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#1 DS1979

Posted 21 April 2012 - 05:23 PM

Today is exactly 4 weeks since I had my miscarriage and I still haven't had my periods.  I keep reading about people who fall pregnant again straight after a miscarriage and I am desperately hoping this will be me.  I did an ovulation test last Friday and it said I was ovulating - we'd had sex the night before and again on the Sat morning so I hope, hope, hope that something has happened!  But I couldn't help myself and took a pregnancy test today which came back negative - prob too early to tell anyways but still a disappointment.  Anyways, when do you think I should test again?   I know you're meant to wait till you miss your period but my doctor said due to the miscarriage I might not get them for at least 6 weeks....but to wait another 2 weeks would drive me nuts although testing too early again and getting another negative would not be good either!

#2 little lion

Posted 21 April 2012 - 05:30 PM

You need to wait around 14 days after you ovulated to test.


Try not to get your hopes up that you'll fall pregnant again straight away. It took me six cycles after my miscarriage and I think emotionally that waiting was harder because I'd heard "you are more fertile after mc". I suspect one or two of those cycles I didn't o. I hope you fall pregnant very soon! original.gif

#3 DS1979

Posted 21 April 2012 - 05:38 PM

Thank you for your reply.  I'm so sorry for your loss.  Was your pregnancy without complications after your miscarriage?  It's scary not knowing whether it was a one off or whether there's another one to come.

I know I shouldn't get my hopes up and I know I am putting way too much pressure on myself but it's hard because I feel like my body is failing me.  I got pregnant whilst on the pill with my son and then pregnant in the first month of trying with my daughter so I just assumed that it would happen quickly and easily with every other time - boy was I wrong!  I never in a million years thought I would have a miscarriage - I don't think anyone ever thinks it will happen to them.

It feels like EVERYONE around me is pregnant right now - did you notice that too when you were TTC?!

#4 Kazz33

Posted 21 April 2012 - 05:48 PM

I'm in the same situation as you. 4 weeks last Thurs since d&c, my period hasnt arrived & my dr also said it could be around 6weeks before it comes back.

I'm tempted to test but i'm going to leave it another week - 10days & see what happens. I've been super tired this last week but can't sleep. I'm trying not to read too much into it though.

#5 little lion

Posted 21 April 2012 - 05:56 PM

DS1979 I'm 11 wks now and so far things are going well. But I think for oat of us, after miscarriage TTC and early pregnancy will be stressful. I know what you mean about not expecting it and afterwards, I felt like my perspective changed totally and I worried if I could trust my body could do it. Slowly I'm regaining my confidence in my body, and I hope you will soon too.

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#6 *mylittleprince*

Posted 21 April 2012 - 05:59 PM

Sorry for your loss. I had a miscarriage at 8 weeks. My period took 5 weeks to return. OB advised to wait one full period before TTC. Fell pregnant next cycle and currently 13 weeks pregnant with twins! Hope you fall pregnant soon. I was a bit of a wreck until my period returned but felt better when it did (not sure if it was hormones or mental or a bit of both).

#7 DS1979

Posted 21 April 2012 - 06:08 PM

QUOTE (Kazz33 @ 21/04/2012, 05:48 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I'm in the same situation as you. 4 weeks last Thurs since d&c, my period hasnt arrived & my dr also said it could be around 6weeks before it comes back.

I'm tempted to test but i'm going to leave it another week - 10days & see what happens. I've been super tired this last week but can't sleep. I'm trying not to read too much into it though.



Thanks for your reply.  I'm so sorry you're in the same boat as me, this waiting game is just horrible.  Hopefully we will both have positive tests together!  Although I've no symptoms.  But for you hopefully being tired is a good sign of good things to come.  Keep me posted!

#8 DS1979

Posted 21 April 2012 - 06:14 PM

QUOTE (little lion @ 21/04/2012, 05:56 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
DS1979 I'm 11 wks now and so far things are going well. But I think for oat of us, after miscarriage TTC and early pregnancy will be stressful. I know what you mean about not expecting it and afterwards, I felt like my perspective changed totally and I worried if I could trust my body could do it. Slowly I'm regaining my confidence in my body, and I hope you will soon too.

