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#26 libbylu

Posted 24 April 2012 - 10:16 AM



1. Did you have some form of employment before having your children? Whether that be; full time, part time etc. Full time employment.

2. Were you required to take time off work due to the arrival of your child/ren E.g. Maternity leave or having to resign.  My contract ended while on leave. I chose to take maternity leave as I couldn't have done my job and cared for a baby at the same time. I wanted to spend some time at home with my new baby to give him the best possible start.

3. Did you experience a drop in income during this leave? How did this affect your family?  Our income dropped substantially and we relied on savings.  It was a bit stressful going backwards and we had to live very frugally.

4. At what age do you think it is appropriate to leave your child in care and go back to work? I went back to work part time when DS was 6 months. He was cared for by my mother one day per week and my husband one day per week, which I considered to be good for him in terms of bonding with these family members, and was very convenient for me. He went into childcare at 18months.  I wouldn't put a child under 10-12 months in childcare.  If I didn't have the family option I would have lived in poverty and waited til he was 12 months before I put him into formal care.

5. What type of care did your child/ren receive if/when you went back to work? E.g. Daycare, preschool or relative care.  At first relative care from 6 months, then at 18 months, childcare centre plus relative care.

6. Do you find it difficult to balance family life and career life? If you could provide specific examples? Yes, I always feel like I should be spending more time at work, but I feel like I should be spending more time with DS.  It is difficult on a daily basis.

7. Do you feel your personal time was/is affected how so?  Absolutely.  You put yourself last and don't get much 'me' time.  There just isn't any left.



#27 Hypnic Jerk

Posted 24 April 2012 - 11:02 AM

If you want to of course.  

1. Did you have some form of employment before having your children? Whether that be; full time, part time etc.

Full time

2. Were you required to take time off work due to the arrival of your child/ren E.g. Maternity leave or having to resign

3mths paid mat leave.  I resigned because I wanted to work part time under different conditions which weren't agreed to.  My son still wasn't sleeping and my job involved driving up to 1.5 hrs to cover the area.  I sought a Change in role that I could do from a desk.  I regret not taking the matter further, but I was too spaced out from lack of sleep that I didn't have my wits about me.

3. Did you experience a drop in income during this leave? How did this affect your family?

We did ok, we reduced the frivolous expenses and reduced mortgage payments.  Also a step child became older and more independent.

4. At what age do you think it is appropriate to leave your child in care and go back to work?

I won't judge for other people.  I would have preferred PT work that was half days rather than full days only.  This doesn't seem to be readily available.

5. What type of care did your child/ren receive if/when you went back to work? E.g. Daycare, preschool or relative care

Daycare.  Initially it was 'occasional care'.  Dd now does full days cc.

6. Do you find it difficult to balance family life and career life? If you could provide specific examples?

Extraordinary!  DS has a disability.  The 1st few years were taken up with therapy appointments and juggling dd as it was preferable to not always have her with us for therapy (I also don't like talking about DS in front of her).  So no work for me then.  This means i was out of my career for 5 years and a lot has changed.  I arranged work for when DS began school at 2 days, but then found that his disability funding only stretched so far at school  and he is doing shortened days.  Meaning an earlier pickup and no options for after school care.  I agree with the reasons the school has made the decision (so can't argue with them).  But it means DH or I have to finish work at 2pm.  It's not working.  I am employed for 15 hrs/week and I'm lucky if I get in 10.  I have lots of hours to make up.  I could do more work from home but apparently our IT see it as a security threat.  I am tring to reestablish myself in my profession but it is really hard only doing 2 days (I can't remember what I did last week) and getting my groove back.  

7. Do you feel your personal time was/is affected how so?
Personal time is now with the kids.  That's fine by me.




#28 cesca

Posted 24 April 2012 - 11:19 AM

1. Did you have some form of employment before having your children? Whether that be; full time, part time etc.

Yes, I worked full time.

2. Were you required to take time off work due to the arrival of your child/ren E.g. Maternity leave or having to resign

I took 12 months unpaid maternity leave from 35 weeks pregnant.  Went back at 24 hours per week for several months, but was already pregnant with number two, so resigned when I was about 30 weeks pregnant as I wasn't eligible for maternity leave the second time and didn't want to work 24 hours with two children (they didn't offer lower part time hours).

3. Did you experience a drop in income during this leave? How did this affect your family?

Yes, we were down to one income, but it didn't affect us very much as we were living very frugally anyway, so made no real difference.

4. At what age do you think it is appropriate to leave your child in care and go back to work?

In general, whatever works for you.  For me, personally, I think going back part-time when the children are young is fine, not full-time until they're grown up though.

