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#1 Guest_Retro_Mumma_*

Posted 12 April 2012 - 03:09 PM

I know so many people TTCing at the moment that have said to me that they were not going to try last month because they didnt want a December baby.

People have said that they feel sorry for people born in December because their birthday is so close to Christmas and dont want that for their child.

DH and I tried for over a year to get pregnant so I couldnt care less if bub is born on Christmas Day, just as long as she/he is healthy.

Has anyone experienced this "oh poor you/ poor child" kind of thing when you have told them bub is due in December?

Any tips on what to say?

#2 I*Love*Christmas

Posted 12 April 2012 - 03:17 PM

Yes and I have had the "poor child" comments about my DD. She is born a few days before Christmas. I just tell people we will always make a special effort to have DDs birthday seperate from Christmas. She has had one birthday so far and it turned out to be great as everyone was in the celebrating spirit only days before Christmas, noone had gone away yet and the weather was just beautiful.

#3 bubzillaiscoming

Posted 12 April 2012 - 03:18 PM

My birthday is 9/12 and my younger sister is 23/12. We have both turned out ok! I never really received any comments - probably cos my sister got them all! Depending when your bub is due, I would say you'll probs only get comments if it is sometime after the 20th of Dec or before the 10th of Jan. Generally speaking it can be difficult with parties and so on, but at the end of the day, I would just look blankly at the person and politely ask WHY it is a problem - such a lovely time of year, people are happy and so on. MUCH better than having a WINTER baby I would think. I would just ignore them, but as a personal tip - just make sure you always wrap bub's presents in birthday paper - not xmas paper  laugh.gif

#4 Charmzy

Posted 12 April 2012 - 03:20 PM

Ignore it, there is always going to be something they will have e negative comment about. I get the same sort of 'sympathy' comments over 2 of my daughters sharing the same birthday.



#5 -HungryWoman-

Posted 12 April 2012 - 03:21 PM

My DD was born on the 24th Dec.  Does it really matter what other people say???  I couldnt care less:) We always make an effort for her birthday so thats all that matters

#6 Leha

Posted 12 April 2012 - 03:22 PM

Do people actually stop TTC just to avoid a Xmas baby. That's so ridiculous.

Mine is the 5th and it probably not close enough to be an issue but I love this time of the year to have a bday. It's the party season, it's warm and everybody is happy this time of the year. Any birthday parties are in warm weather. I would not want to have a birthday any other time of the year.

#7 fillesetjumeaux

Posted 12 April 2012 - 03:23 PM

A baby is a baby is a baby, regardless of their birthday!

While mine are not December, I have 3 in the first 9 days of January, and the other 2 towards the end of January.

TBH, if it was just one, it wouldn't register on my "bovvered" radar at all.  My comeback if anyone felt the need to comment would be something smartarse like "all 365 days are created equal".

(But I do NOT recommend having 5 children all born in the same month, being the month straight after Christmas.  Really, really bad non-planning in our house.)

#8 tanj

Posted 12 April 2012 - 03:24 PM

I just say its a wonderful time of year, everyone is happy and in the festive spirit, so another reason to celebrate!

We make an effort in June, to have a special day where our little one gets to choose a day out, fav food and new present!

#9 Maple Leaf

Posted 12 April 2012 - 03:29 PM

DD1 was due xmas eve but arrived on dec 19th instead. She loves her birthday and that it's so close to xmas.

The people who pity her are the ones with the problem. She feels her birthday is special and I wouldn't have her think otherwise.
It was kinda fun having a newborn laying under the tree for xmas too. wink.gif
She was my present that year.

#10 Ninja Lemur

Posted 12 April 2012 - 03:31 PM

I am one of those silly people who avoided the Christmas baby.  My best friend at primary school absolutely hated being born on Christmas Day so I thought it kindest to avoid that if possible.  A relative has her birthday on 1st january and gets upset when people promise to come and then are hang over and don't bother.

So those are the events that influenced my bahviour but I would never comment on anyone else's children's birth dates.

#11 *mylittleprince*

Posted 12 April 2012 - 03:32 PM

My birthday is December 29 and I love it. It's always such a festive and happy time of year. As a child, it meant all my friends were home on holidays and that we could have a party on my actual birthday and not just on the weekend. I also was able to get 'big' combined gifts if there was something very expensive I really liked (still got a little gift on the other day anyway). I have many happy memories of childhood birthdays original.gif

#12 Honey Pot

Posted 12 April 2012 - 03:32 PM

My birthday is a couple of days after Christmas and to be hopnest it was a pain growing up.  I rarely ahd a party as everyone was away on holidays and I did have some people give me a "combined Christmas / Birthday present" which would be an identical present to the one my sister got for Christmas too (despite her birthday being June and having got another present during teh year).

