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Removing dummy from 17 m old
Wean slowly or cold turkey?


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#1 babycat

Posted 13 April 2012 - 09:20 AM

DS 2 has had a dummy since about 2 weeks of age as he had reflux and just wanted something to suck all the time.  He only has it for sleeps, but his Chiro mentioned that his palate was starting to be affected and that it would be a good idea to stop the dummy.  

I managed to get him to sleep without it the other night with not too much of a fight, but last night and for his morning sleep he became hysterical even before I put him in his cot. The only way I could calm him was by telling him if he calmed down he could have his dummy. As soon as he got it he was asleep within minutes.

Anyone have suggestions for the best way of removing it?

#2 sharonica

Posted 13 April 2012 - 09:26 AM

Oh, good question OP. I have exactly the same problem with my DS and am keen for any tips, tricks etc.
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#3 Just green apples

Posted 13 April 2012 - 09:43 AM

DD is 2 next month and we're getting rid of her dummy this Thursday. Yikes!

Our plan is to get her to put it in the rubbish bin and wait for the garbage truck to come so she can wave bye bye to her dummies (she's obsessed with garbage trucks). We've been talking to her about it for a few days now just to prepare her (how much of it she understands is another story).

I'm ready for it to get hairy though...

Edited by beatka, 13 April 2012 - 09:43 AM.


#4 Soontobegran

Posted 13 April 2012 - 09:55 AM

Sorry but I don't think you should be listening to a chiro's advice on dental issues.
It sounds like a whole lot of rubbish to me.
Fingers and thumbs cause far more damage to a child's mouth than a dummy yet we don't remove them.
If you are worried about the use of the dummy's effect on your child's mouth then start putting bounderies up on it's use during the day. I don't like the thought of removing a comfort item until the child is old enough to talk to them about it.
I waited for our children to be old enough to negotiate, it was so simple and no tears.

I worked on the premise that no child is at school with a dummy.
Good luck OP.

#5 fick

Posted 13 April 2012 - 09:59 AM

My SIL dealt with this by getting her DS to give his dummy up to Santa for the baby reindeers. lol. He was cranky for a few days, but that passed and now he never even mentions the dummy any more. original.gif

We'll be trying this with DD when she's a bit older, if she's still attached to her dummy. She seems to be using it less and less now on her own (DD is almost 8 months).

#6 8yeargap

Posted 13 April 2012 - 10:02 AM

I second what soontobegran said.  Sounds like a whole lot of hogwash to me! I wouldn't be taking it off them if it something that really calms them.  
  


#7 laridae

Posted 13 April 2012 - 10:03 AM

QUOTE (soontobegran @ 13/04/2012, 09:55 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I worked on the premise that no child is at school with a dummy.



Only because they are too embarrassed to actually take it to school.  It doesn't mean they might not still have one at night time.

My little brother had his until he was 10!


I gave mine up at about 3, apparently because the dog kept stealing it - though I can't really remember that it did so maybe that's something my mum told me to get rid of it.

#8 munchmum

Posted 13 April 2012 - 10:09 AM

We introduced a teddy blanket toy which my dd took to bed with her dummy. She got very attached to the teddy and actually started refusing the dummy. Mind you she does suck on the teddy, I wish I had 2 as getting it to wash is difficult

#9 girltribe4

Posted 13 April 2012 - 10:14 AM

I have just removed my 3.5yr old DD's dummy in the last month and she is now a very happy thumb sucker wink.gif .

At 17m I would be tempted to just start with reducing the amount of time he has it .

#10 Soontobegran

Posted 13 April 2012 - 10:14 AM

QUOTE (laridae @ 13/04/2012, 10:03 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Only because they are too embarrassed to actually take it to school.  It doesn't mean they might not still have one at night time.

My little brother had his until he was 10!


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Lots of teens and adults still suck their thumb too.
At least at age 10 you can talk to them about it, at 17 months sucking is still an acceptable means of comfort.

#11 Lynken

Posted 13 April 2012 - 10:22 AM

QUOTE (soontobegran @ 13/04/2012, 07:55 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Sorry but I don't think you should be listening to a chiro's advice on dental issues.


I agree with this.  I take my kids to a chiro and think she is great in regards to their growth and physical development but I'd be a bit surprised if she started commenting on their palates.  Would you take advice from your dentist about your child's hip alignment?

My now-3-year-old had a dummy from birth until just before 2.  A friend had a baby when she was 20 months so we started talking about how "Baby" had a dummy and slept in a cot and how she was going to be a big girl and sleep in a bed (coincided with cot to bed transfer too!).  By 22-23 months, she was comfortable with giving the dummies to "Baby" and happily slept in her bed from the first night.

By all means, start talking with him about giving it up.  See if you get a feel as to what method would work best for him but I certainly wouldn't be pushing him if he's not ready.

#12 babycat

Posted 13 April 2012 - 08:42 PM

Thanks for all your replies, I must admit I was a bit dubious about the chiro's comments especially as we're using an "orthodontic" type dummy.

He does only use it for sleeps and will usually happily give it up when he wakes unless he's still tired.  But usually after about 5 mins of chasing DS1 around he'll give it to me : )

Think I'll leave him with it and just start talking about giving it up.  Tonight he went to bed for a while and then actually asked for it (another new word for the week : ))

Thanks again for the great advice.

#13 Bottom

Posted 13 April 2012 - 08:48 PM

I think your chiro is out of date with research on dummies. and also what on earth is he/she doing giving dental advice? A 17 month old with a dummy is finel it will do no damage, only comfort and help build muscles in the mouth. Also, if you are not still breastfeeding it is natural for such a young toddler to need a dummy. Don't make them grow up before they have to!


#14 chicken_bits

Posted 15 April 2012 - 11:17 AM

My parents got rid of mine by getting me to give it to the ducks at the pond. I loved the ducks and they told me they needed the dummy more than I did. Shows how altruistic I was even at that age original.gif

No advice other than that. PP's seem to have similar suggestions. Our DD doesn't use a dummy so I can't speak from personal experience.

#15 BVB09

Posted 15 April 2012 - 11:36 AM

I will be watching this thread as I don't want DD to have the dummy beyond 2 years. I am restrciting her dummies to sleep time only, so she has no dummy during the day and she is happy without it.

I have told her the Butterflys are coming to take the dummies away and will replace them with an ornamental Butterfly for her room. ! DD just nods her head and smiles. yyes.gif

#16 lozoodle

Posted 16 April 2012 - 12:46 PM

When I got rid of DD1's dummy I just went down the cold turkey path, and we threw them in the bin.

Dealt with a few more difficult nights and then it was fine. I reminded myself that they wont stay awake forever, they eventually need to fall asleep and its worth it. We'll be getting rid of DD2s very soon.

#17 Rumour has it..

Posted 18 April 2012 - 03:21 PM

We are in the middle of getting rid of DS's dummy because its more a want than a need atm for him. We reduced the amount of time he had it. It was a bed thing only. He gets cranky if he sees one on the bench that he cant have so we just have to distract him. I cant not wait until he no longer will use one. The amount of times i have had to rumage around on the floor at 2am looking for it is crazy!




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