5. What type of care did your child/ren receive if/when you went back to work? E.g. Daycare, preschool or relative care

I went back part-time with my first when he was 10 months old - my SIL looked after him (I paid her).  I went back part-time after my second when she was 10 months old - my best friend looked after both of the children (I paid her).  It wasn't until they could talk that I put them into care with a stranger - we did part time family daycare from when DS was 3 and DD was 18 months.

6. Do you find it difficult to balance family life and career life? If you could provide specific examples?

Yes, as I feel that I can never have a "career" as my children always come first, so my work ends up suffering.  As a result I have been stuck in low paid part time jobs for years.

7. Do you feel your personal time was/is affected how so?

Only when the children were babies, as babies take up a lot of time.  I have plenty of personal time now, as I work in the evenings, so the days are mine to do with what I like.

#29 FeralMuddyPuddles

Posted 24 April 2012 - 11:31 AM

1. Did you have some form of employment before having your children? Whether that be; full time, part time etc.
Full time

2. Were you required to take time off work due to the arrival of your child/ren E.g. Maternity leave or having to resign
I was entitled to 28 weeks half pay mat leave, then 8 weeks paid rec leave, then I took another 3 months unpaid leave but ended up returning a little bit earlier due to a change in our circumstances

3. Did you experience a drop in income during this leave? How did this affect your family?
Our income halved whilst I was being paid and then the unpaid leave we used the baby bonus to pay for food and bills etc. We had planned it all out in advance though and made sure that the mortgage etc would all still be paid. I don’t think it really affected us at all, we still went overseas on a holiday and around Australia to visit family, it was only at the end when we bought another house that the financial restraints became apparent

4. At what age do you think it is appropriate to leave your child in care and go back to work?
I think that it is entirely dependant upon your circumstances. I had to leave DS in care from 10 months and that broke my heart. I didn’t want to leave him ever but unfortunately I don’t have the option of being a full time SAHM. Friends from mothers group had no entitlements to paid mat leave or return to part time work, and had to put their children in full time care from 3months, and it was  a struggle for them emotionally.

5. What type of care did your child/ren receive if/when you went back to work? E.g. Daycare, preschool or relative care
DS initially went to long day care 1 day per week and DH looked after him 1 day per week, then from 14 months he went to long day care 2 days per week and DH looked after him 1 day per week. This is still the routine now and will continue to be until he goes to school and I go back to work full time.

6. Do you find it difficult to balance family life and career life? If you could provide specific examples?
Absolutely.

7. Do you feel your personal time was/is affected how so?
By working or by having DS? Of course your personal “alone” time is affected, esp with a young child that is still reliant on you for everything, but when he is asleep I still get time to sit around and read a book by myself which I love. There are lots of things I don’t really get time for anymore, but I must say that they don’t bother me all that much

Edited by zaacaa, 21 August 2012 - 12:57 PM.


#30 katpaws

Posted 24 April 2012 - 01:34 PM

1. Did you have some form of employment before having your children? Whether that be; full time, part time etc.

I was employed full time before having my (only) child.

2. Were you required to take time off work due to the arrival of your child/ren E.g. Maternity leave or having to resign

I had one week paid maternity leave, with a total of 12 months maternity leave provision. I took the leave from around 7-8 months of pregnancy. I was ill after my child was born and it took around two years to recover. I was made redundant at work while on maternity leave (due to discrimination) and forced to resign.

3. Did you experience a drop in income during this leave? How did this affect your family?

Became a single income family (husband the sole wage earner) and my only "income" was the baby bonus (tax offset not the payment) or some Family Assistance money (not eligible during the first few years) about $20 a f/night. Reduced income meant less holidays. Have had a major house renovation which was affected by not having dual incomes. Studied for four years and went back to work when child was seven. My clothes etc have mostly for the last ten years been sale items or second hand to cut down on costs.

4. At what age do you think it is appropriate to leave your child in care and go back to work?

Depends on people's circumstances. I may have continued working part time if i had that opportunity after the child was born. I think that a parent (or close relative) should be a primary carer and that for me leaving my child in full time child care at an early age (ie 1 years of age) would not have been appropriate or ideal for me or my child. The end of my studies and returning to work co-incided with my child starting school and for me that worked out well. If I would have had to put my child in full time care under the age of 1 year (to 2 years) i would have reassessed having children, although i realise that circumstances can change that lead to the necessity of having young children in long child care.

