25/04/2012, 10:30 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
DD is 15 months and has been cuddling in our bed in the mornings since she came home from hospital. She has always slept and seemed to prefer sleeping in her cot so no preference to our bed at all.

This and at 6 she still sleeps in her bed all night and comes in for cuddles in the morning often resulting in more sleep on a weekend original.gif

#9 podg

Posted 25 April 2012 - 10:42 AM

I'd welcome it. He (and any future kids) is a loved and welcome member of your family, and the parental bed is a warm, affectionate, safe place. I love my morning snuggles with one, two or three of my children (whoever gets up first tends to come and crawl in with me, report on their sleep and chat about the day) and remember how nice my own parents bed used to be.

It doesn't have to mean he spends more and more time in your bed.

(and when he is older and morning snuggles with DH are in order instead/after kid snuggles... there's breakfast and TV)

#10 JustBeige

Posted 25 April 2012 - 10:45 AM

I'm a 'everyone sleeps in their own beds' person.   We used to have everyone pile into bed with us in the mornings. lol, they still do it at 11 and 12.

We did have requests for them to sleep in our bed, but we just explained that their beds were for sleeping and our beds were for daytime cuddling.

Enjoy it for what it is original.gif

#11 Rach42

Posted 25 April 2012 - 10:47 AM

Nope not a slippery slope at all.  I often slept with my babys in bed with me towards the morning as I'd bf them and then we'd both fall back to sleep.  I never had them sleep in our bed all night though.  I think alot of parents miss out on some gorgeous moments with their babies because they are worried that they are going to create a rod for their back later (or whatever that expression is).

If at some point your baby does want to sleep in your bed (which will quite possibly happen if you have cuddles in bed in the morning or not) you just say no.

#12 BornToLove

Posted 25 April 2012 - 02:19 PM

We have been doing it with DD since the beginning and it's never been an issue. She will sometimes go back to sleep for upto an hour, but for her night sleep unless she's sick she prefers her space (we let her cosleep when she's sick, never a problem getting her back on her own).

#13 HRH Countrymel

Posted 25 April 2012 - 02:24 PM

I thought morning cuddles were why people had babies?



#14 Lokum

Posted 25 April 2012 - 11:50 PM

QUOTE (countrymel @ 25/04/2012, 02:24 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I thought morning cuddles were why people had babies?


Yep.

DS will even go to our made bed later in the day and have a roll around on it for fun. I may go and have a wrestle with him too cool.gif  

I'm so glad his parents' bed is a happy, safe place for him to go.

Admittedly, he does sleep there from about 4 am to 6:30am each day, and is in his cot the rest of the night, and for day sleeps.

#15 Wolf_cubs

Posted 26 April 2012 - 12:01 AM

I have teens...not many cuddles at all anymore. Enjoy them while they are plentiful!  original.gif

Edited by jedimaster, 26 April 2012 - 12:01 AM.


#16 Lisy-lis

Posted 26 April 2012 - 12:04 AM

6:30 every morning sees our baby in bed for cuddles with us.   Daddy especially loves these, she's all warm and snuggly and gorgeous.



#17 CallMeFeral

Posted 26 April 2012 - 01:15 AM

I think that most things kids do early on (in the first few years) can be retrained with some effort, so there's no point missing out on experiences just due to 'rod for your back' sort of fears.
In my case, I LOOOOOOVE that the kids come to my bed at about 2 in the morning and have never discouraged it - and now at ages 2 and 3 they have started staying in their rooms all night and I'm devastated! laughing2.gif

Morning cuddles are one of my greatest joys in life.

#18 All-New

Posted 26 April 2012 - 01:27 AM

Like most people have said enjoy it.

I have never let DD1 sleep in our bed and as a result I get the "get up mummy, get up" ME:"Hop into mummy's bed for a cuddle".... "NO GET UP MUMMY GET UP!" as she yanks the doona off me.

Not nice at 6am!

#19 PreachersWife

Posted 26 April 2012 - 03:41 PM

QUOTE (Becstarinator @ 25/04/2012, 10:20 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
My 4 year old DS has always slept in his own bed but comes for cuddles in the morning.  I welcome the extra 10/15 minutes in bed, especially on the weekends.

It doesn't happen everyday.  Like this morning he came into our room but wanted breakfast so no cuddles.


This sounds liKe our house, except the four year old would stay there all day! It's the two year old that is out raiding the pantry if he wakes hungry!

If its early (before 7am) I'll put ABCKids on the tv in our room and we snuggle until its time to get up. I NEED about 10mins of being awake before I can get out of bed. Miss Four loves to rub my (pregnant) belly and say hello to the baby, she tells me about her sleep and asks what we are going to do that day.

It's a lovely time of the day!

Edited by PreachersWife, 26 April 2012 - 03:42 PM.


#20 Majeix

Posted 26 April 2012 - 03:48 PM

QUOTE (ABabyPlease @ 25/04/2012, 10:13 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Hi, my 7mo baby does not sleep in our bed and I would like to keep it this way.  Sometimes in the morning - when it is light outside - we bring him into our bed for cuddles to delay me getting straight out of bed.

In the long term, I don't mind cuddles in the morning as he gets older, but is letting him getting used to cuddles in the morning the beginning of him wanting to sleep in our bed?

Thanks
BTW - I have no objection or judgement to those of you who have babies sleep in our bed - it's just not for me.



IMO all you are doing is setting up the pattern of cuddles in Mummy and Daddy's bed in the morning. original.gif Your not settling him there, or bringing him in to sleep in the night, or sometimes putting him in there instead of in his own bed. As long as you don't do those things (which I do but we co-sleep so it didn't bother us) you should be able to continue with just cuddles. Many people have their children join them in their bed but don't co-sleep. original.gif

#21 Natttmumm

Posted 27 April 2012 - 11:36 AM

Enjoy it while it lasts. MIne are 2 and 4 now and jump out of bed and want to go to the lounge room straight away. On the odd occasion they jump in we love it.

Wish I had done it more when they were tiny but I worried like you are.

#22 ABabyPlease

Posted 27 April 2012 - 12:06 PM

Ok great - thanks everyone.
Morning cuddles for us!  Yippee!!!!!

#23 miss*k

Posted 27 April 2012 - 05:43 PM

Oh we ALWAYS did this with DD. She was an early riser so she hopped in to bed with us in the morning, mainly so I could shower and get ready for work she would jump in next to DH.

I LOVE the cuddles in bed. DD comes in every morning for a cuddle, she sleeps all night no probs so hasn't done any wrong us.




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