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#1 LittleBean12

Posted 18 April 2012 - 09:50 AM

Hi everyone,

I'm new to the forum, but have been browsing through the various topics and it's great to hear from other women going through the same thing as me. I found out I was pregnant (first bub!) last week (EDD 19th Dec) and am finding myself caught in this 'emotional limbo' between extreme elation (wanting to shout from the rooftop!), and constantly being reminded that this could all end at any moment with a miscarriage.

All I want to do is celebrate by shopping for cute little baby things, but I know logically that it's way too early for that, and if something did happen it would be horrible to have that stuff around the house.

I can't think about anything but being pregnant (trouble focussing at work), and it feels like the last week has dragged by - I can't imagine what I'll be like by the 12th week in time for my first scan! It seems like a lifetime away.

I hate this feeling of being so excited, but not really being 'allowed' to be excited - does that make sense?

#2 beachmumof1

Posted 18 April 2012 - 09:59 AM

Firstly CONGRATULATIONS!!! Your first is such a roller coaster of emotions..
I can remember feeling exactly like you with my first and my beautiful sister said to me if the worst case scenario does happen do you want to look back with love or fear??
I chose love, I embraced my pregnancy and thankfully all was fine. I had a scan early on that pointed to possible fetal demise but all was good.

Remember your hormones are also playing a pretty hefty part of this limbo so just go with it, some days you will feel intense elation and others dreadful fear, I think its all part of the process.


All the best with your pregnancy and I wish you a smooth journey


Sorry just realised this was a DIG, I picked it up from We Are Discussing.....

Anywasy Good Luck


#3 3beautifulDS

Posted 18 April 2012 - 01:09 PM

LittleBean12 - CONGRATULATIONS!!!

im 5wks with my 4th child (due 22nd dec) ... but i know where your coming from as in excited and want to shout from the roof top but cant/wont tell anyone tell we 12 wks (if i can hold out that long).
We decided not 2 tell anyone because we have our family could be quite negative about us having another baby but this is our choice... anyway i want to tell the world and finding it hard not too esp when im around my family and friends. My SIL is due in 5 wks but she will tell the world if she knows. i went baby shopping for her baby shower and i so wanted to buy my 1st outfit for my lil bub but i was with my cuzzy and she would of asked to many questions so i couldnt.

i just wanted to let you know your not the only one in this 'emotional limbo' and some times it makes you feel better knowing your not the only one thinkin these 'crazy' things..



good luck with your pregnacny and wish you all the best

ill see you around in DIG

#4 Guest_Retro_Mumma_*

Posted 18 April 2012 - 01:15 PM

I feel the exact same way every day, im due december 16th.

DH and I tried for so long to fall pregnant and now I finally am pregnant I go from feeling surreal like wow is this really happening, to yes it is happening im pregnant and being so elated to im only a few weeks pregnant anything can happen and feeling scared.

There is nothing we can do about it though. The cards have been dealt we just have to look after ourselves the best we can and just hope for the best.

Im trying not to look at baby things. DH pulled out my maternity clothes from my last pregnancy and it brought back so many memeories.

Im not even going to think about putting bubs room together until after my 20 week scan and I find out everything is ok and the sex of the baby or babies at this stage you never know!

#5 accidentally_preg

Posted 18 April 2012 - 01:19 PM

I know what you mean! I am so scared about it all ending because I know how common it is. But I am SO excited too! I think my level of excitement and happiness has surprised me as bubs wasn't planned. And I think this makes the scared-ness so much worse!

I just want to tell everybody  eexcite.gif

#6 ms flib

Posted 18 April 2012 - 01:21 PM

Congratulations!

Enjoy it! Go and buy something for the baby. Something small but gorgeous that would be good for either sex.

Whatever happens, you can still acknowledge this wonderful time!!

#7 cosmic79

Posted 18 April 2012 - 01:30 PM

I feel exactly like this too.  It's my third pregnancy.  I worried all the way through the first two.

I want to wake up tomorrow and be 20 weeks pregnant.

You're right.  It COULD end at any moment and that is what scares me the most.  I'm getting superstitious about ridiculous things, scared of "jinxing" myself, scared, scared, scared.  I'm also worried about the chance of M/C and, if that happens - (touch wood that it doesn't) - then I'll have to start all over again.  These have been the longest three weeks of my life and there's still so much longer to go.

Edited by cosmic79, 18 April 2012 - 01:31 PM.