5. What type of care did your child/ren receive if/when you went back to work? E.g. Daycare, preschool or relative care

Have never had relative assistance with looking after child. Can rely on friends now wtih school aged children to help out with before or after school care if needed and offer same to my friends. Also during school holidays will look after friends' children if they are working. Used some child care and pre school services (occasional care and kindy) during studies so i could attend my campus. With returning to work use school as the child care and fit my life around school hours ie work. Husband organises his work hours if possible if  i have to work full days but he is a shift worker so not reliable for care. Look for work that fits in with having a school aged child (primary).

6. Do you find it difficult to balance family life and career life? If you could provide specific examples?

I have two jobs (one full time) and have a large house to look after (ie housework and cooking which i am mostly responsible for), as well doing some volunteer work. It is hard doing everything and fitting everything around school hours (ie pick ups, drop offs) and being the primary child carer. My work can be very involved and time consuming.

7. Do you feel your personal time was/is affected how so?

I guess personal time hasn't been too affected but i can't do things on an individual basis anymore - have to consider family and their needs. I have organised my life to fit in with continuing to be a primary carer ie doing most school pick ups and drop offs. I miss having my own money and I have to put other's needs ahead of my own.

Edited by katpaws, 24 April 2012 - 01:39 PM.


#31 Schmig

Posted 24 April 2012 - 01:53 PM

1. Did you have some form of employment before having your children? Whether that be; full time, part time etc.


Full time


2. Were you required to take time off work due to the arrival of your child/ren E.g. Maternity leave or having to resign

Yes- maternity leave and any  annual leave I still had

3. Did you experience a drop in income during this leave? How did this affect your family?
Of course, I wasn't working. But we saved for the time off in advance.


4. At what age do you think it is appropriate to leave your child in care and go back to work?

I can only comment on what I did and what I might do next time. I went back after 7 months and built up to full time over 5 weeks (an extra day each week). I could only return to my old job full time, otherwise I had to go back to something else I didn't want. I also had pnd and found being at home very difficult. Mine loves daycare and is very social. I think she would not enjoy being at home with just me most of the time. Next time I would love to stay home longer and maybe go back part time.

5. What type of care did your child/ren receive if/when you went back to work? E.g. Daycare, preschool or relative care
Some daycare some days with each set of grand parents


6. Do you find it difficult to balance family life and career life? If you could provide specific examples?

Of course. Every single day just like every mother. Everyone thinks you have become an idiot after you have been off work and are suddenly not as committed or useful as you were before. This was awful to try to overcome on top of really missing your child. I do not believe you can do everything well and you just have to accept that either some things have to give or you get some help e.g. a cleaner/accept your house is messy.

7. Do you feel your personal time was/is affected how so?
You have no personal time.It is all spent trying to do all the extra tasks you now have. I now get a few hours to myself really late at night each week to sew (my youngest is now 3). But I can't go to the gym after work  or go any where just when I feel like it etc etc. But that is what happens when you have a husband that works long hours and you work full time.

#32 lozoodle

Posted 24 April 2012 - 02:01 PM

1. Did you have some form of employment before having your children? Whether that be; full time, part time etc. Yes, fulltime but my hours have always been 7am-2pm.

2. Were you required to take time off work due to the arrival of your child/ren E.g. Maternity leave or having to resign I took maternity leave.

3. Did you experience a drop in income during this leave? How did this affect your family? Yes, I only had 10 weeks paid leave from work, plus whatever annual leave I had saved. We'd planned for this and had saved enough to cover my maternity leave, both times, so it didn't make an impact on our financial situation.

4. At what age do you think it is appropriate to leave your child in care and go back to work?
I went back to work when both my children were 8 months old. This worked for us, but the answer to this question is different for everyone.

5. What type of care did your child/ren receive if/when you went back to work? E.g. Daycare, preschool or relative care At first I just worked three days a week and family helped us out. When DD2 turned 14 months old I returned full time, and they now to to two days a week of daycare.

6. Do you find it difficult to balance family life and career life? If you could provide specific examples? No, I am fortunate in my working hours as it allows me to be home by 3pm each day. I have a good balance.

7. Do you feel your personal time was/is affected how so? No more than before having kids.

#33 Bluenomi

Posted 24 April 2012 - 02:10 PM

1. Did you have some form of employment before having your children? Full time

2. Were you required to take time off work due to the arrival of your child/ren: Maternity leave and some annual leave to extend it

3. Did you experience a drop in income during this leave? How did this affect your family? I took my leave at half pay so I could be at home longer. It's didn't effect us too much, I was spending less being at home and we have pletny of savingns. It was also good practice for when I went back to work and half my pay went on childcare!

4. At what age do you think it is appropriate to leave your child in care and go back to work? DD was 6 months. No idea if that was appropriate or not but it was what we had to do. It's also different for everyone so I don't think you can have a set age.

