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#1 Bananasplit

Posted 18 April 2012 - 12:30 PM

DH got a speeding fine yesterday, thought he was in a 60 zone but in a  50 zone. Was doing 62km/h. I wasn't happy as our budget is really tight  but I figured there is nothing we can do about it so I said I don't want  to talk about it at all and it will just have to be paid. All night he  kept saying thank you for not reacting and I kept saying stop talking  about it.

He already punished himself by cancelling a night out with the boys because of the fine.

How would you react if your DH got a speeding fine?

#2 Bluenomi

Posted 18 April 2012 - 12:34 PM

I'd laugh. DH has an almighty holier than thou attitude about speeding and always says that people couldn't complain about speed camera because they shouldn't be speeding. If he could a speeding fine I'd have so much fun with the payback  biggrin.gif

#3 ~*Erica*~

Posted 18 April 2012 - 12:34 PM

My DH got one just before Christmas, it happens.  It was his first fine in about 8 years.  I wasn't worried.

Cancelling a boys night out over a speeding fine seems a bit over the top.  How much was the fine?

#4 Sam Wheat

Posted 18 April 2012 - 12:36 PM

My dp received a speeding fine for 5km over the limit, I couldn't believe it, 'Bloody idiot' was all I said, not a huge deal, as long as he learns his lesson, I wouldn't make a big thing out of it.
I'm more annoyed at the one he received on Monday, he was pulled over for a random breath test and couldn't produce his license, he had left it in his work truck, he recited his license number but it was still an $88 fine.

Edited by Sharkies, 18 April 2012 - 12:46 PM.

#5 Bananasplit

Posted 18 April 2012 - 12:38 PM

QUOTE (~*Erica*~ @ 18/04/2012, 12:34 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
My DH got one just before Christmas, it happens.  It was his first fine in about 8 years.  I wasn't worried.

Cancelling a boys night out over a speeding fine seems a bit over the top.  How much was the fine?

The fine was $214 I think. He cancelled the night out because we are in a really tight financial situation and he didn't feel right spending money on booze as well as the fine.

Edited by Bananasplit, 18 April 2012 - 12:39 PM.

#6 itsaboysworld

Posted 18 April 2012 - 12:39 PM

Id say nothing. Hes a grown up. He knows he made a mistake. No one wants to get fined (at least I hope not).

#7 YodaTheWrinkledOne

Posted 18 April 2012 - 12:39 PM

I pretty much said exactly the same thing when DH got a speeding fine a few years ago.  "Well, that's ****ed.  Oh well, let's pay it.  Don't do it again."  That was about the limit of my conversation with it.  DH apologised.  We moved on.  What else can you do?

Then again, we've only had two speeding fines between the two of us over 15 years together, so it's not as if this kind of expense comes up often.

Edited by YodaTheWrinkledOne, 18 April 2012 - 12:40 PM.

#8 Bananasplit

Posted 18 April 2012 - 12:40 PM

QUOTE (MadameCatty @ 18/04/2012, 12:38 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Dh got THREE within two months.  I was annoyed at the first, seriously p*ssed at the second and LIVID by the third.

I would be livid if it was 3 but I figure this is the first one and it could happen to anyone so not to think too much about it.

#9 HRH Countrymel

Posted 18 April 2012 - 12:40 PM

I'd be a bit annoyed but not grumpy. We have been together for 12 years and in that time only I have ever received a speeding fine (108 in a 100 zone.... I thought it was 110, it wasn't!)

If your budget is really tight then good on him for cancelling his night out - that should help balance things financially.

#10 Soontobegran

Posted 18 April 2012 - 12:41 PM

I'd be peeved...not because of the money aspect but because he should have known it was 50km and not 60km.
Ignorance of the speed limit just doesn't cut it. I have been guilty too in a roadworks area where it was 40 km and I thought it ended when the work ended but it dodn't end until the next speed sign.
I was doing 62 in a 40 thinking it was a 60 zone!

#11 chicken_bits

Posted 18 April 2012 - 12:41 PM

Same thing happened to my DH. Thought he was in a 70 zone and it was a 60 zone. We saw the camera flash and went 'oh crap'. He was clocked at 68. In this case we just sucked it up and paid for it with part of our car maintenance budget.

ETA: it was an unfamiliar road that we had turned into and hadn't seen a sign yet.

Edited by chicken_bits, 18 April 2012 - 12:43 PM.

#12 Julie3Girls

Posted 18 April 2012 - 12:44 PM

As a one off, I would just said when does need to be paid, and let it go.

Your DH cancelling his night out - If things were really tight financially, then I'd greatly appreciate it. But wouldn't expect it/ask it. Maybe that's also because my DH doesn't get out much with his mates, so I'd probably still encourage him to go.

#13 Leafprincess

Posted 18 April 2012 - 12:45 PM

In our house: You copped the fine, you pay it.

