When Did You Take Your Newborn Out In Public
, Apr 19 2012 10:41 AM
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Posted 19 April 2012 - 11:36 AM
On our way home from hospital we called in at our GP's surgery to show off our baby, so about 3 days old. I should add that our GP's surgery is literally across the road from where we live, so we didn't need to go out of way to do that. The GP and receptionists were thrilled to see her. I didn't even consider the germ aspect of taking her into a GP surgery until now! It was 5pm on a Friday so there were barely any people in the waiting room.
Taking her out to the shops: I think she was about 1 week old. I was terrified initially about taking her out but not because of germs. I felt very nervous and inadequate as a mother and was worried that people would judge me as a bad mother if I didn't do the right things with her eg if she cried, how to put her in the pram. I felt huge pressure to know how to do the right things perfectly with her in public. My husband calmed me down, reassured me, and said that he would be right beside me. We went out and nobody said anything judgemental to me. Such a relief! Any comments that I did have were how beautiful my daughter was.
ETA Two years later I couldn't give a damn about what people think of my parenting, as long as my daughter is healthy, happy and polite. So glad that my feelings of inadequacy didn't last!
Edited by Paddlepop, 19 April 2012 - 11:39 AM.
Posted 19 April 2012 - 12:21 PM
7 days old.
We went to the chiro to check DS for birth trauma (there was none) and to have my back checked that all ok too (it was).
After that we went to a food court for lunch and home.
That was 4 years ago, though. When this new strain of whooping cough was only just starting the 'epidemic'
The annoying thing about this new strain is that those vaccinated for the 'regular strains' do not get the cough too bad. Frustratingly, they carry on going to work, shopping, sending kids to school etc without getting their nagging cough diagnosed and quarantining themselves. So it is those who vaccinated creating the epidemic, as such, assuming they 'just have a cough'. I work as a check-out-chick and see it all the time (even mums going shopping who with their kids who are 'home from school because they have chicken pox'!!! Drives me nuts)
I would be hesitant going out with a newborn now. If I did, I'd choose smaller shopping centres and keep baby in pram/in carrier and not let well wishers too close.
Edited by new~mum~reenie, 19 April 2012 - 12:23 PM.
Posted 19 April 2012 - 03:06 PM
OP it's not a race honey.
Do whatever you are comfortable with!
Can DH do the food shopping without you? Or take the 18 yr old and a list?
I went once at around 10 days and hated it, had to stop for a rest after my c/s and from then on seriously it's been 3-4 weeks.
Panic attacks are nasty and it is not a competition on whether you get there before everyone else. So just be comfortable, and if you're not ready, DON"T GO!
Edited by ~my happiness~, 19 April 2012 - 03:07 PM.
Posted 20 April 2012 - 05:41 AM
We took dd out straight after we left the hospital... It was her cousins first birthday! That's why we reckon she came at 37 weeks exactly! Hehe
It was late afternoon and Most people had left by then...
Posted 20 April 2012 - 05:50 AM
DD and DS1 as soon as they got out of hospital i took them out I was going stir crazy at home, DS2 got out of hospital at 2 weeks old and thats when i took him out basically because i had to get the older two from school!
Posted 20 April 2012 - 06:11 AM
One of my daughters was only about 12 hours old when we left and took her shopping at Target on the way home from hospital.
Posted 20 April 2012 - 06:36 AM
Born in the morning. Had to go to shops on the way home. So about 4 hours old.
Mib... Is that serious?
I was still in recovery...
I took my dd to a grand final when she was three or four weeks old... I never even thought about her getting sick.
I think I would think twice now, and not do it till 6 weeks.
Shopping I would use Coles online! Lol.
I've had cs, so it takes a few weeks to get mobile.
Posted 20 April 2012 - 08:05 AM
DS is 9 days old and we haven't been out yet. There isn't a rush - I'm happy hibernating and getting to know my son. But I'm lucky that have have my husband and mum here to do everything else while I just feed and sleep!! I was the same with DD - we wandered up to a cafe when she was about a week old but it was ages before we went to a shopping centre or supermarket.
I'm nervous about WC as well OP. I think I'll be using a sling or carrier when we do eventually venture out.
Edited by Mrs Flanders, 20 April 2012 - 08:07 AM.
Posted 20 April 2012 - 08:14 AM
Pretty much within a few days of getting home from hospital. I wanted out of the house and we needed to do the shopping. After almost a whole pregnancy of walking in pain from SPD and being stuck on limited mobility, being able to walk pain free is a real novelty
If complete strangers can get past me, DH and four kids surrounding the trolley to touch bub then good luck to them. Although I've actually never had issue with people touching my babies, I have had people stop and comment or compliment, but I can count on one hand for all four kids the amount of people who have touched them at newborn stage.
