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#1 stellabella1664

Posted 13 April 2012 - 09:58 PM

I am going to a twin boy 2nd birthday tomorrow and I was going to get one card for both boys "dear x and y. Happy birthday blah blah blah". Is it ok to get one card or should I get a card for each boy? I will get two gifts...

#2 joshuakalan

Posted 13 April 2012 - 10:02 PM

Mmm, which end of the card does each child get to hold?

Sorry, but this is one thing that really annoys me about the way my twins have previously been treated.

If you would normally give 1/2  a card to a singleton, go ahead.

They are two children, celebrating two birthdays.

#3 amabanana

Posted 13 April 2012 - 10:04 PM

I always give two cards.  Who wants half a birthday card?


#4 laridae

Posted 13 April 2012 - 10:08 PM

I would ditch the card - they are 2, they probably don't care and can't read it anyway

#5 roses99

Posted 13 April 2012 - 10:13 PM

Treat them like you would any other individual children.

Get a card each or no cards at all. Good that you're getting two presents, though  original.gif

#6 my serenity

Posted 13 April 2012 - 10:13 PM

REALLY? its 2 different kids a card each


im sorry i cant even see how this is a question!


same as two cards at birth two pressies etc....im just stunned sorry

Edited by charlie cat, 13 April 2012 - 10:15 PM.


#7 Ms Cranky Pants

Posted 13 April 2012 - 10:15 PM

Just get one. When they're dividing up their special things later in life, they can rip it in half. That works.

#8 All-New

Posted 13 April 2012 - 10:59 PM

I am going to respond as if it is a legitimate question.

My girls just celebrated their 1st birthday and I love go keep memory boxes, how do I split that card into 3 for each of their boxes..... 3 children, 3 cards.

50% of the cards they received were a combined, now it is me that has to colour copy them so the each have a copy.  Or am I just complaining?



#9 twinmumplus1

Posted 13 April 2012 - 11:09 PM

QUOTE (Ms Cranky Pants @ 13/04/2012, 10:15 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Just get one. When they're dividing up their special things later in life, they can rip it in half. That works.



QUOTE (SMOKER @ 13/04/2012, 10:59 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I am going to respond as if it is a legitimate question.

My girls just celebrated their 1st birthday and I love go keep memory boxes, how do I split that card into 3 for each of their boxes..... 3 children, 3 cards.

50% of the cards they received were a combined, now it is me that has to colour copy them so the each have a copy.  Or am I just complaining?


At least the twins could tear them apart Ms CP - Smoker's triplets find it a bit harder to break into three Tounge1.gif

In all seriousness - a card each OP.  I'm an oddity in twin parents, and love shared gifts (the boys got a big science kit this birthday, and some lego board games) - but at 2, seperate presents are the most appropriate.   Thank you for asking though, the more people that understand that multiples are individuals as well as having a unique link to each other, the better original.gif  Much less frustration on both sides original.gif

#10 muggins_00

Posted 13 April 2012 - 11:12 PM

Definitely card each. Kmart have a fairly decent range for $1 a card, cheap and easy.

#11 Feralishous

Posted 14 April 2012 - 02:32 AM

1 card per child...

#12 stellabella1664

Posted 14 April 2012 - 08:45 AM

Great ideas! I'll just buy one card then and rip it in two. Save the parents having to do it later. They really just should sell perforated cards - would make it much easier!

#13 Mariamsmum

Posted 14 April 2012 - 09:01 AM

This is another bugbear of mine, when my boys turned one they also got a lot of shared cards which made it difficult to seperate into the keepsake boxes.

My biggest peeve was the week before my boys birthday my DS1 was invited to a combined party for 3year old and 5year old sisters. We bought a separate card and gift for both girls when we attended the party. When this friend attended my twins party the following week, she came with one card and one wooden puzzle as a present. It wasn't that I wasn't appreciative of the gift, but they boys kept fighting over the puzzle as it wasn't really a gift that you could share! I couldn't understand how it was ok to bring two cards/gifts for different aged children but not ok to bring two cards/gifts for twins  huh.gif

#14 Chelara

Posted 14 April 2012 - 09:02 AM

Wow when my family recieves a Christmas card for all of us, it s a single card. I wouldn't have thought it such and issue. Perhaps buy name labels for the gifts that way no one gets a card for their memory box. Geez!

