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Dont want to circumcise DS2 after regretting DS1s circ
Is it ok that he will be 'different' to his brother and daddy?


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#26 FeralFerretOfDoom

Posted 15 April 2012 - 10:31 AM

QUOTE (**myboys** @ 15/04/2012, 08:54 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I find the comparison argument ridiculous.

What if DH and DS1 are blonde and DS2 happened to have brown hair. There are a plethera of differences children can have when compared to eachother. It is hardly psychologically damaging.


Agree.

Apart from that, I find the whole "make him look like Daddy" thing completely perplexing. Surely you can point out that he's got Daddy's eyes, or chin, everyone can see that. Unless both father and son are going to be dropping their daks every time a conversation about family resemblance crops up, who's going to see it?

#27 MegsW

Posted 15 April 2012 - 10:46 AM

Our first two sons are circ'ed but our 3rd isn't done and the older two have never mentioned it and they all shower together and see the younger being changed.  If this baby is a boy he won't be done either.  It has never been an issue for us and i doubt your sons will worry either.

Stick to your beliefs xxxx

#28 twilightangel

Posted 15 April 2012 - 01:22 PM

I have had no problems with comparing etc between my 2 boys.

My older son had to be done for medical reasons at the age of 4 years. He showers with and changes DS2's nappies occasionally and has never questioned it etc as he knows his had to be fixed where as DS2's is fine.




#29 PinkSurvivor

Posted 15 April 2012 - 01:44 PM

Well My DS1 is done, but he was done at 4 years old due to phimiosis. I won't be getting DS2 done even though DH is also done.

DS1 and DS2 shower together everyday and have not cared. DS1 just says "my doodle got cut so it doesn't hurt anymore hey Mommy" and he says "C didn't get his skin cut off because his wasn't broken" so I guess if a 4 year old can figure it out and not be upset feeling different it shouldn't be an issue.

I honestly think if there is not a big deal made out of being 'different' by the parents than most kids won't make an issue out of it.

#30 neaka

Posted 15 April 2012 - 09:23 PM

Thanks so much everyone for all the replies. I feel totally better now knowing that its pretty much a non issue and if it arises we will deal with it at the time.

I agree the whole 'look like daddy' thing is ridiculous. They look totally different anyway! I guess i was more worried about him not looking like his brother, but at the end of the day i will explain we are all different and unique in our own ways.

Thanks for the reassurance though, i now feel 100% backed in my decision to stick to my guns.

DH aint going to win this one! original.gif

#31 Jacki:)

Posted 17 April 2012 - 06:53 AM

QUOTE (Nora. @ 15/04/2012, 07:30 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
DS is different to his father & at the age of 7 I don't think he's even noticed. They don't generally compare penises.



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#32 Leee

Posted 18 April 2012 - 12:30 PM

I am a little worried about my sons not looking the same, and it is ridiculous. I am against circumcision so DS1 is not done. It never entered mine or DH's head to be done. Now DS2 has arrived and he has hypospadia and the pead needs to do surgery when he is 1. Corrected it means it will be part of the surgery. I know it needs to be done but wondered as the boys got older if they would 'compare'.

#33 Soontobegran

Posted 18 April 2012 - 12:35 PM

QUOTE (Leee @ 18/04/2012, 12:30 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I am a little worried about my sons not looking the same, and it is ridiculous. I am against circumcision so DS1 is not done. It never entered mine or DH's head to be done. Now DS2 has arrived and he has hypospadia and the pead needs to do surgery when he is 1. Corrected it means it will be part of the surgery. I know it needs to be done but wondered as the boys got older if they would 'compare'.


Children have a much greater understanding than we give them credit for sometimes. I think that just a simple explanation when they're old enough to understand that DS2 had a problem with his that needed to be fixed and that is why it looks different.




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