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#1 FeralProudSwahili

Posted 12 April 2012 - 05:14 PM

As the topic title says- how old was your child when thy finally left your bed to sleep in their own? I'll be honest, I have a 5 year old and 2 year old who sleep with me and they show no sign of wanting to leave anytime soon. I have visions of the two of them sleeping with me when they are 12 and 15!

#2 Lim Lam

Posted 12 April 2012 - 05:17 PM

Well my co-sleeper is only 4, but she has been in her bed for 12months and still wakes nearly every night...

#3 Halp

Posted 12 April 2012 - 05:20 PM


Edited by Halp, 24 October 2012 - 07:47 AM.

#4 libbylu

Posted 12 April 2012 - 05:20 PM

My 5.5 year gets up and comes in to bed with us in the wee small hours on most nights.  I am wondering the same thing.

#5 ChickenortheEgg?

Posted 12 April 2012 - 05:22 PM

Ds is 2yrs2months as of next week we are starting the slow transition phase into his own room.

#6 ChunkyChook

Posted 12 April 2012 - 05:23 PM

DD moved into a toddler bed beside my bed when she was 2 and then 12 months later we moved and she went into her own room and has been there since. She is about to turn 6.

#7 **Tiger*Filly**

Posted 12 April 2012 - 05:26 PM

DS moved out when he was nearly 4, at my instigation because his sister was due. He slept on the floor next to my bed for a few months before he willingly moved to his own bed. He stopped coming in in the early mornings at about 6. He is nearly 10 and still very occasionally comes into my bed first thing in the morning for a cuddle.

DD#3 was moved into a toddler bed at 3 - that meant she started going to sleep in her toddler bed but initially still came into my bed by about 11pm. That gradually moved later and later (at her instigation) until by about 5 she wasn't coming into my bed until about 4am. She is 5 3/4 and just in the last month has stopped coming into my bed at all if I get up before 7am.

#8 Majeix

Posted 12 April 2012 - 05:28 PM

hmm I'm struggling to remember how old our eldest was but the little one who is two still sleeps with us and will for awhile.

#9 Chelara

Posted 12 April 2012 - 05:37 PM

32 months, we bought her a bed, special doona and she hasn't looked back. Slept through last night despite teething with her. 2 year molars. Most nights I do have to go in and lay down for a couple of mins but she hasn't come back into our bed since. She moved out in February.

Eta she also showed no desire to leave our bed until we bought her her own bed. I think perhaps she just hated the cot.

Edited by Chelara, 12 April 2012 - 05:38 PM.

#10 Guest_NinjahAlpaca_*

Posted 12 April 2012 - 05:39 PM

I'll have to get back to you on that one if and when it happens.

She's rapidly approaching 8.


#11 **Xena**

Posted 12 April 2012 - 05:45 PM

Between 6 and 12 months. Though my 3yo tend to get up at about 5am and join me in bed.

#12 chrisharry

Posted 12 April 2012 - 05:55 PM

mine is 4 and i still sleep more with him in his bed everynight and doesnt look like changing soon,threads like these i find reassuring for some reason shrug.gif

#13 Mummy Em

Posted 12 April 2012 - 06:17 PM

Well, she was 20 months when she shifted out of my bed and 2.5 when I shifted out of hers!

#14 butterflydreaming

Posted 12 April 2012 - 06:20 PM

At 18 months we had to put him in a cot as he was waking up, climbing out of bed and going to play.

#15 Crinkle cut

Posted 12 April 2012 - 06:31 PM

My daughter moved to a matress on our floor when she was 6ish, then to her own bed at 11 years old, neither was by her own choice though and she often still sleeps on my bedroom floor.

My son is almost 7 and still co sleeping.  I don't think he'll get out till I make him either.

ETA Both of them have done short stretches of time in their own beds, but it never lasts long.

Edited by ~maryanne~, 12 April 2012 - 06:34 PM.

