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#1 Divine MsM

Posted 12 April 2012 - 12:32 PM

A person borrowed my car.  When they returned it, they hadn't put petrol in it, nor offered money to pay for the petrol they used.  They would have done about 80kms in it, so no, not a short trip either.

Do you think this is rude?

#2 sarah_jane

Posted 12 April 2012 - 12:33 PM

Of course it is.

Of course it is.

#3 EsmeLennox

Posted 12 April 2012 - 12:33 PM

Of course it is.

#4 ECsMum

Posted 12 April 2012 - 12:33 PM

Yes, it's rude.

#5 tamjk

Posted 12 April 2012 - 12:37 PM

Why do you even need to ask?

It's beyond rude! Not even the Scrooge relative on my husbands side who has ZERO manners would do that. I'd be refusing to loan anything to that person again.

#6 Oriental lily

Posted 12 April 2012 - 12:38 PM

Very rude.

Considering how expensive fuel is they might as well have stolen some cash from your purse.

The minimum thing to do is fill the car to the level it was. The considerate polite thing to do is leave the car with a full tank of fuel.

You have been taken advantage of.

#7 Avidlearner1

Posted 12 April 2012 - 12:38 PM

Yes, it's rude.

TBH, it just doesn't occur to some people to refuel a car, wash it, tidy it etc after borrowing. Very frustrating.

I was always taught if you borrow something, you return it in better condition than when you borrowed it.

#8 Sam Wheat

Posted 12 April 2012 - 12:38 PM

Absolutely rude, especially considering the price of petrol at the moment.

#9 PixieVee

Posted 12 April 2012 - 12:39 PM

Uhh, yeah. Rude as.

#10 hollysmama

Posted 12 April 2012 - 12:39 PM

Yes, very rude.

#11 dnewme

Posted 12 April 2012 - 12:40 PM

Yes it is rude

#12 Baggy

Posted 12 April 2012 - 12:43 PM

Yes it is a little, but maybe you should have told them your expectations before they borrowed it.

Edited by Baggy, 12 April 2012 - 12:48 PM.


#13 happygurl06

Posted 12 April 2012 - 12:43 PM

Rude rude rude, I have borrowed cars before and they go back with a full tank of fuel, $20 for any toll and just to be nice, I even wash them.

#14 countrymel

Posted 12 April 2012 - 12:44 PM

Rude.

Perhaps they forgot? If they had borrowed it because of a crisis that could happen..

We (we have small cheap to run cars) borrowed my friend's big fast expensive car last year - we had already purchased a nice bottle of whiskey to say 'thank you' but also filled it up (it was close to empty when we borrowed it) to return it full - as I was taught to do.

I nearly had a conniption! It was SO expensive (DP had paid the first tank and I hadn't noticed)

My friend was also really embarrassed the next day when he realised we had filled the car AND given him a gift...

#15 Mel.Bell

Posted 12 April 2012 - 12:46 PM

*meh* I don't think it's rude ... Maybe they just forgot or had other things on their mind. I'm sure if you ask them, they'll pay or perhaps the payment should have come up BEFORE they borrowed it. But I wouldn't call them rude.

#16 marley*and*me

Posted 12 April 2012 - 12:55 PM

Depends who it was. If it was my parents then no as they do heaps of things for me.

Good friend, then depends on your friendship - with some if my friends I would not expect them to as they are doing favors for us here and there so what comes around goes around.

Random friend then yes, replace what they used but not expected to fill it up.

#17 Divine MsM

Posted 12 April 2012 - 12:55 PM

Thank you everyone.  Maybe I should have put it in venting because it kind of was.

My father borrowed my car and I asked him if he put petrol in the car before giving it back.  He thought it was funny (in his sense of humour) to not put petrol in the car when he returned it.  I told him I didn't think it was very nice and now he thinks we're fighting over $5.

For those in Canberra, the car went from West Belconnen to Queanbeyan via Dickson and back.  So it really wasn't a short trip and it cost more than $5 worth of petrol.



#18 Guest_tigerdog_*

Posted 12 April 2012 - 12:58 PM

QUOTE (marley*and*me @ 12/04/2012, 12:55 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Depends who it was. If it was my parents then no as they do heaps of things for me.

Good friend, then depends on your friendship - with some if my friends I would not expect them to as they are doing favors for us here and there so what comes around goes around.

Random friend then yes, replace what they used but not expected to fill it up.


This.

#19 50ftqueenie

Posted 12 April 2012 - 01:03 PM

QUOTE (Divine MsM @ 12/04/2012, 12:55 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Thank you everyone.  Maybe I should have put it in venting because it kind of was.

My father borrowed my car and I asked him if he put petrol in the car before giving it back.  He thought it was funny (in his sense of humour) to not put petrol in the car when he returned it.  I told him I didn't think it was very nice and now he thinks we're fighting over $5.

For those in Canberra, the car went from West Belconnen to Queanbeyan via Dickson and back.  So it really wasn't a short trip and it cost more than $5 worth of petrol.


I don't know your family dynamics (or financial situation) but I wouldn't expect my Dad to put petrol in before returning it.  Having said that, my Dad would return my car with a full tank and probably check the oil and water/tyres etc.  So yes, your father is rude.

#20 Divine MsM

Posted 12 April 2012 - 01:06 PM

ETA:  I'm annoyed that he thought it was funny to return the car without offering money or putting petrol in it.  If he had said something like "I'll buy you a coffee when you are in town" I wouldn't have thought anything of it.

I just feel that I've been taken advantage of, that's all.  And yes, my father does have money.

#21 spottydog

Posted 12 April 2012 - 01:06 PM

Initially i would say yes rude. But its your father that borrowed your car, im sure you used more than $10 of his fuel growing up....

spotty.

#22 Charlotte84

Posted 12 April 2012 - 01:11 PM

It would depend on who it was from, we lend our cars to my siblings and one of DH's siblings all the time, we don't mind if they are unable to fill it up. (it tends to be we are lending them as they need it for a specific purpose - ie: to use the tray to mvoe something, or a 4wd because they are going bush and there car has low clearance etc) It is not such an issue.   If it was a friend I didn't really see then I probably would expect it to be filled to the same part that I gave it to them.

#23 Guest_Starletta_*

Posted 12 April 2012 - 01:12 PM

If it was my dad, it wouldn't bother me. But then my parents do a lot for us, so it would really depend on your relationship.

#24 bonnybabe

Posted 12 April 2012 - 01:15 PM

So he used about a sixth of a tank of petrol. I think its over the top to expect him to replace $ten dollars worth of petrol, when he would have spent hundreds of thousands raising u. I also wouldnt expect anyone else to replace or fill it for anything less than half a tank.

#25 Cat©

Posted 12 April 2012 - 01:18 PM

Given your second post and it being your father, then no I don't think its rude, *unless you are very short on money (and assuming he knows that) then it is a bit off to not fill it up.






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