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#1 MellieMel

Posted 11 April 2012 - 10:08 PM

Hello Mums & Mums-to-be,
My husband and I are expecting our first baby in July and are trying to finalise names. We have a lovely girls name already though are stuck for a boys name. There are lots that we like but they have already been taken by family or friends. There is one name we both absolutely love and keep coming back to every time we talk about the baby name topic, though, we have a slight hesitation as the name is very close to a name from history that is not so great.
The name is Harvey. With our surname it will be Harvey Lee, not unlike the infamous Lee Harvey Oswald of the JFK history.
Can I please ask your advice. Would you just go with it as you love it OR would it bother you that it has such a similarity to a name in history?Secondly, how would you feel if your child went to school with a Harvey Lee? Would you immediately think of Oswald?
We will have a middle name, Maxwell after my Dad who has passed. We both love the name, my brother has already named his son it. Making our son Harvey Maxwell Lee.
Your advice and thoughts will be greatly appreciated! Best wishes to you all too and good luck with your name choosing.

#2 vixxistar

Posted 11 April 2012 - 10:30 PM

I didnt think of it at first, (but it is late and im a bit sleep deprived! wacko.gif ) However now you have pointed it out I can see how it might spring to mind. But that doesnt mean it cant be used. I doubt anyone of his generation would make the connection either.

Didnt help you at all did I!? ddoh.gif

Edited by vixxistar, 11 April 2012 - 10:31 PM.

#3 kerilyntaryn

Posted 11 April 2012 - 10:55 PM

I think it would be ok and most people wouldn't even think of that

Edited by kerilyntaryn, 11 April 2012 - 10:55 PM.

#4 Mrs Flanders

Posted 12 April 2012 - 02:36 AM

I'm really sorry but yes. Before I even read your surname, the name Harvey makes me think of Oswald. Maybe run it by a few more people though - not everyone will make that connection.

#5 ali27

Posted 12 April 2012 - 07:07 AM

I think those events are long ago now and most people would not make that connection nowadys. In my opinion, go with the name if it's your favourite and you are both happy with it.

#6 Kay1

Posted 12 April 2012 - 07:15 AM

Secondly, how would you feel if your child went to school with a Harvey Lee? Would you immediately think of Oswald?

Yes I would - but I'm not sure its enough of a link to not use a name I loved.

Funnily enough I know someone with the double barrel surname Maxwell Lee so you could maybe go that route if it really worried you?

#7 Ingrid the Swan

Posted 12 April 2012 - 08:14 AM

It would make me think of Lee Harvey Oswald - and I think people would definitely make the connection. After all, how many of us in this thread were alive when JFk was shot - and yet how many of us know who shot him (conspiracy theories aside)?

Similarly, bet most people can name the killer of Abraham Lincoln - and none of us were definitely alive then!

I think a name that invokes the murderer of a US president, especially when it also involves the biggest conspiracy theory on the planet, would be a tough name to carry.

#8 Surpriselove

Posted 12 April 2012 - 08:18 AM

I love it original.gif

#9 Amber Spyglass

Posted 12 April 2012 - 08:58 AM

I don't know who shot Abraham Lincoln?

And I wouldn't have though of the connection for Harvey Lee either.

If you like the name, go for it.

If it going to bother you that a certain percentage of people will make the connection, would you use a similar name - Harry, Hardy, Harley, Harlow?

#10 Bel Rowley

Posted 12 April 2012 - 09:02 AM

It does make me think of Lee Harvey Oswald, but then I did grow up in an Americophile family and we had every book and video available on the Kennedys in our house.

If you'd said the name was going to be Lee Harvey, no way would I do it, but I think you can get away with Harvey Lee.

#11 paddyboo

Posted 12 April 2012 - 09:08 AM

so what if someone makes the connection, it doesn;t mean your son will be an president killer??? It's a nice name, if you like it, go with it:)

#12 FairyLove

Posted 12 April 2012 - 09:20 AM

I honestly don't think it matters.  If people do make the connection, they will probably think 'that names kinda similar too.....' and that would be the extent of it.
Harvey is a lovely, strong name, go with it OP  original.gif

#13 la di dah

Posted 12 April 2012 - 02:19 PM

John Wilkes Booth shot Lincoln.

I'm such a freak I also know who shot Garfield. And pretty much nobody cares about President Garfield at this late date.

Anyway, I like Harvey as a name. My granddad was a Harvey.

I think I would skip Harvey if I were an Oswald as that's considerably more distinctive. But I wouldn't necessarily just for Lee. I would skip Robert if I were a Lee because, baggage, but not Harvey.

#14 ninaswalk

Posted 12 April 2012 - 02:24 PM

so what if someone makes the connection, it doesn;t mean your son will be an president killer??? It's a nice name, if you like it, go with it:)

This.  We named our boy Ike and people have linked it to Ike Turner and baby Ike of Southpark (?? I didn't know this one).  It doesn't really worry us.  It's not like he'll turn out to be a wife basher or something because of his name.  
If you love it I say use it!

#15 April girl

Posted 12 April 2012 - 02:25 PM

Makes me think of LHO - but it isn't the same name so if you have your heart set on it then use it.

#16 Pocahontas

Posted 12 April 2012 - 02:30 PM

I think it's a great name and wouldn't have put the connection together.

#17 MellieMel

Posted 12 April 2012 - 07:24 PM

Thankyou so much ladies! I really appreciate your time in replying. You have all been wonderful. We are going to have a very good think about it. Thankyou for your honesty, advice and support. I could get used to these forums! Very handy and a great source of knowledge.

Good luck to you all. Perhaps chat to you another time and I'll try to repay Tge favour!

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