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11 weeks is great and I'm glad that you are feeling more confidence in your body, means you'll be able to enjoy your journey with this baby.  All the best for a healthy, stressfree and easy pregnancy for you!

#9 mummyofour

Posted 21 April 2012 - 06:14 PM

DS 1979 I am sorry for your loss  sad.gif

From memory I think my period came back about 4-5 weeks after my D&C, we didn't try for that cycle and then did with the next and very luckily I got pregnant and she's now nearly 2.

FWIW I was like you, couldn't wait to get pregnant again, but petrified at the same time.  I'd already had 3 sucessful, completely uneventful pregnancies, and even though several of my friends had had  m/c's I was of the "well it won't happen to me" frame of mind.  And then it did.

I was terrified of every little twinge during that pregnancy but again I was very lucky.

Hope you get your baby very soon xx

#10 DS1979

Posted 21 April 2012 - 06:24 PM

QUOTE (*mylittleprince* @ 21/04/2012, 05:59 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Sorry for your loss. I had a miscarriage at 8 weeks. My period took 5 weeks to return. OB advised to wait one full period before TTC. Fell pregnant next cycle and currently 13 weeks pregnant with twins! Hope you fall pregnant soon. I was a bit of a wreck until my period returned but felt better when it did (not sure if it was hormones or mental or a bit of both).



Thank you, and I'm sorry for your loss too.  And what an amazing gift though to be having twins this time around - that is my absolute dream!  After your periods came back did you use anything to help you conceive - ovulation kits, etc?  What is your secret!

I had a missed miscarriage so my baby stopped growing at 6 weeks but I didn't find out until a few days before 12 weeks, and then I had a natural miscarriage.  i'm torn because I want my periods to come so I know for sure my body is working ok but then I don't want it to come because then maybe (and probably just wishful thinking on my part) I might be pregnant.

You are so lucky - twins!  Hope you have a wonderful pregnancy this time!

#11 DS1979

Posted 21 April 2012 - 06:28 PM

QUOTE (mummyofour @ 21/04/2012, 06:14 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
DS 1979 I am sorry for your loss sad.gif

From memory I think my period came back about 4-5 weeks after my D&C, we didn't try for that cycle and then did with the next and very luckily I got pregnant and she's now nearly 2.

FWIW I was like you, couldn't wait to get pregnant again, but petrified at the same time. I'd already had 3 sucessful, completely uneventful pregnancies, and even though several of my friends had had m/c's I was of the "well it won't happen to me" frame of mind. And then it did.

I was terrified of every little twinge during that pregnancy but again I was very lucky.

Hope you get your baby very soon xx



Thank you so much.  I cannot believe how common it is to have a miscarriage even though you've already had other successful pregnancies.  Does it matter after a D&C if you try straight away?  I had a natural miscarriage so they said to just wait till my next period to try again but I am so impatient and figured I would leave it up to nature to decide....I feel like my body is ready to carry again but maybe that is just because I want it so badly.  Even though we are all connected by something so sad, it's still nice knowing that I am not alone and that there are others who are sharing a similar journey and who have survived, and that there are happy endings for many!

#12 Kazz33

Posted 21 April 2012 - 08:02 PM

QUOTE (DS1979 @ 21/04/2012, 06:24 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I had a missed miscarriage so my baby stopped growing at 6 weeks but I didn't find out until a few days before 12 weeks, and then I had a natural miscarriage.  i'm torn because I want my periods to come so I know for sure my body is working ok but then I don't want it to come because then maybe (and probably just wishful thinking on my part) I might be pregnant.
!


I could have written this myself DS1979. I had spotting at 11w2d, got a scan the next day to find i only had a sac measuring 6-7wks. Worst day of my life, all my hopes & everything i was looking forward to was taken away in an instant. Like you i want my period to know that my body is working, but at the same time don't want it. I will definately keep you posted. Are you TTC #1?