No point getting upset at him, he didn't know, wasn't doing it deliberately.

#14 Canberra Chick

Posted 18 April 2012 - 12:45 PM

I'd be surprised, as he's such a careful driver. But I'd say 'oh well, be more careful next time' and then we'd pay it. If it was his second or third I'd be furious (and worrying at the change in character).

The only traffic offence either of us has had is a parking fine at the hospital - I couldn't see the 'staff only' sign (DS was 2 mo, sleep deprived, late for appointment etc) and got a $70 fine. Bit annoying, but what can you do but pay and be more careful next time?

#15 Guest_tigerdog_*

Posted 18 April 2012 - 12:50 PM

I'd do what you did but get really mad when he kept rubbing in the 'thank-yous' - that would really be pushing it with me.

#16 Just a marshmallow

Posted 18 April 2012 - 12:52 PM

I think just let it go.  He has accepted and tried to rectify the financial part by giving up his boys night.  Lesson learned, I'd say.

Is it his first speeding fine? Or at least first in five years?  

If so you can write to the apporpriate authorities and ask for a warning.  Two years ago I received my first speeding fine (ever) and I wrote a letter asking for leniency as I had never had a traffic infringement in nearly 20 years of driving.  I told them that I accept that I was speeding (108 in 100) but that it was due to no traffic on the road and me not checking my speedo.  They let me off with a warning.  (In Vic).

My husband did a simialr thing when he received a red light fine a few years ago - it was his first in 10 years.  They let him off too. (This was NSW)

#17 prettypenny

Posted 18 April 2012 - 12:52 PM

How is his driving record before this? If he hasn't any "priors" he can always write to the authority that issued the ticket and request leniency.

I got pinged doing 67 in a 60kph zone and wrote in asking for it be revised to a warning. I admitted I was wrong (which I was) and that it was a lapse in concentration. They kindly cancelled it.

They can only say no.

#18 KLF84

Posted 18 April 2012 - 12:53 PM

I got my first speeding fine last year. At the time we were on a really tight budget, so we elected to pay it off weekly instead of a lump sum.

#19 EmmaBlue

Posted 18 April 2012 - 12:56 PM

The exact same thing happened to me re the 50 not 60 km zone and the officer even admitted it was easy to speed on that street as it is wide and clear... it happens...

Needless to say only a few weeks later DH also got booked speeding so now we are out $400 odd and its tight for us too with number two arriving in a couple of months...

That's life I guess! original.gif

It was really nice of your husband to cancel a night out with the boys too original.gif

#20 Fanny McPhail

Posted 18 April 2012 - 12:56 PM

I probably wouldn't react at all.

If he was speeding and got caught, the fine is punishment enough. Its not my job to make him feel worse. I understand why your DH has decided not to go out and think, in the circumstances you have described, was a sensible decision but again his to make.

#21 follies

Posted 18 April 2012 - 12:58 PM

My partner got one driving to Canberra for business, on a double demerits week, without his P plates on.

$900 and loosing his license for 3 months after not having one after a 4 year suspension (don't ask, before we met) and 3 years of laziness in getting a new one was punishment enough.

He tried to hide it from me but I found the letter.

Now he drives like a Grandmother, which is just as annoying.

#22 Guest_holy_j_*

Posted 18 April 2012 - 12:59 PM

Totally unlikely as he rarely drives, but in the past when he has, oh well, don't do it again, and make some room in the budget to pay it off for the next couple of months. As he has reacted to me when I have gotten speeding fines in the past.

#23 Working_Mummy

Posted 18 April 2012 - 01:00 PM

I think you both handled it like responsible adults given the tight circumstances.

You didn't blow your cool - it was not something that happened before/regularly which could be classed as an accident / warning, ie let him deal with it.

He has taken appropriate measures to ensure it is paid, even if it does mean sacrificing his night out.

#24 YandiGirl

Posted 18 April 2012 - 01:04 PM

My lovely man got one a couple of weeks ago. I said, "that'll teach you!" End of story.

He was mortified though. Which actually surprised me as he speeds a bit, 5-10ks over the limit, a lot! I keep banging on about how you don't get fines if you don't speed, but he doesn't always listen.

#25 Oriental lily

Posted 18 April 2012 - 01:09 PM

Depends on how it happened.

If it was an accident like yours op I would just shrug it of as being a bit of misfortune.

If it was 70 in a 60 zone I would be a bit annoyed for being careless. Anymore than 10k over I would be rather p*ssy if the area was a well known speed.

For being dangerous and reckless and not paying enough attention.

Ultimately though if it is a rare occurrence then what's the point in getting upset over.

We all make mistakes.

The only time I would be furious is if it was happening far to often.

I have been driving for 11 years and DH for 18 and between us we only have gotten two tickets. One each.

So its a rarity.

Edited by Oriental lily, 18 April 2012 - 01:10 PM.

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