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#1 paulgonzal88

Posted 18 April 2012 - 02:34 PM

My wife is two months pregnant and her friend has recommended acupuncture to help with her stress and back aches. There is a place names "The Pagoda Tree" across the street from us that offers this service. Does anyone here have any experience (good and bad) with this? Are there any risks that she may not be aware of?

Edited by paulgonzal88, 18 April 2012 - 08:17 PM.


#2 Expelliarmus

Posted 18 April 2012 - 02:43 PM

http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/12481955

http://www.babycenter.com/406_is-acupunctu...ancy_1246184.bc

http://pregnant.thebump.com/pregnancy/firs...-pregnancy.aspx

There are no indications that it is harmful to pregnant women.



#3 Elleness

Posted 18 April 2012 - 02:43 PM

Should I let my wife....
What do I tell her, I dont want to break her heart and just say know [sic]......

Your wife may respect you enough to value your opinion in whether to do acupuncture or not, but it's her body, she doesn't need your approval/permission.

ETA: To actually answer question.... a quick google comes up with this http://www.babycenter.com/406_is-acupunctu...ancy_1246184.bc

Edited by Elleness, 18 April 2012 - 02:44 PM.


#4 FreeRangeBabies

Posted 18 April 2012 - 02:43 PM

Have you googled?
Acupuncture is quite common at all stages of pregnancy, although, not everyone is a believer.
Maybe sit down with your wife and have a Discussion with her about it.
Don't let this other person be an influence (either positive or negative) in your and your wife's decision making process.

#5 Majeix

Posted 18 April 2012 - 02:49 PM

QUOTE (Elleness @ 18/04/2012, 02:43 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Your wife may respect you enough to value your opinion in whether to do acupuncture or not, but it's her body, she doesn't need your approval/permission.


This. While I have never had acupuncture I belive it can be quite beneficial and is generally considered safe in pregnancy.

#6 ubermum

Posted 18 April 2012 - 03:00 PM

"Should I let my wife?"  Are you for real? She is your wife, not your child, decisions should be jointly made. Most people cut the "obey" out of their marriage vows. You don't want to say no? If you don't start treating your wife like an equal you are going to have much bigger problems than deciding if accupuncture is safe. Also, the whole hating one of her friends for giving her stupid ideas makes you sound controlling and not very respectful of your wifes ability to think for herself. Your whole post makes you sound like my ex.......

From all I have read, accupuncture is safe in pregnancy and many people find it beneficial.



#7 ~Sorceress~

Posted 18 April 2012 - 03:10 PM

It's your wife's body, her choice original.gif .

And having seen acupuncturists at work, I think it can be very helpful during pregnancy original.gif .

#8 butterflydreaming

Posted 18 April 2012 - 03:18 PM

Nat at the pagoda tree is a wonderful knowledgle women and is well known for dealing with all things related to pregnancy, in fact the pagoda trees reputation has come from the fantastic work they do with women.

#9 Mumsyto2

Posted 18 April 2012 - 03:19 PM

QUOTE (ubermum @ 18/04/2012, 04:00 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
"Should I let my wife?"  Are you for real? She is your wife, not your child, decisions should be jointly made. Most people cut the "obey" out of their marriage vows. You don't want to say no? If you don't start treating your wife like an equal you are going to have much bigger problems than deciding if accupuncture is safe. Also, the whole hating one of her friends for giving her stupid ideas makes you sound controlling and not very respectful of your wifes ability to think for herself.

Completely agree.

I actually feel very sorry for both your wife and child given the fact you feel you have the power to 'let her do things' and say yes or no.  You are very very lucky you are not my DH .......  
The worrying part of your post had nothing to do with acupuncture but rather your controlling behaviour.  It's not a good situation for a child to be born into at all.

For what it's worth there is no evidence acupuncture presents any harm in this situation however this is a decision for your wife to make.

Edited by Mumsyto2, 18 April 2012 - 03:19 PM.


#10 Hausfrau

Posted 18 April 2012 - 03:19 PM

I really only clicked on this because of the hilarious title.

I've had 3 different midwives tell me to get accupuncture over 2 pregnancies so I'd say it is considered safe.

What isn't safe would be telling a pregnant chic that you won't let her do something with her own body. I've heard a lot of blood noses follow after doing something so risky.

#11 DontPokeTheBearMum

Posted 18 April 2012 - 03:25 PM

Only if she's cleaned her room.

#12 MagsJee

Posted 18 April 2012 - 03:30 PM

QUOTE (CaptainBlunty @ 18/04/2012, 03:25 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Only if she's cleaned her room.

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#13 tinkster23

Posted 18 April 2012 - 03:54 PM

QUOTE (CaptainBlunty @ 18/04/2012, 01:25 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Only if she's cleaned her room.



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#14 paulgonzal88

Posted 18 April 2012 - 04:12 PM

People Calm down, its my first baby and I am inexperienced about these things, thats why I was seeping for suggestions, and there is nothing about controlling my wife here, i was just worried about the thought of acupuncture during pregnancy thats it, and Thank you everyone for your cooperation, Ill set an appointment with The Pagoda Tree and give her a surprise later this evening...
Thank you Everyone

#15 ReadySetRace

Posted 18 April 2012 - 04:22 PM

I survived early pregnancy acupuncture, so did DD3.  Can highly recommend it - my first ever contact with alternative medicine.

However I made the appointment and then told DH, there was no "will he let me"...."will he say no"  please remember she is an adult and has the right to make these decisions herself, sure she can / should discuss it with you but you sound concerningly paternalistic.