#13 Marchioness Flea

Posted 21 April 2012 - 08:09 PM

I read you're most fertile for 6 MONTHS after a M/C s, try to not panic if it doesn't happen first cycle.

#14 José

Posted 21 April 2012 - 08:14 PM

hi there. I had a miscarriage last year and it was 8 weeks before my period returned. i then fell pregnant, when i did a home pregnancy test at first it came out negative, i guess hormone levels werent high enough for it to detect them. im now 17 weeks pregnant. i think this whole thing has shown me how individual our bodies are. other people experiences probably wont mirror our own.
best of luck.

#15 spottydog

Posted 21 April 2012 - 08:14 PM

Havent read the replied, but i had a miscarriage in March. I had a D & C and got my AF yesterday after 37days.

Hope this helps.

spotty.

#16 DS1979

Posted 21 April 2012 - 08:18 PM

QUOTE (Kazz33 @ 21/04/2012, 08:02 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I could have written this myself DS1979. I had spotting at 11w2d, got a scan the next day to find i only had a sac measuring 6-7wks. Worst day of my life, all my hopes & everything i was looking forward to was taken away in an instant. Like you i want my period to know that my body is working, but at the same time don't want it. I will definately keep you posted. Are you TTC #1?



Wow, amazing how similar our stories are.  I am so sad for you, it really just is heartbreaking that your dreams can end in a split second.  Did you have any idea that something wasn't right?  

This will be my third child, my other two are 5 and 3.  I feel really selfish in a way for wanting another child so badly as I already have two beautiful kids but my family just doesn't feel finished yet.  The kids were so excited for the baby to be born, it broke my heart having to tell them that the baby was gone.  My little one still asks when the baby is coming out of my tummy, and she still tells people that we're having another baby (which is always very awkward for them when they congratulate me and then I have to explain that we WERE having a baby but now we are not!).  I'll always say 'don't you remember that I told you that there's no baby in my tummy anymore" and she will just say "yes but I really want another baby" and so that is that!  My son is a bit more thoughtful and he asks me from time to time if I am sad that we're not having a baby anymore.  I want another sibling for them so badly, they see other mums having babies and they ask me ALL time time why we aren't having one. cry1.gif

Are you TTC #1?

#17 DS1979

Posted 21 April 2012 - 08:20 PM

QUOTE (Jenflea @ 21/04/2012, 08:09 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I read you're most fertile for 6 MONTHS after a M/C s, try to not panic if it doesn't happen first cycle.



Thank you, why is it so much easier said than done?!  I know I shouldn't get my hopes up on this but I keep thinking maybe, just maybe, I'll be lucky!  No pressure!!!

#18 DS1979

Posted 21 April 2012 - 08:25 PM

QUOTE (spottydog @ 21/04/2012, 08:14 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Havent read the replied, but i had a miscarriage in March. I had a D & C and got my AF yesterday after 37days.

Hope this helps.

spotty.



Thanks for your reply.  I'm so sorry for your loss.  37 days seems like ages to wait for your period.  Do you know if you've have a D&C, can that affect the timing of your period differently to a natural miscarriage?  Or maybe it's just different for everyone no matter how it happens.  I hope that you get the results that you are after soon. original.gif

#19 spottydog

Posted 21 April 2012 - 08:28 PM

QUOTE (DS1979 @ 21/04/2012, 08:25 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Thanks for your reply.  I'm so sorry for your loss.  37 days seems like ages to wait for your period.  Do you know if you've have a D&C, can that affect the timing of your period differently to a natural miscarriage?  Or maybe it's just different for everyone no matter how it happens.  I hope that you get the results that you are after soon. original.gif


I think everyone is different, i was told by my specialist it  could take up to 12weeks for AF to return, but thats on the longer end of the wait.

37 days isint that long, i have 32-35 day cycles anyway, so only a little longer than 'normal'.

