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#1 J-A

Posted 19 April 2012 - 10:41 AM

Hi

I know this is going to sound like a really stupid question considering I am the mum of an 18, 14 & 2 year old but I am having a panic attack about taking my newborn out in public for the first time.

My DD is 6 days old today & DH wants to go food shopping and all of a sudden I am having a panic attack about taking her out. I suppose it doesn't help when you read all the awful whooping cough outbreaks.

So can others advise when they took their newborn out for the first time & am I being a little over concerned. I have a whole list of reasons to feel very scared about something happening to her but don't have the time to go into it. I just know that I have never felt this scared before..

Any input would be great.

J-A

#2 nattles88

Posted 19 April 2012 - 10:44 AM

I would do what feels right for you. I took my DD out when she was 5 days old & I was a little uncomfortable about it but soon got over it.

Sometimes you have no choice, you can't keep hiding in the house.

#3 QueenIanthe

Posted 19 April 2012 - 10:45 AM

My third son we stopped at the shops on the way home from hospital so he was 2 days old. I never worried about taking them out as newborns. It's a lot easier than taking them out when they are 2 wink.gif

#4 cinnabubble

Posted 19 April 2012 - 10:45 AM

Five days old and three days old. If you let panic het the better of you now, it'll become harder not to give in to it later.

#5 lynneyours

Posted 19 April 2012 - 10:50 AM

DD1 I took out to dinner in Leicester Square at a restaurant/pub on her 7th day, which also involved getting the tube in London.

DD2 I took out from day 3 and we moved from UK to Australia at 17days.  

OP - go out.  No time like the present and once you've done it once, it gets easier, as you'd remember.

#6 Soontobegran

Posted 19 April 2012 - 10:50 AM

As soon as I got out of hospital.
My babies were safe inside their prams and I was not concerned they would come into contact with anything.
Would I have taken them up to the pre school before they were immunised to be cuddled? No.

#7 Bluenomi

Posted 19 April 2012 - 10:51 AM

We took DD to the shops when she was a week old. I had one shop assistant amazed I'd left the house so early!

#8 MGB

Posted 19 April 2012 - 10:53 AM

Do what you feel comfortable with, my DD is 7 weeks old and she only had her first outing to the shops on Friday.

#9 Stronger

Posted 19 April 2012 - 10:53 AM

I would take her out...but I wouldn't put her in a baby capsule trolley - I would get DH to push the trolley and I would have baby in the pram or a sling (or vice versa) and that way it minimises her exposure to any germs!

You can't stay in the house for the next 8 weeks to immunisation time!

Congratulations as well on her arrival!!
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#10 Squeekums Da Feral

Posted 19 April 2012 - 10:54 AM

Dd was 32 hours old. On the way home from the hospital i wanted real food lol.

#11 bakesgirls

Posted 19 April 2012 - 10:55 AM

DD1 was 6 days old.
DD2 was 2 days old
DD3 was 2 days old.

#12 marley*and*me

Posted 19 April 2012 - 10:55 AM

On the way home from the hospital. We had no baby things so ordered cot, etc then went to big w for some clothes then woolies for groceries as there was nothing to eat at home!!

#13 Escapin

Posted 19 April 2012 - 10:58 AM

We walked home from the hospital, so DD would have been 4 days old.

#14 Kiki M

Posted 19 April 2012 - 11:01 AM

I had a friend ask me this just a few days ago . . she was wondering if she should take her 11 day old DD out to a shopping centre.I told her that you have to get on with life, so to do what feels right.

But my DD was 5 weeks prem, and the nurses in the special care nursery said that if I did take her out, to put a blanket or wrap over the pram so people weren't looking at her and breathing on her. As it turns out I did wait until after her first round of jabs, but perhaps I was an over-cautious first time mum. Although after reading that very sad story about the baby that died after contracting whooping cough, perhaps not . . .

#15 tothebeach

Posted 19 April 2012 - 11:02 AM

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Would I have taken them up to the pre school before they were immunised to be cuddled? No.

Uh oh - we sent DS2 with DS1 for show and tell at 4 days old.  I didn't actually think too much about it to be honest.


#16 Feral-as-Meggs

Posted 19 April 2012 - 11:04 AM

I think it's entirely reasonable for you to cocoon a bit longer.  In plenty of cultures the new mum and baby are confined to the house for the first month or so, and everyone else looks after them.  

I took my son for walks and to the local cafe and shops from the time we got home (day 6) but it would have been more than a month before we went to a shopping centre or anywhere like that.  

But if your worries are troubling you too much maybe it would be a good idea to have a chat with a counsellor?

#17 newyearbaby

Posted 19 April 2012 - 11:09 AM

I try and minimise outings for the first 6 weeks or so. I received some good advice from the midwives after having my last boy, that said if you do have to go out, make sure you carry them in a carrier close to you so people don't peer and breathe into the pram. And if you can't carry them, put the rain cover over the pram.

#18 GoldenBlack

Posted 19 April 2012 - 11:09 AM

Day four - as soon as I could walk (badly, holding onto the pram while my partner pushed it) again.  After what I went through with the birth there was no damn way I was going to be trapped in a house.

After that, every day, even though the first few were a fifteen or so minute walk to my letterbox.  The baby found it much easier than I did!

#19 GoodGollyMolly

Posted 19 April 2012 - 11:12 AM

6 days old we went to a friends wedding about an hours drive away . I was really nervous (was having BFing issues and it was also a really hot 36 degree day) but we managed and I was really glad I went once we got there.

But do whatever feels comfortable for you. There's a whole lifetime for you to get out the house and if you just want cuddles on the couch for now do it original.gif

#20 whydoibother

Posted 19 April 2012 - 11:13 AM

well the day after we came out of the hospital all 3 times.  DD I had to go with mum to get some bras I was bearly able to walk (forceps) but had to get a bigger bra :/  I had underestimated how big my booobs would be.
Noah we had to do food shopping.Sam the same.


#21 xeddy

Posted 19 April 2012 - 11:17 AM

We went out to the shops after we were discharged from hospital at 5 days old.

#22 muminbusiness

Posted 19 April 2012 - 11:18 AM

Born in the morning. Had to go to shops on the way home. So about 4 hours old.


#23 JuniperSun

Posted 19 April 2012 - 11:19 AM

Listen to your instincts. You only had a baby 6 days ago you need to be resting as well as minimising your little ones exposure to the outside world.

If your DH wants to do food shopping let him go - I'm sure he's perfectly capable of doing it on his own.

Our first outing was a trip to the park. We had a gentle stroll around the lake DD safely tucked up in the sling, enjoying the sunshine. That is my idea of a first outing not a mad dash around the supermarket!

#24 fezzy

Posted 19 April 2012 - 11:23 AM

I can't remember.... it wasn't something I had considered.  I do remember DD2 was born on a Saturday and on the Wed (so 4 days old) we went to playgroup and the mums were amazed I was out and about and I remember wondering why they'd think twice about me going out with bubs.

I always had my girls in a 'hug a bub' type wrap so they would have been well protected from other people touching and breathing on them. I had never considered at the time their low immunity and I must admit if I had a newborn now the whooping cough thing might get me paranoid.

#25 tazcan

Posted 19 April 2012 - 11:25 AM

1 day old to collect DD from daycare. I wasn't happy about it though - I felt hard done by that DH  took no time off work and it was business as usual. My milk took a long time to come in and I think I should have had a few days at least to rest.




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