#8 FourLittleLoves

Posted 18 April 2012 - 02:04 PM

These first few weeks are the hardest and until you see your little baby bouncing around at your 12wk scan you pretty much worry if everything is ok every waking minute (or that might just be me). Constant toilet checks freaking out when you move suddenly and feel a pain in your stomach, when your MS subsides for a few hours and you really hope it does come back.

This is my 3rd pregnancy and will be my 4th baby I feel more on edge than my last two. But like the last two I wont be buying anything until after the 20wk scan.

Congratulations on your little bun in the oven and I hope every day that all of us in the DIG get to spent the next 8 months together. original.gif

#9 JuniorGandR

Posted 18 April 2012 - 07:20 PM

Firstly CONGRATULATIONS!!!

Secondly, as many of the PPs have said, you are not alone.  I am finding this first trimester so much harder this time around, especially after a previous m/c at 6 weeks.

Having said that, today I had a dating scan (for reassurance really, as I was pretty sure of my dates) and I got to see my bub, and the heart beat original.gif  

If you are worried / concerned, it could be something to put your mind at ease.  

Otherwise if you want to go shopping - go shopping!  Spoil yourself and bubs.  And I hope to see you around the DIG.

#10 accidentally_preg

Posted 18 April 2012 - 07:31 PM

Thanks for all the good advice and well wishes! I'm BURSTING with excitement now as all my blood tests came back perfect and I have a referral for a dating scan! eexcite.gif

Just wanna see a heartbeat!  wub.gif

#11 Red nut

Posted 19 April 2012 - 10:54 AM

I couldn't wait until 10 weeks for a scan! My GP kindly gave me a referral for absolutely no good reason other than I wanted one....

#12 wow im pregnant

Posted 19 April 2012 - 09:48 PM

Congrats on your wonderful news!
This is my first pregnancy about 7 weeks, it's weird, I'm excited, but then nervous and scared all the same time, so don't feel like screaming from the rafters... I feel guilty though about feeling like this, shouldn't I be bursting to tell everyone?

#13 MuppetGirl

Posted 20 April 2012 - 10:14 AM

QUOTE
I feel guilty though about feeling like this, shouldn't I be bursting to tell everyone?


It is completely normal to feel worried and anxious about everything being ok. Please don't feel guilty, what you are going through is normal.

OP - It is a very anxious time but as PPs have said, try to find little enjoyments in it. In all likelihood your pregnancy and baby will continue along just fine and there is nothing wrong with browsing the baby stores, picking up a few pieces here and there and just letting yourself have those special moments.

I am terrified something will go wrong with my pg but I am also just trying to relax. I have been to 2 baby stores, picked my pram (not bought yet) and purchased a couple of small things already original.gif

#14 LittleBean12

Posted 20 April 2012 - 12:53 PM

Thank you so much everyone for your kind words! Its so nice to know i'm not alone feeling like this.

I've had some cramping the last few days, so I called my doctor and he has referred me to get an early scan in 2 weeks, so I'm sooooo excited about that. The thought of waiting till my 12 weeks scan was just too much!

Hopefully all will be well at my early scan and I will hear a little heart beat. I think that should keep me going / keep my mind at ease!

Thanks again everyone.



#15 4WD_Baby#1

Posted 20 April 2012 - 12:59 PM

QUOTE (LittleBean12 @ 18/04/2012, 09:50 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Hi everyone,

I'm new to the forum, but have been browsing through the various topics and it's great to hear from other women going through the same thing as me. I found out I was pregnant (first bub!) last week (EDD 19th Dec) and am finding myself caught in this 'emotional limbo' between extreme elation (wanting to shout from the rooftop!), and constantly being reminded that this could all end at any moment with a miscarriage.

All I want to do is celebrate by shopping for cute little baby things, but I know logically that it's way too early for that, and if something did happen it would be horrible to have that stuff around the house.

I can't think about anything but being pregnant (trouble focussing at work), and it feels like the last week has dragged by - I can't imagine what I'll be like by the 12th week in time for my first scan! It seems like a lifetime away.

I hate this feeling of being so excited, but not really being 'allowed' to be excited - does that make sense?


Completely. I felt the same until i reached 12 weeks. Most women do i think. I actually had a talk to a social worker who told me to enjoy being pregnant, live in the moment. It really helped. Now im 18 wks and only excited.

#16 4WD_Baby#1

Posted 20 April 2012 - 01:06 PM

Ps i went for a scan at 6 weeks and there were only 2 sacs, no babies. It wasnt til 8 weeks i saw one baby. Other had no heartbeat. I had bleeding for a month. All this and im still pregnant! And everything at the 16 week scan was great! Cant wait for our next one in two weeks.




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