#16 papilio

Posted 12 April 2012 - 06:43 PM

Willow was a bit over 2 when she moved into her own room.

Dexie has gone in and out, he wanted to be on his own at a much younger age, then for quite some time he would come in at about 3am and spend the rest of the morning with us.  

The only thing that stops me from having them in bed with more more often is that my back is not what it used to be and they are a bit bigger now!  Too big to carry up the steps.

#17 bizikids

Posted 12 April 2012 - 06:44 PM

My 14 yo dd still comes into my bed every now and then for a cuddle and my 8, 4.5 and 3 year old usually come in around midnight. It makes for a very squished bed but i love the snuggles original.gif  my 2 boys ( 11 and 13 ) have been in their own beds since about 4. Their choice.

#18 JupitersMoon

Posted 12 April 2012 - 07:11 PM


Oh dear. 5? 7? 11?

DD is only 22 months but I keep telling myself she'll sleep alone soon...  Or, not, by the sounds of it!

#19 Velvetta

Posted 12 April 2012 - 07:17 PM

My youngest is the longest. He's heading to 4 and will not shift from our king size bed. We have done up his room, moved his bed into our room, now DH sleeps in DS's bed because DS will not, and he moves like a windmill through the night.
I love co sleeping but this one is by far the longest. I wouldn't mind. I don't mind DH sleeping elsewhere either, but DS kicks me in the head. His feet have a magnetic attraction to my head. And he hates covers, even when it's cold. I can't wait till he decide its time to get into his bed. We certainly can't convince him.

I actually would like to sleep with my husband again. But our big 3 yr old    pushes us both to the edges of the bed.

Edited by Dorothea, 12 April 2012 - 07:21 PM.

#20 SylviaPlath

Posted 12 April 2012 - 07:27 PM

My sister was about ten when she finally moved into her own bed. And even at that age, it was a lot of drama and bribery. I think she got a stereo out of the deal. Lol.

#21 keke

Posted 12 April 2012 - 07:29 PM

At 23 months my son moved into his own bed in his own room although occasionally still comes back in with us at 2or 3 am.

I suddenly realise how lucky I am as it was so easy for him to go to his own bed and I really can't sleep with him in with us anymore as he moves around so much in his sleep.

My sister who is 21 will get home from nightclubbing and still happily jump into bed with mum and dad.

#22 MrsNorthman

Posted 12 April 2012 - 07:31 PM

both the elder teo moved out *full time* when they selfweaned.  DD1 stopped coming in at all around 4yrs, same with DD2 (though I asked her to stop coming in because of DD3's arrival.  Have you tried that? Asking?

#23 FeralProudSwahili

Posted 12 April 2012 - 07:32 PM

QUOTE (SylviaPlath @ 12/04/2012, 07:27 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
My sister was about ten when she finally moved into her own bed. And even at that age, it was a lot of drama and bribery. I think she got a stereo out of the deal. Lol.

Oh no, I can completely see bribery being part of the deal with convincing Miss 5 to partake of her own bed.

#24 FeralProudSwahili

Posted 12 April 2012 - 07:33 PM

QUOTE (mrsnorthman @ 12/04/2012, 07:31 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
both the elder teo moved out *full time* when they selfweaned.  DD1 stopped coming in at all around 4yrs, same with DD2 (though I asked her to stop coming in because of DD3's arrival.  Have you tried that? Asking?

Wow, asking you say? Why didn't I think of that, say 3 years ago?

Thanks Guru for stating the obvious. Tres helpful.

#25 MrsNorthman

Posted 12 April 2012 - 07:36 PM

QUOTE (Swahili @ 12/04/2012, 08:33 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Wow, asking you say? Why didn't I think of that, say 3 years ago?

Thanks Guru for stating the obvious. Tres helpful.

sorry, did i miss where you said you asked them? sorry about that, one hand typing and holding newborn in other arm so may have missed some posts.  asking worked for me.

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