5. What type of care did your child/ren receive if/when you went back to work?Daycare in my building so I could still go and breastfeed her during the day.

6. Do you find it difficult to balance family life and career life? Not really but I have a flexible workplace. They are happy for me to take leave when DD is sick and not work overtime.

7. Do you feel your personal time was/is affected how so? No more than most people with a toddler!

#34 mm1981

Posted 24 April 2012 - 02:31 PM

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1. Did you have some form of employment before having your children? Whether that be; full time, part time etc.


I worked full time.
2. Were you required to take time off work due to the arrival of your child/ren E.g. Maternity leave or having to resign
I went on about 6 months leave with my first child, went back part time, then gradually increased my hours until I was full time when he was 1 year old.

3. Did you experience a drop in income during this leave? How did this affect your family?
Yep, I received the baby bonus but no paid maternity leave.  With my second child, I received the 18 weeks government funded leave but this is a lot less than what I normally earn.

4. At what age do you think it is appropriate to leave your child in care and go back to work?
I didn't want to leave with of my kids in childcare until they were 1 year old. However I have family that could assist with babysitting when they were younger than this, so I say 6 months. Although baby no 2 I am back at work a few hours a few days a week while my mum babysits.

5. What type of care did your child/ren receive if/when you went back to work? E.g. Daycare, preschool or relative care

A combination of relative care and long day child care.
6. Do you find it difficult to balance family life and career life? If you could provide specific examples?
Yes sometimes. My husband travels a lot, so I have to do al the drop offs/pick ups. This is sometimes difficult when I will quite often have to start work at 7am but childcare does not even open until 7.30, let alone the travel to work.

7. Do you feel your personal time was/is affected how so?

I work every evening when the kids are in bed to make up for short days that I take in the office.  I never watch tv or relax of an evening. I get the kids to bed, spend max. 30 minutes cleaning/washing etc, then start working until around 10pm. Then it is into bed. I have a 4 month old, so quite often woken very frequently!
But I always make sure that I have the weekends free!





#35 Prawnstar

Posted 24 April 2012 - 02:54 PM

1. Did you have some form of employment before having your children? Whether that be; full time, part time etc.
Yes. Before DD1 I was working full-time (as well as a couple of casual jobs because I'm nuts and couldn't say no). I had been in this job for 3 years. Prior to DD2 I had since returned to that role full-time.

2. Were you required to take time off work due to the arrival of your child/ren E.g. Maternity leave or having to resign
Yes, I did need to take maternity leave. I also saved all the sick and annual leave that I could to extend out the time I was paid to go on leave. I was finishing up work 2 weeks prior to DD1's due date - finished up on Friday afternoon, she was here by 9.20am Sunday morning! I gave myself 4 weeks prior to the birth with DD2. I took about 4 months off with DD1 and 8 with DD2.

3. Did you experience a drop in income during this leave? How did this affect your family?
Yes. With both of my girls I received 6 weeks paid maternity leave from my employer, plus whatever annual leave I had saved so probably about 5 weeks worth. I also received the baby bonus (prior to government paid parental leave) - with DD1 it was paid in lump sum and with DD2 received fortnightly payments. The FTB amount does go up to counter the change, and I found that we just made it work. Your priorities change and whilst we did give up some things, I don't think we struggled.

4. At what age do you think it is appropriate to leave your child in care and go back to work?
I think this is dependent upon the child, the parent and the care environment. I certainly wouldn't be judging anyone for using care with a small child, as I don't know the circumstances that had come to that decision.

5. What type of care did your child/ren receive if/when you went back to work? E.g. Daycare, preschool or relative care
DD1 was looked after by my parents (semi-retired), as we moved to be next door to them as the person in my maternity leave contract left the organisation I work for and they begged me to come back. My parents are about an hour away from mine and DH's town that we work in, so when I was pregnant with DD2 we moved back and put DD1 into family daycare 7 days per fortnight. My mum came over to provide 1 days care per week, and DH has a RDO every fortnight so he had her then.
After DD2 both of the girls went to family daycare, and then as DD1 needed more stimulation from kids her own age we moved her to long daycare (preschool), and now they are both at the one daycare centre.

6. Do you find it difficult to balance family life and career life? If you could provide specific examples?
Yes, which is why I am now working 4 days per week and staying at that even when the girls are at school. I want to be involved in as many things with them as I can, and I'm lucky that my job has flexibility, for example, the girls recently had an easter hat parade at daycare and I was able to go as long as I made up my hours. I returned to work 2 days per week after having DD2, but this just wasn't enough to feel confident that I was on top of everything at work. Sometimes it's hard juggling too, so days that I run programs late in the afternoon I have to hope that hubby doesn't end up working late either. Trying to get breakfast, dressed, make lunches, pack bags, do daycare dropoff and get to work on time is also a challenge most days, especially with 2 to coordinate. I think the hardest thing is when the kids get sick. I usually an lucky to have 1 days sick leave up my sleeve, as if one gets sick the other one does or I do and you need to work, but you can't have them at daycare (nor would I want to).