I would say though with a D & C, i knew exactly when CD 1 was, so this helped. I thought i was going to get AF 14days ago, as i had cramps, but that must have been ovulation....

Good luck. If you just ovulated last weekend, your AF 'should' be due next weekend, fingers crossed for a positive HPT for you original.gif

spotty.

#20 DS1979

Posted 21 April 2012 - 08:29 PM

QUOTE (feliz6 @ 21/04/2012, 08:14 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
hi there. I had a miscarriage last year and it was 8 weeks before my period returned. i then fell pregnant, when i did a home pregnancy test at first it came out negative, i guess hormone levels werent high enough for it to detect them. im now 17 weeks pregnant. i think this whole thing has shown me how individual our bodies are. other people experiences probably wont mirror our own.
best of luck.



I'm sorry for your loss, however congratulations on your latest pregnancy!  I hope it's been a good experience for you so far.  

It's all so confusing!  How far into your pregnancy did you do your test?  And what would make your hormone levels so low they wouldn't show up on a test - just testing too early?  It really is such an individual process, thanks for sharing your story with me.

#21 DS1979

Posted 21 April 2012 - 08:36 PM

QUOTE (spottydog @ 21/04/2012, 08:28 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I think everyone is different, i was told by my specialist it could take up to 12weeks for AF to return, but thats on the longer end of the wait.

37 days isint that long, i have 32-35 day cycles anyway, so only a little longer than 'normal'.

I would say though with a D & C, i knew exactly when CD 1 was, so this helped. I thought i was going to get AF 14days ago, as i had cramps, but that must have been ovulation....

Good luck. If you just ovulated last weekend, your AF 'should' be due next weekend, fingers crossed for a positive HPT for you original.gif

spotty.



Thanks for all your info.  Eek 12 weeks!  Gosh that seems like forever to wait for a period!  So just to clarify, is the day that I miscarried counted as the first day of my last period or would it start from when labour began the day before?  Maybe it'll be best then to wait another week before testing again; will save on disappointment if I were to get another negative as theoretically my period will most likely come around then if it's going to come anyways.

#22 José

Posted 21 April 2012 - 08:39 PM

hi. i cant remember exactly but must have done the test a bit over three weeks since my period. (? i think?) cant really explain for sure why it didnt show up. when i went for my first scan with the obs i half expected them to say i wasnt pregnant after all. - but I was, and still am!



#23 DS1979

Posted 21 April 2012 - 08:41 PM

QUOTE (feliz6 @ 21/04/2012, 08:39 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
hi. i cant remember exactly but must have done the test a bit over three weeks since my period. (? i think?) cant really explain for sure why it didnt show up. when i went for my first scan with the obs i half expected them to say i wasnt pregnant after all. - but I was, and still am!



What a rollercoaster of emotions for you, so glad it's all worked out in the end! original.gif

#24 spottydog

Posted 21 April 2012 - 08:52 PM

I would say CD one is on the first day of full bleeding, similar to how you count your cycle days as first day of full period bleeding is not after 12noon, but if it comes before that then thats CD 1. Does that make sense, its hard to put into text original.gif

A day or two wont make much difference, more the ovulation if you actually fall pregnant.

Remember that if you do fall pregnant, you could 14days before your ovulation, rather than CD 1 original.gif

spotty.

#25 Kazz33

Posted 21 April 2012 - 09:21 PM

I had absolutely no idea anything was wrong (we had even told our brothers & sisters in the few days before it happened) until i saw the blood. Even then i just thought it was coz we had sex the night before. I was still feeling positive before the scan, but it just wasnt meant to be.

Yep TTC our first. You have every right to want another child & be upset when it doesn't go the way you planned. My SIL was preg with her 3rd & she had a m/c just before me, we would have been due only weeks apart sad.gif

I have heard so many different stories of how long it takes to fall preg again after m/c. Would be so much easier if we were all the same hey! I try & ignore the ones that say they take months & years lol. At least you know you ovulated, i'm not really sure if i even have yet. Just been BDing & hoping for the best.


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