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#1 zoelicious

Posted 11 April 2012 - 10:09 PM

Good evening lovelies.

I need some suggestions on things I can do to get my mind off ivf, easier said than done, i know, but i think its getting a bit out of hand. All i seem to do is go to work and back and google ivf all day and night.

I dont do anything outside of work, i dont do anything to occupy myself as Im so ivf this, ivf that.

What do you do to keep your mind off things? Suggestions please.

xx

#2 Turtle2512

Posted 12 April 2012 - 12:25 AM

Catching up with friends is a great way to keep your mind off things, plus making sure you have time with your partner, going for dinner/movies etc. I also enjoy doing some sort of sport/exercise (even if it's just a walk around the block).

Hope these suggestions helped  biggrin.gif

#3 spring08

Posted 12 April 2012 - 08:49 AM

hi zoe,

during cycles, exercise helps keep me sane when life is collapsing to just work and ivf. really the only thing that's made me think about ivf less during cycle is when work is totally manic though!

between cycles, I find that a weekend away after failed cycles is good. Spending a lot of time outdoors can make you feel better & it's a good way of getting you out of the house when you're down. Finding somewhere new to go for a walk or hike, a bike ride, a paddle or whatever with your partner.  Catching up with friends is also great (depending on their situation).

good luck!

#4 Jenflea

Posted 12 April 2012 - 08:52 AM

I read a lot. And window shopped.
Visited friends who weren't at all interested in babies(good to NOT talk or think about babies for a while).
Craft of some sort maybe?

#5 GEH 77

Posted 12 April 2012 - 10:20 AM

Hi Zoe

Thinking of you & sending you big hugs as it's a familiar feeling.

I found reading & keeping busy helps, make a list & I mean a massive list & get into it! Whether it's work, home or something else.

Also I totally got off google which seemed to be doing my head in, I was like an addict getting off it though!!

I spent a lot of time during my first two cycles doing counselling, I made arrangments to have it regularly during my cycle & made it my 'place' to vent, discuss & get angry about it.  I found this suited me as I found the going tough as we all do.

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xx

#6 cordyline

Posted 12 April 2012 - 01:11 PM

I agree with all those have said outdoor activities/moderate exercise. This really helps me to feel better and helps my body to stay strong and healthy. IVF really hammers the body and if it eventually does work I dont want to feel like I am starting a pregnancy from a really run-down baseline. During the pointy end of cycles, there is not much exercise going on for me though.

I have finally slowed down with the manic googling of everything IVF related. I did this for my first 3 transfers, but the last 2 I just haven't had the inclination. This has helped a lot. But if you had told that to me for the first 3 transfers I would have told you to sod off as, like PPs, it was a bit of drug and I couldnt do without it, plus, it was informing me as well, so there was some value.

Edited by cordyline, 12 April 2012 - 01:12 PM.


#7 porkchop's mama

Posted 12 April 2012 - 02:12 PM

I know the feeling only too well.

In addition to what PP have mentioned:
- writing on my blog and keeping things as non IVF related as possible
- work has been nuts so that's a good proportion of the day accounted for, for once I'm welcoming the chaos
- trying to shift the focus from potential parenthood with DH in our quiet time together, planning trips, talking about current affairs....
- yoga
- formal relaxation sessions each day

I've also been slowly losing my Dr Google dependency as the cycle has progressed.  Only time will tell in my specific case from here on in.

PCM xxx

#8 meggs1

Posted 12 April 2012 - 08:22 PM

I learned French at evening college.  Over 8 transfers I got to a pretty good conversational standard.

Advantages:

  • Intellectually challenging without being work related
  • Outside my comfort zone
  • Other students highly unlikely to be at "baby stage" - most were early 20s or retirees
  • Lots of scope for planning exciting travel
  • Homework


Hope you find something good.

Edited by meggs1, 12 April 2012 - 08:23 PM.


#9 ~katiez~

Posted 12 April 2012 - 08:52 PM

We travelled. After two of our more devastating experiences we went to New York (twice in 6 months) and after another we went to Japan. All booked at incredibly short notice. Don't get me wrong, between that and IVF we absolutely CHEWED through money (not to mention annual leave) but it was very distracting. Everyone thought we were having the time of our lives and many admitted jealousy, if only they knew it was because of grief...

#10 bright*future

Posted 13 April 2012 - 09:09 AM

For me, if I wake up in a google-frenzy state of mind I stay there all day and can't concentrate. I've just started going to sleep listening to a fertility meditation and I sleep really well & wake up feeling much more positive, so that helps me get through the day (or the morning at least) without getting too distracted and driving myself crazy.  

It's awful isn't it.


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