7. Do you feel your personal time was/is affected how so?
Your personal time is affected just by being a parent in general. The thing I find is that on my day off (Friday) I am usually so focussed on cleaning/washing/organising/paying bills/etc., that I do not spend quality time with the girls as I should, but chuck a movie on or let them go and play in the backyard.

HTH

#36 Phoenix Blue

Posted 24 April 2012 - 03:12 PM


1. Did you have some form of employment before having your children? Whether that be; full time, part time etc.

Working Full Time - Primary school teacher.

2. Were you required to take time off work due to the arrival of your child/ren E.g. Maternity leave or having to resign

I was on a contract, so I was entitled to maternity leave, but have no position to go back to.

3. Did you experience a drop in income during this leave? How did this affect your family?

Yes, but DH earns a very good wage, so it wasn't noticeable. Therefore it didn't affect our family financially. It perhaps did affect us in other ways (DH: now sole responsibility for earning, pressure Me: Feeling like not contributing financially, loss of identity without job)

4. At what age do you think it is appropriate to leave your child in care and go back to work?

For ME: I won't be returning to work until children are well and truely in school unless I HAVE to. Other people can do what they want - but if I want to be judgmental, then I think children under 1 shouldn't be in childcare.

5. What type of care did your child/ren receive if/when you went back to work? E.g. Daycare, preschool or relative care

N/A - I haven't gone back to work.

6. Do you find it difficult to balance family life and career life? If you could provide specific examples?

It took me a long time to adjust mentally to not working. Lack of adult interaction, lack of mental stimulation. I'm much happier now though, but I look forward to going back to work eventually.

7. Do you feel your personal time was/is affected how so?

N/A

#37 Canberra Chick

Posted 24 April 2012 - 06:06 PM

1. Did you have some form of employment before having your children? Whether that be; full time, part time etc.

Yes, I worked FT

2. Were you required to take time off work due to the arrival of your child/ren E.g. Maternity leave or having to resign

Yes - my contract ended and was not renewed just as DS was due. I had no wage or mat leave

3. Did you experience a drop in income during this leave? How did this affect your family?

A big drop. It made life fairly tight as we'd bought the house less than a year earlier

4. At what age do you think it is appropriate to leave your child in care and go back to work?

Ideally around the 8-12 month mark at the earliest. I did it earlier with DS because I had no mat leave and DH's contract was due to end - we needed one guaranteed income!

5. What type of care did your child/ren receive if/when you went back to work? E.g. Daycare, preschool or relative care

daycare - best centre ever. The Nursery room leader was a godsend. Still is, even though my kids are out of the nursery room

6. Do you find it difficult to balance family life and career life? If you could provide specific examples?

Not usually. Getting to school assemblies etc can be awkward. My biggest problem is work colleagues thinking I 'finish early' when I leave at 2.40, despite that being 10 minutes after my agreed finish time.

7. Do you feel your personal time was/is affected how so?

I definitely have less time to just sit and read/veg. But I make sure I have time for exercise.


#38 liveworkplay

Posted 24 April 2012 - 06:19 PM

1. Did you have some form of employment before having your children? Whether that be; full time, part time etc.

Yes, full time

2. Were you required to take time off work due to the arrival of your child/ren E.g. Maternity leave or having to resign

Maternity leave each time

3. Did you experience a drop in income during this leave? How did this affect your family? Yes. Before mortgage we coped fine, after mortgage, we only were able due to the "maternity clause" in our loan allowing half repayments for 6 mths and savings.

4. At what age do you think it is appropriate to leave your child in care and go back to work? Personally if I could? school aged. Practically, 12 mths.

5. What type of care did your child/ren receive if/when you went back to work? E.g. Daycare, preschool or relative care
Daycare

6. Do you find it difficult to balance family life and career life? If you could provide specific examples?

Yes. Now I work 5 days, it is hard to fit in chores, kids activities, work, family obligations and work obligations. Hell, its hard just getting them to school and care some days.