#16 mum201

Posted 18 April 2012 - 04:33 PM

QUOTE (paulgonzal88 @ 18/04/2012, 04:12 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
and there is nothing about controlling my wife here


Yes there is!  Look at your title!  SHOULD I LET MY WIFE...........  If the title was, say 'My wife is 2 months pregnant and wants to do acupuncture - is this dangerous?' nobody would say anything.  But the fact that you 'let' or 'forbid' your wife from doing anything really gets women's noses out of joint.

If your wife came on here and said my husband won't let me {insert anything in here}, there would be choruses of 'leave his controlling a$$' or 'you guys need desperate counselling'.

#17 librablonde

Posted 18 April 2012 - 04:42 PM

I had acupuncture  during early pregnancy and it was brilliant in help me reduce my morning sickness and giving me some much needed relaxation and energy. I'd recommend it to your wife.

PS: and I hope you aren't as controlling in real life as you sound in your post, OP. Your wife doesn't need to seek your permission, you don't need to "let her" do anything ddoh.gif , she's not your inferior or child or servant  nno.gif

#18 paulgonzal88

Posted 18 April 2012 - 04:52 PM

QUOTE (mum201 @ 18/04/2012, 04:33 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Yes there is!  Look at your title!  SHOULD I LET MY WIFE...........  If the title was, say 'My wife is 2 months pregnant and wants to do acupuncture - is this dangerous?' nobody would say anything.  But the fact that you 'let' or 'forbid' your wife from doing anything really gets women's noses out of joint.

If your wife came on here and said my husband won't let me {insert anything in here}, there would be choruses of 'leave his controlling a$' or 'you guys need desperate counselling'.


No No I am not controlling at all lol, I just panicked and immediately posted it and now i realize how bad it sounds...haha, I just freaked out thats it, but well after enough reading i find it a very helpful thing to do, thank you original.gif

#19 andrea79

Posted 18 April 2012 - 04:53 PM

Can I just say that I completely understand where you are all coming from with your "controlling" comments but sometimes the wording of posts and titles can be read a little too literally.

My reading of it was that he was concerned for his wife and his baby. Remember, it's his baby too so he has every right to be concerned if something she does will cause harm to it. The same as if she was considering sky diving or going on an alcoholic binge, yes it's her body but it's also his baby she is carrying.

And just so you know I'm the first to stick up for womens rights!!!!

#20 ubermum

Posted 18 April 2012 - 05:48 PM

QUOTE (paulgonzal88 @ 18/04/2012, 02:34 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
My wife is 2 months  pregnant now, she has this friend who I hate soo much, that prick always gives  her stupid ideas, and last night my wife was telling me about this acupuncture  thing, it freaked me out honestly, but she said she would be stress free and  half lesser back aches with that treatment, this place named "The Pagoda Tree" just  across the street offers this service, Is this Acupuncture safe for her and our  baby? And has anyone taken such service?? What do I tell her, I dont want to  break her heart and just say no...pleasee help!!!


QUOTE (andrea79 @ 18/04/2012, 04:53 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Can I just say that I completely understand where you are all coming from with your "controlling" comments but sometimes the wording of posts and titles can be read a little too literally.
My reading of it was that he was concerned for his wife and his baby. Remember, it's his baby too so he has every right to be concerned if something she does will cause harm to it. The same as if she was considering sky diving or going on an alcoholic binge, yes it's her body but it's also his baby she is carrying.


There is concern and then there is what the op posted. It's controlling. It is hard to take what I have bolded any other way. As someone that lived through a domestically violent relationship (which I am NOT saying this is), I know how to recognise control, because this is where it all started in my abusive relationship. This post rang big warning bells for me, and the op needs to take on board some of the concern of posters in this thread. His attitudes are warning signs. Life is only going to get more stressful once this child arrives and I would hate to think he progresses with these attitudes.

#21 bright*future

Posted 18 April 2012 - 06:01 PM

If it is a reputable acupuncturist it will be fine & beneficial.

#22 Drowningnotwaving

Posted 18 April 2012 - 06:22 PM

Hi op

Maybe you should change your title  wink.gif

I have not had a baby but heard good things about acupuncture. Maybe ask for if she is really keen on it or if it was just something she mentioned after her friend told her about it and go from there. Good luck with the baby. Dont let EB scare you.

What the hell kucingcantik? What is wrong with you? That's not cool.

Edited by Drowningnotwaving, 18 April 2012 - 06:29 PM.


#23 Kucingcantik

Posted 18 April 2012 - 06:34 PM

The response to that second question seemed suss to me. If it was a genuine heartfelt response I apologise to the OP. It just seemed odd, given the other info about the poster.

That and the fact that when I posted he had only had 2 posts on EB, seemed like a troll.

If he is not, I apologise again. Not intending to be nasty at all.

#24 paulgonzal88

Posted 18 April 2012 - 06:47 PM

wow, most of you people were of no help at all, specially that person who was relating me to her ex...but whatever it is, i got my answers, thank you to those people with the right information
This topic was one messed up topic which i had started due to a panic attack..lol...people can be soo shallow minded even here..
Kucingcantik, yes those yahoo posts were mine, and both of them are true...screw it guys, this topic aint going anywhere anymore...Ive got my answers...Thanks People who Helped

#25 Drowningnotwaving

Posted 18 April 2012 - 07:13 PM

Paul could you say what your concerns are? Is it the hygiene of the needles? Maybe someone could help put your fears at rest.

And maybe the pp could delete those yahoo things....

Edited by Drowningnotwaving, 18 April 2012 - 07:14 PM.





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