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#1 matt1972

Posted 17 April 2012 - 09:38 PM

3 weeks to go if we are on schedule and tonight all of a sudden the enormity of it all has just walloped me.
There are no what will I do type thoughts, nothing that constructive, just butterflies.

We are as ready as we will ever be and this is something that I have been looking forward to for years and am ready to get stuck into everything that awaits but geez it's daunting.

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#2 EoinCuinn

Posted 18 April 2012 - 07:40 AM

I hear ya.

You'll love it  biggrin.gif

#3 Jenferal

Posted 18 April 2012 - 07:44 AM

Honestly, some times you'll hate it, but it's the most amazing thing you can do! They reach in to your chest with their teeny tiny hands and grab your heart and never let go!

#4 jcbenny

Posted 18 April 2012 - 07:57 AM

Awww enjoy the few moments you have just carefree... Once baby comes your heart will be in awe... your real life is about to begin!!

And you'll absolutely love it!!

#5 Funky Cold Ribena

Posted 18 April 2012 - 07:57 AM

Yep, me too.
3 weeks to go here till showtime also.

All the best x

#6 Buff Daddy

Posted 18 April 2012 - 12:42 PM

As a father of 2 I know where you're coming from.

With the first (DS) I had no clue what to expect or what to do or how I would cope, even after seeing my siblings start their families.

When DD arrived 5 years later, the same feelings came up!

My advice would be just get in and go with the flow.  Baby will soon train you!!

All the best and enjoy the fantastic, thrilling, scary, rewarding ride that is fatherhood!

Buff   biggrin.gif

#7 bubzillaiscoming

Posted 18 April 2012 - 12:50 PM

Yep you can't prepare, but it just happens to you!!

I'm expecting #2 in 4 weeks and have just reached the same stage as you biggrin.gif

Freaking out big time and I have already survived it once!! happy.gif

As everyone else has said, it will all just happen - and when I demanded advice from my lovely mum re DS, she just calmly replied that she couldn't tell me anything (despite having had 4 children), that I would come home from the hospital, the baby would start crying at some stage and I would make a choice about feeding it, leaving it, rocking it and so on and once that first decision was made, I would be off! Sounds weird and unhelpful, but she was right!!

Good luck - and for god's sake, for the next 3 weeks SLEEP IN every single day!!!

x

#8 matt1972

Posted 18 April 2012 - 08:18 PM

Thanks for all the advice guys and girls.
Had our 37 week Ob appointment today and everything is all good, we have had pretty quick visits the whole way through.
Still nervous but so excited to get to meet my daughter whenever it is she decides to turn up.

#9 MiliPonce

Posted 17 July 2012 - 08:24 PM

Don't worry, you'll be okay, just do your research.

#10 Pommielogger

Posted 06 August 2013 - 07:13 PM

I just hit the sh*tting myself stage, about 3 hours ago. My son was born earlier this week, and we brought him home today. Ie been calm, stoical, excited, enthused, steadfast, supportive though out, then, about 3 hours ago, I realised what all this meant - I'm still so overwhelmed and amazed, in awe, in love with this little man, but struck by the enormity of the challenge, not that I even know what that challenge is right now.

The boy an the missus are fast asleep right now, and I'm pacing, can't catch the sleep I know I must.

So thought I'd tap the thoughts out here...


#11 cinnabubble

Posted 06 August 2013 - 07:18 PM

Congratulations on the birth of your son (I bet it still feels weird to have a son). Sane people all sh*t themselves at the enormity of having a child. Good luck with it all.

#12 Danzie

Posted 06 August 2013 - 07:28 PM

Hey dudes, pretty old thread, I reckon the OP would be a seasoned campaigner at kid wrangling by now!

#13 Danzie

Posted 06 August 2013 - 07:30 PM

Oh okay I'm guessing he had his second? Congrats OP!  My bad.

#14 Pommielogger

Posted 07 August 2013 - 01:40 PM

2nd day home and all is much calmer - I'm not sh*tting myself anymore - I'm boiling eggs since the missus can now eat em runny!


#15 Danzie

Posted 07 August 2013 - 02:50 PM

Congratulations Pommielogger, I'm sure you'll be great!

Edited by Danzie, 07 August 2013 - 02:51 PM.


#16 Pommielogger

Posted 08 August 2013 - 03:04 PM

Thanks everyone. Just gotta take it day by day huh. I usually just go from the moment I wake to the moment I sleep, surf, run, climb, swim etc.

Yesterday whilst bub was sleeping and mum was relaxing, I did a quick 5ks in the rain. Come home feeling more alive than ever, and just in awe of the opportunity that has been afforded me.

Cheers everyone.


#17 matt1972

Posted 11 September 2013 - 01:28 PM

 Danzie, on 06 August 2013 - 07:28 PM, said:

Hey dudes, pretty old thread, I reckon the OP would be a seasoned campaigner at kid wrangling by now!
Yep I found out that I am an awesome Dad!!!
It does help that my amazing wife is so amazing and that we have the most fantastic daughter but yeah I am coping pretty well.

#18 matt1972

Posted 11 September 2013 - 01:32 PM

 Pommielogger, on 08 August 2013 - 03:04 PM, said:

Thanks everyone. Just gotta take it day by day huh. I usually just go from the moment I wake to the moment I sleep, surf, run, climb, swim etc.

Yesterday whilst bub was sleeping and mum was relaxing, I did a quick 5ks in the rain. Come home feeling more alive than ever, and just in awe of the opportunity that has been afforded me.

Cheers everyone.
That's awesome, congratulations!

I hope that you have a 3 wheeler pram waiting for when Junior is a few months old and you can take him running with you.

I'm a walker not a runner and last year when Emma hit about 2 months I would get home from work and take her for a walk for 30,60 or 90 minutes. She slept most of the time but it was a great opportunity to spend time with her and to give my wife a little time to not be on high alert.

#19 TheBrownHornet

Posted 12 September 2013 - 06:36 PM

Before you know it they'll be on their bike beside you telling you to hurry up!

#20 Dadanduncle

Posted 16 October 2013 - 07:43 AM

I think I'm going through butterflies moment too since my DD was born 3 weeks ago.

I realise I havent been myself at work and the pressures that come through work hasn't help a bit at all. I'm working in Banking Mortgage Sales as you'd have known business target will not change nor slow down.

I'd like to know if anyone had been affected by mood swing since having your first child?

#21 matt1972

Posted 17 October 2013 - 01:02 PM

Your whole life has pretty much just changed so it is understandable that you might not have been yourself at work.

It's ok and perfectly normal to be out of sorts when doing any activity that is totally foreign to you especially one that involves a human life that you have helped to create and are now responsible for.

Did you take any time off? Are you planning on taking any time off? What things are you doing with your DD?




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