#15 Honeymummy

Posted 14 April 2012 - 09:07 AM

At that age I wouldnt bother with a card. Or give two. Next time though as you can see from the tone of the answers - dont bother coming into this area to ask a question.



#16 MeHimandOur3Girls

Posted 14 April 2012 - 09:11 AM

It wouldn't bother me to get one card for both of my girls... Especially at the age of two.  Once they can read then I would probably hope they received one each.

It's only a second birthday, I don't get why it is so frowned upon, but then I dont keep every card we receive anyway  shrug.gif

#17 ninaswalk

Posted 14 April 2012 - 09:12 AM

I'd give them 1 card - they're 2 I doubt they'll know the difference.

#18 Frightbat

Posted 14 April 2012 - 09:19 AM

Honeymummy- the parents in this section have answered this question and countless questions like it hundreds of times. It really isn't that difficult and most people would be able to get it right if they used a bit of thought.

Considering the OPs reply, I think this question was posed simply to stir trouble. I don't think any multiples mum minds responding to legitimate questions, but silly questions and questions designed to stir the pot get people's backs up.

#19 Mariamsmum

Posted 14 April 2012 - 09:53 AM

QUOTE (Chelara @ 14/04/2012, 09:02 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Wow when my family recieves a Christmas card for all of us, it s a single card. I wouldn't have thought it such and issue. Perhaps buy name labels for the gifts that way no one gets a card for their memory box. Geez!


Perhaps it would be ok to give each all your children a shared birthday card once a year? Just pick a date somewhere around the middle of their birthdays and tell them they have to share their cards and gifts. I'm sure that would go down well.
Birthdays are individual and special days for children, not like Christmas which is shared with everyone. Twins have to share their one special day every single year with someone else. It doesn't take much to make that extra effort to recognise each child as an individual.

Maybe its the tone of the replies of mums who don't have twins dismissing the idea that our twins are individual children in their own right that makes us narky? It may not mean much to you, but it does to us. It is a lifelong issue that we deal with every single year of our children's lives.



#20 ~benita~

Posted 14 April 2012 - 09:59 AM

I would just wrap in the brown craft paper and write on the package in a nice colour.  Just like I do for 90% of kids.

What on earth are our children going to do with all of these "memory boxes".  My Mum handed over a few things which were nice to look at, but they were from family and god parents etc.

If you are a friend of the twins I would write on the paper and not worry about it.


Edited by Therese, 16 April 2012 - 08:22 PM.


#21 Frightbat

Posted 14 April 2012 - 10:12 AM



So often our children are seen as part of a whole. They are often not seen as individuals, but rather as 'the twins'. It is important to us that our kids are recognised as individuals.

Don't come in here, where you don't belong and have nothing constructive to contribute and criticise us.

Edited by Therese, 16 April 2012 - 08:23 PM.


#22 Mariamsmum

Posted 14 April 2012 - 10:13 AM

Frosted, it's not really about the card. It's about what the card represents. It's about recognising that twins are individual children having a birthday that just happens on to occur on the same day.

If you are going to give a card, give two cards to each twin. If you don't give a card, then don't. If you get a gift, get two gifts (can be the same value in total as one gift, but it allows each child to open their own present). If you are not buying a gift, then don't.

I don't think it is being precious or having unrealistic expectations.

#23 my serenity

Posted 14 April 2012 - 10:24 AM



I only have singletons and to me its just odd that you wouldnt buy each child a gift and a card each?  I can see when older there would be times where a joint gift would be great.
Im sorry that there are peple out there that see them as one and not the indiiduals they are .

Edited by Therese, 16 April 2012 - 08:24 PM.


#24 Bam1

Posted 14 April 2012 - 10:33 AM

I'm only surprised that you would buy 1 card if you have already gone to the trouble of buying 2 presents.

I would be happy just to receive one present and 1 or even no card for my twins. They know who they are and its not going to be a trauma if they don't get a present each.

#25 Libster

Posted 14 April 2012 - 10:35 AM

One card each or no cards at all would probably be best. I must be lucky, all of my friends and family have always treated my girls like individuals and get them each a card and present  original.gif





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