7. Do you feel your personal time was/is affected how so?

I dont feel, I know! I have 0 free time and I totally resent it. I actually have no idea how I am going to cope long term


#39 sah9895

Posted 24 April 2012 - 09:24 PM

Hi my name is sarah, im 17 and im a year 12 student at Elderslie high school. My Personal Interest Project, for the course Society and Culture.
Im not sure what i am trying to prove or what i want my outcome of my findings to be but my overall assessment looks at working parents Vs Stay at home parents, what ocntributes to the decision to either work or stay at home and what difficulties each faced. thats not very detailed but its overal
i am so suppriesed with all the detailed responses this will help so much
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#40 -al-

Posted 24 April 2012 - 09:40 PM

1. Did you have some form of employment before having your children? Whether that be; full time, part time etc.
Yes, F/T for both children (8 year gap)

2. Were you required to take time off work due to the arrival of your child/ren E.g. Maternity leave or having to resign
DD - Maternity leave 12 weeks. DS- contract work, resigned

3. Did you experience a drop in income during this leave? How did this affect your family?
DD - No   DS - Yes, DH worked more and we cut back in many areas.

4. At what age do you think it is appropriate to leave your child in care and go back to work?
Ideally 18months/2 years

5. What type of care did your child/ren receive if/when you went back to work? E.g. Daycare, preschool or relative care
DD- Family day care with a provider who we knew personally long term. DS - DH and I juggled his care until he was 4 when he attended a day care centre one day a week.

6. Do you find it difficult to balance family life and career life? If you could provide specific examples?
I have given up my original career as it was not family friendly, I took on work within schools to juggle things easier and ensure holidays off. I have since further cut back to juggle things and study to increase earning ability while remaining available for the kids.

7. Do you feel your personal time was/is affected how so?
Personal time???? I dont understand this concept.
I dont have any personal, down time. Socialising is done with extended family, or childrens friends parents, occassionally I will catch up with old friends, but that is an after dinner coffee. I am so time poor I watch a max of two tv shows a week and do that online so that I can do it when it fits....when I am ironing and folding.
Having children has certainly impacted on my career, effectively it ended, which I didnt anticipate, but it was a choice I made happily.





#41 Ymarferol angel

Posted 25 April 2012 - 09:03 AM

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Hi my name is sarah, im 17 and im a year 12 student at Elderslie high school. My Personal Interest Project, for the course Society and Culture.
Im not sure what i am trying to prove or what i want my outcome of my findings to be but my overall assessment looks at working parents Vs Stay at home parents, what ocntributes to the decision to either work or stay at home and what difficulties each faced. thats not very detailed but its overal
i am so suppriesed with all the detailed responses this will help so much
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If I might make a suggestion, one thing which would make a big difference to how people have answered, but which you didn't ask, was how old we were when having our first child.  I know if DD had been born a few years earlier or later in my life, my answers would have been very different.  Maybe that might be something to think about as you look at the data you collect.

#42 sah9895

Posted 25 April 2012 - 12:57 PM

QUOTE (Ange Vert @ 25/04/2012, 09:03 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Thanks for answering my question. original.gif

If I might make a suggestion, one thing which would make a big difference to how people have answered, but which you didn't ask, was how old we were when having our first child. I know if DD had been born a few years earlier or later in my life, my answers would have been very different. Maybe that might be something to think about as you look at the data you collect.



I didnt think of that, not that i didnt take it into consideration, it just never crossed my mind. but is obviously something that is a major contributing factor to the answers to these questions.
im not actually sure what i am intending to find out for all this research, though i may post one of my other questionnaires on here, may be easier. any suggestions?

#43 jade06

Posted 25 April 2012 - 01:48 PM

1. Did you have some form of employment before having your children? Whether that be; full time, part time etc.
Yes, but I stopped when pregnant as I was studying.

2. Were you required to take time off work due to the arrival of your child/ren E.g. Maternity leave or having to resign
No.

3. Did you experience a drop in income during this leave? How did this affect your family?
When I left work, yes. But this was due to pregnancy and studying.

4. At what age do you think it is appropriate to leave your child in care and go back to work?
I had Annika in child care from two years old - as I was doing night shift and I needed to sleep during the day. Was also studying. Would have liked it to be later - I think perhaps 3 years old gives a good experience at childcare before kindy. I dont think there is an 'appropriate' age as such, just whatever works for your family.

5. What type of care did your child/ren receive if/when you went back to work? E.g. Daycare, preschool or relative care
Initially Family Day Care, which unfortunately was a very unsatisfying experience (I'm aware this isn't usually the case). Later in a Childcare Centre, which was really good - very tailored to Annika's needs. Exceptionally supportive staff. I was offered a free day of care each week, which I certainly used and appreciated.