Posted 20 April 2012 - 08:21 AM
I didn't take my DS2 out in public until he was about 2 weeks old. I was worried about whooping cough etc and I also didn't want to mess around with his sleeping routine while he was so young. Plus that early on, when the baby was asleep then so was I and I didn't want to miss out on any sleep, so I if I needed anything from the shops, I got my DH to go and get them. DH also took our four year old DS out to the park, shops, and all over the place so that I could have a quiet house to sleep in.
You have to do what feels right for you.
Edited by MAGS24, 20 April 2012 - 08:21 AM.
Posted 20 April 2012 - 08:31 AM
10 days here....went to the supermarket with DH as we were out of food, so that was five days after we left hospital. First time I went out with DS by myself was a week after that...in that case I was a bit scared but DH urged me to do it, saying it would get scarier the longer I left it. I think he was right about that, as I knew a mum who built it up in her head, and still hadn't taken her DS out by herself when he was six months old!
I agree with PPs about the sling idea, we used a hug-a-bub.
All that being said, I didnt have a c-sec to contend with.
Posted 20 April 2012 - 08:37 AM
DD was about 6 or 7 days old when I took her out of the house for the first time but that was only to go for a walk or go to a friends house etc. I didn't take her with me to the shops until she was about a month old I think. Maybe even a bit older
Posted 20 April 2012 - 08:42 AM
I also feel much more anxious this time around. There just wasn't that feeling of fear when I had the first two, esp. in regards to WC.
She is nearly 9 weeks and honestly I avoid densely populated areas, no public transport, we didn't go the Easter show, no grocery shopping esp. during busy times. For the first 3 weeks I had friends meet me at the school gates to take my eldest into schoo and drop her back afterwards.
But we do go out, I think its important for mental health! We are just careful and sensible.
When we do have to go out she is in the pram with muslin covering the pram or in the sling with muslin again. Lots of hand washing with Aqium, esp. for the other kids. Noone is allowed to touch her or hold her unless thery have had their WC booster and I have got better about not being embarrassed to ask.
Both doctors and midwives told me you just can't be too careful anymore
It feels slightly OTT to me but until she has her second lot of vaxxes at 4 months, I will continue to be overprotective. It5 probably doesn't help that I know 3 people who have had their newborns struggling for life having contracted WC
Posted 20 April 2012 - 08:44 AM
DD1 9 days old. We went to the coffee shops for a girls morning. Me, my mum and brand new DD.
DD2 9 days old. To the coffee shop again with Big sister, me, mum and our brand new DD2.
DD3 13 days. The day after we got home from hospital. I was desperate to get out of the house and do something normal after 2 weeks in hospital. Coffee again and some shopping.
Just go out when you feel ready. I always had my newborn wrapped up holding them or in a sling. So there is no risk of germs and people touching them.
Posted 20 April 2012 - 09:00 AM
I get serious cabin fever being cooped up in a hospital room, so we stopped in at IGA to grab something for dinner on the way home on day 3, still wearing our hospital bands.
Then the next day we went out to a baby shop to grab some warmer clothes for him as we had all cool summer clothing and it was unseasonably cold for November
I love the idea of using a sling or carrier while out at larger shopping centres or other places where there's lots of people, I used the boot cover on the pram which worked as well.
Posted 20 April 2012 - 02:19 PM
Apart from leaving the hospital my little one has been getting outside since 5 days old. First trip was to a cafe and the shops. I was worried at first but just kept a muslin wrap over the pram to keep out any nasties. Getting out and about each day for me is must.
Good luck and just head out when you feel ready but as you can see a lot of mothers have been getting out straight away.
Posted 20 April 2012 - 02:23 PM
Briefly on the way home (3 days) and properly, day 5.
Posted 20 April 2012 - 02:33 PM
DD1 was born at 33 weeks and came home at 22 days and we stopped at the supermarket on the way home so there was some food in the house. DD2 was born at 34 weeks and came home at 8 days but she had a couple of days at home because it was the start of June and it was too cold and yucky to go out.
Posted 20 April 2012 - 07:36 PM
I would have never thought twice with DS. We went to the shops day after we got home at day 7 as Dh wanted to buy me a birthday present. My mum took us as I had a c-section. He was in his pram the whole time.
Day 9 we went out to a resturant with friends for my birthday dinner.
This time my mum contracted whopping cough when I was 6 weeks pregnant. I think watching what she has gone through me has scared to go out for a little while anyway but we now have online shopping in WA which we didn't when Ds was born. I'm actually more scared of school runs after reading this.
Posted 20 April 2012 - 11:27 PM
the same day i came home from hospital
then 10 days after
Posted 22 April 2012 - 09:37 PM
DS is my third baby and I was also terrified of going out with him. I didn't give it a second thought with my girls.
I think I went to a cafe when he was about 2 weeks old. Shopping center when he was about 4 weeks.
Edited by Delillah1, 22 April 2012 - 09:39 PM.
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