However, NOW, I love it!  I'm always on holidays as are my whole family.  I've never once worked on my birthday and everyone is in a good mood from Christmas and ready for an excuse to keep celebrating.  I also now ask for comnbined Christmas / birthday presents and get something really good rather than 2 cheaper presents over the year.  

It's funny how the things that were negatives as a kid are absolute positives now. original.gif

#13 hell kitty

Posted 12 April 2012 - 03:38 PM

DD's birthday is early January, and although it's really close to Xmas, we always make sure she has a separate birthday party and presents.
However, all her little mother's group friends are also early Jan, so it's a bit hard on the wallet with Xmas, then all the birthday parties straight after!

#14 HIH.GD.Isolabella

Posted 12 April 2012 - 03:38 PM

When I announced I was PG and due Dec 31st my siblings comment was "How Could You?" (ie give my child a Dec birthday) as both my siblings are Dec birthdays and hate it.

DD was scheduled for a c/s 22nd Dec but decided 5th Dec was a better birthday. So who knows when bubs will arrive anyway.

I will admit that I previously had considered avoiding TTC to avoid a Dec birthday, but after 6m of TTC without result I was just happy to get a BFP in the end.



#15 Lulus mum

Posted 12 April 2012 - 03:38 PM

My birthday is the 17th of December and to be honest there was a time there when it sucked mostly as a kid the older I got the better it got because the weather was awesome and everyone was in a party mood.
Even as a December babay it didn't spot DH TTC we just wanted a baby, as it turned out DD was born 17 January lol.


#16 Majeix

Posted 12 April 2012 - 03:39 PM

Oh sheesh really? My birthday is new years eve and I always whinge about that. My second baby is born exactly a week before Christmas. Hell I think it would be easier if her birthday was another time of year but only for silly reasons. I might mutter in passing, and half jokingly. However their nothing I would worry about enough to try and avoid. I mean I joke about hating when my birthday as everyone always has plans is busy but seriously there is bigger things...?

#17 Riotproof

Posted 12 April 2012 - 03:41 PM

DH and I tried for over a year to get pregnant so I couldnt care less if bub is born on Christmas Day, just as long as she/he is healthy.

Honestly, just say this. People will shut up quickly.

#18 Lyn29

Posted 12 April 2012 - 03:44 PM

QUOTE (Maple Leaf @ 12/04/2012, 04:29 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
DD1 was due xmas eve but arrived on dec 19th instead.

My DD too! She's 19 now, but that was a special Christmas!

Apart from the in-laws deciding to put the "family" Christmas on her birthday a few times (so we didn't go - birthdays always trump Christmas in our house) it's not been any more issue than DS's Easter birthday.

I think birthdays are what you make them no matter when they are - and I suspect most who talk about bad luck are just making a throwaway comment that's not worth worrying over.

#19 Guest_tigerdog_*

Posted 12 April 2012 - 03:50 PM

I'd love to have had a summer/December baby, the mood is already so celebratory! (mine are June and August - I felt I missed out on getting out and about to show off babies as it was so dam cold sad.gif ).

Edited by tigerdog, 12 April 2012 - 03:51 PM.


#20 Hollag26

Posted 12 April 2012 - 03:56 PM

I would reply with 'we were trying to avoid a June date due to end of financial year'. Stupid questions deserve stupid answers... original.gif

My first is due is December and i feel completely blessed as there are people who would do anything to have a baby due on any date.

I dont get why people would ask you such a silly question

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#21 la di dah

Posted 12 April 2012 - 03:57 PM

I would probably make up an answer, I guess I am a troll.

I'd say something about "oh it was the only way to be sure of a positive astrological chart for this aspect of Mercury" all happily.

If they've got enough time on their hands to worry about when somebody else's baby is born, leave 'em something to think about.

#22 PurpleNess

Posted 12 April 2012 - 03:59 PM

I simply say that my child's birthday is far more important to me that  one of a made up person......

#23 OneProudMum

Posted 12 April 2012 - 04:00 PM

Screw 'em!

#24 newyearbaby

Posted 12 April 2012 - 04:02 PM

My first son was born on NYE at 10.03pm, and everyone always comments with the poor child type lines. It hasn't phased him yet though. And he gets major fireworks each year, free of charge original.gif


#25 Emily of New Moon

Posted 12 April 2012 - 04:09 PM

Just smile and say, "No need to pity us.  We think we're very lucky having a December baby!  It's our special Christmas gift.  We have another reason to celebrate in December now."

My DD was born in December and we've not had one comment about her due date or her birth date being bad timing.  Everyone was just so happy for us.  People who pity you for that have their pity misplaced, I say.

I did have one little boy (who clearly has a December birthday) tell me very earnestly, "Please make sure you give her both birthday and Christmas presents" when I told him DD's birthday.  And we'll definitely do this. original.gif

(Edited because I'm pedantic about punctuation marks.)

Edited by duckypond, 12 April 2012 - 04:12 PM.





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