6. Do you find it difficult to balance family life and career life? If you could provide specific examples?
I find it very difficult and often get a case of the mummy guilts as Annika is with her father during the week whist I work and study. We both have sort of flexible work arrangements though - he starts work at 9am (instead of the required 6am) a few days a week - I work a 9 day fortnight. In the wake of school holidays, without wanting to use OSHC, it is very difficult - but a lot of family support on his side makes things easier.

7. Do you feel your personal time was/is affected how so?


#44 Grant Me Wings

Posted 25 April 2012 - 04:01 PM

1. Did you have some form of employment before having your children? Whether that be; full time, part time etc.

I worked full time until my pregnancy, due to health issues I cut my hours down to 30 p/w before I went on maternity leave

2. Were you required to take time off work due to the arrival of your child/ren E.g. Maternity leave or having to resign

Yes, I had to leave work at 30 weeks for health reasons.

3. Did you experience a drop in income during this leave? How did this affect your family?

Yes, I was the sole income earner and I took paid maternity leave at half pay. We survived on this, plus the baby bonus and FTB.

4. At what age do you think it is appropriate to leave your child in care and go back to work?

I think families do what they have to. I didn't want to have DS in care but I needed to when he was 5 months. He is now 2 and loves daycare so it worked out. It was harder for me than him.

5. What type of care did your child/ren receive if/when you went back to work? E.g. Daycare, preschool or relative care

Daycare

6. Do you find it difficult to balance family life and career life? If you could provide specific examples?

My life revolves around DS now. I am very lucky to work for a company that has options for family/work life balance and I am able to work from home and have chosen hours that minimise the time DS spends in care, but it has meant changing roles and being in a deadend job. If I hadn't have become pregnant when I did I would be a manager now. My priorities changed and while I dont want to be a manager now, I would love to be able to have a challenging, mentally stimulating role since I do need to work.

7. Do you feel your personal time was/is affected how so?

Definately. My days are based on DS and work. I have 4 hours that is me time.

#45 *CalamityJane*

Posted 25 April 2012 - 04:58 PM

1. Did you have some form of employment before having your children? Whether that be; full time, part time etc.
Yes, FT

2. Were you required to take time off work due to the arrival of your child/ren E.g. Maternity leave or having to resign
I took my maternity leave, plus rec leave at half pay which covered nearly 12 months, then had 3 months unpaid.

3. Did you experience a drop in income during this leave? How did this affect your family?
Yes.  We tightened the belt while I was on leave, and then ended up selling an investment property to cover the shortfall.

4. At what age do you think it is appropriate to leave your child in care and go back to work?
I went back 2 days/week when my twins were 15 months.  I returned to FT work when they were 5 years.  For me the return to PT work was at an ideal time, but I did feel it was a little soon to return FT.   I probably would have preferred to give it another year.

5. What type of care did your child/ren receive if/when you went back to work? E.g. Daycare, preschool or relative care
We did half relative care and half long day care.

6. Do you find it difficult to balance family life and career life? If you could provide specific examples?
Very difficult in the beginning.  You can have a job PT, but it's very hard to progress a career on those hours.  Now I am FT and the career is great, but there's still a balance to be found between work and family, especially when it comes to things like after school activities and school holidays.

7. Do you feel your personal time was/is affected how so?
Very much so.  There just wasn't any at all in the early years.  Now my children are school aged, I can make time but it has to be a conscious thing that I plan for.

#46 GoBack2Bed

Posted 25 April 2012 - 07:22 PM

QUOTE (BabyJaguar @ 23/04/2012, 07:53 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
If you want to of course. original.gif

1. Did you have some form of employment before having your children? Whether that be; full time, part time etc.

Yes - Full time

2. Were you required to take time off work due to the arrival of your child/ren E.g. Maternity leave or having to resign

Yes - had to leave at 34 weeks but could return anytime after 6 weeks post partum. Had paid maternity leave of 14 weeks

3. Did you experience a drop in income during this leave? How did this affect your family?

Yes - I'm the main income earner so taking time off work is really difficult. I ended up returning to work 3 months sooner then planned.

4. At what age do you think it is appropriate to leave your child in care and go back to work?

For me personally I feel that anything post 4 months is ok as they start to settle into predictable routines by then

5. What type of care did your child/ren receive if/when you went back to work? E.g. Daycare, preschool or relative care

Daycare

6. Do you find it difficult to balance family life and career life? If you could provide specific examples?

Not really

7. Do you feel your personal time was/is affected how so?

Resounding yes. I get 2 hours dedicated free time a week now



#47 Peevish

Posted 25 April 2012 - 08:09 PM



1. Did you have some form of employment before having your children? Whether that be; full time, part time etc.

Yes. Full-time before child #1 and 4 days per week before child # 2.

2. Were you required to take time off work due to the arrival of your child/ren E.g. Maternity leave or having to resign.

No requirement. I chose to take maternity leave for 7 months with child 1 and 8ish months with child 2.

3. Did you experience a drop in income during this leave? How did this affect your family?

Yes, although I was lucky to receive some form of paid maternity leave both times. I don't think the drop in income significantly affected my family.

4. At what age do you think it is appropriate to leave your child in care and go back to work?

I think what is appropriate is highly dependent upon the child, the circumstances of the family and the type of care being used. If I have another I would probably return to work about the 4 month mark so I guess  4 months is OK for me, assuming the baby is settled and I am happy with the carer.

5. What type of care did your child/ren receive if/when you went back to work? E.g. Daycare, preschool or relative care

I have mainly used a nanny since returning to work - sharing the nanny with another family. I have also used daycare centres.

6. Do you find it difficult to balance family life and career life? If you could provide specific examples?

I think most of the time the balance I have is ok for me. When it gets out of control is if on my non-work days I need to respond to emails or take calls, fortunately this doesn't happen too often. However, the reason it doesn't happen is because I don't get involved in the type of work which places these demands on me. Unfortunately, it is this type of work that is more likely to lead to career advancement. So, at the moment I feel a little like I am treading water with my career. However, I'm not unhappy with that choice. My kids need me and they will grow up fast.

7. Do you feel your personal time was/is affected how so?
What personal time? I get very little time for myself.

#48 Kristina13

Posted 25 April 2012 - 09:40 PM

1. Did you have some form of employment before having your children? Whether that be; full time, part time etc.
Yes full time

2. Were you required to take time off work due to the arrival of your child/ren E.g. Maternity leave or having to resign

I chose to take 12 months maternity leave (and as DS is 8.5 years old this was completely unpaid -no baby bonus then sad.gif   )
3. Did you experience a drop in income during this leave? of course
How did this affect your family?
We had saved up knowing I was going on mat leave before hand -we had just paid off our mortgage before I got pregnant -didnt help when I was pregnant to discover termites had eaten away half our house which forced us to get another mortgage when I was on maternity leave to rebuild the extension...

4. At what age do you think it is appropriate to leave your child in care and go back to work?
for me- it was 12 months

5. What type of care did your child/ren receive if/when you went back to work? E.g. Daycare, preschool or relative care
Daycare 4 days a week- grandparents 1 day a week (DH is from the UK)

6. Do you find it difficult to balance family life and career life? If you could provide specific examples?
I begged work to take me back part-time -the manager then wouldnt agree they did make some accomodations for late night work as my DH often worked away but I still had to work Saturdays once a month so on those weeks I worked 6 days a week. On reflection now I dont know how I managed with a very young child, a partner who worked away a lot and working full -time..... Fortunately when DS was 2.5 years old we had a change in management and my position was able to be redesigned and I was able to work 4 days a week -which is what I continue to do now with no late shifts or weekend work original.gif

7. Do you feel your personal time was/is affected how so?
of course it was particularly in those first tough years. Now so I have more me time as DS is older more independent and my part-time status means I have Fridays to get so much done.




#49 everyday

Posted 25 April 2012 - 10:11 PM

1. Did you have some form of employment before having your children? Whether that be; full time, part time etc.

Full time work

2. Were you required to take time off work due to the arrival of your child/ren E.g. Maternity leave or having to resign

I wasn't required to do anything - my employer would have let me remain at work as many days as I was comfortable with, up to and including full time. It was my choice to resign.

3. Did you experience a drop in income during this leave? How did this affect your family?

Yes - I resigned from my full time job, so of course I dropped my entire wage. This has made a great difference to our family as we have to budget harder and manage money a lot better than we did before. We did receive the PPL money from the government for the first four months, though, which helped us ease into our new financial situation.

4. At what age do you think it is appropriate to leave your child in care and go back to work?

Personally, I would be uncomfortable with it for my child at any age. I am planning to be her full time carer until she goes to school (finances allowing). I would consider one day a week with relatives, though.

5. What type of care did your child/ren receive if/when you went back to work? E.g. Daycare, preschool or relative care

I haven't gone back to work.

6. Do you find it difficult to balance family life and career life? If you could provide specific examples?

I am happy with my choice to focus on family life for a time. I am able to fit in a little bit of working from home so that I am still practising my job-related skills, for when I want to enter the workforce again.

7. Do you feel your personal time was/is affected how so?

I'm not extremely busy with only one (easy) baby, so I still get time to relax if I need it. I'm sure that if we have more kids in the future, I would have much less personal time.





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