Jump to content

2yo biter starting at daycare


  • Please log in to reply
14 replies to this topic

#1 Mummyjane24

Posted 11 April 2012 - 12:54 PM

Hi all,
I have twin boys who have just turned 2 and are starting daycare 1 day a week. My problem is that one of the boys bites his 3yo sister and twin brother when he becomes really frustrated. If this happens whilst he's at daycare and he bites another child what will happen? I am aware that I could be confronted by another parent but I have informed the Childcare Centre of this behaviour and they weren't phased by it. Are there alot of biters out there? I have no control over his biting when he's at daycare. At home he gets time out and reprimanded as well as having to apologise to his siblings. It doesn't happen unless he is seriously frustrated or over-excited. I am a little nervous. What have been your experiences?

#2 bubmakes3

Posted 11 April 2012 - 01:03 PM

My DS has also just turned 2 and he has also just starting biting when frustrated or angry. It is usually myself and occasionally DH who cops it and he is removed immediatly (put down or take my hand away if we are holding hands)and made to apologise.
He has biten twice at daycare in the last month and again it is when he is frustrated - waiting for his turn and someone pushes in etc. The staff are aware and watch him now and remove him if its an escalating situation. He was also biten him last week and was quite shocked I think - he continued to say 'ow my arm Mummy' and rub or point at the mark for a couple of days afterwards - hopefully this will help with his own biting but I am not sure yet!
The staff insist its common and a result of inability to communicate wants and needs etc. We try and install the same techniques that they use and hope its a phase that will pass.

I hope your twins enjoy daycare!

#3 Leha

Posted 11 April 2012 - 01:06 PM

My DS is a biter. He also pulls hair, hits and scratches. I was very concerned as when I took him last year before he started to get him used to the kindy he bit another child after only being there for 20 minutes.

I spoke to all of his teachers and they have never been worried telling me it is very common. Since he started there  has been quite a few incidents but he is getting better. They discipline him by removing him from the situation  and telling him no which is what I do as well.  I think just make sure you keep talking to his teachers, be consistent in telling him off for the biting and you should be ok.



#4 PurpleChicken

Posted 11 April 2012 - 01:13 PM

My 21 mo DD is a biter.  She's bitten a few times, and they generally just remove her from the class and get her doing other things for a while to let her know it's not on.

She's also been bitten quite a bit at DC.  They never say which child did the biting, but just that they've informed the parents.  This saves parents confronting other parents over the issue.

As long as they know he's a biter they can keep an eye on him and watch for the signs.

#5 amesv

Posted 11 April 2012 - 01:23 PM

[/size]My DS was a biter from 1 -3 years old, I started him atoccasional care when he was 2 as I thought it might help to socialise withother children and be disciplined by others too. The day care workers were veryunderstanding I don't think biting is really common but common enough theyweren't surprised by it and knew how to deal with it. I always had to sign aform informing me I was told my son had bit and the details leading up to thebite, and I believe the parent of the child my son bit had to do the same.

[size="3"]


#6 galitayia

Posted 23 April 2012 - 01:04 AM

I TO HAVE A BITER HAIRPULLER SCRATCHER AND SPITER HE IS ABOUT TO START DAYCARE FOR THE SECOND TIME TOMORROW BUT DONT WISH FOR HIM TO HAVE A BAD DAY BUT A REALLY GOOD DAY ..I HAVE NO-IDEA HOW TO STOP THIS AS HIS NOT AN ONLY CHILD HE HAS A OLDER BROTHER AND TWO OLDER SISTER'S ONLY ONE OF MY GIRL'S BITES .. IM IN NEED LIKE EVERYONE ELES ON SOMEHOW GETTING HELP OR ADVICE ON HOW TO STOP THIS !!! unsure.gif

#7 Lightning_bug

Posted 23 April 2012 - 01:52 AM

OP, most children go through the biting stage and unless it's chronic and he doesn't respond to the carer's intervention I wouldn't be concerned.

In our case when it happens we get an incident report sent home.  That's about it.  Most parents are understanding that it does happen and only get concern or upset if it goes on for a long period.

Trust the carers.  They have strategies and intervention techniques which they can put into place.  

OP, how is your little one's communication skills?  This could be off topic but with my son he had horrible frustration at that age so we taught him some basic sign language.  It made a world of difference.

#8 Feralishous

Posted 23 April 2012 - 02:05 AM

One of our friends sons does this, but the CC just reinforce gentle touching (hes in the baby room until june) and keep him away from the little ones.

#9 Bluenomi

Posted 23 April 2012 - 10:24 AM

We have a bite at daycare and DD is his favourite target  mad.gif He's not the best talker and gets bored easily so he either bites because he's bored and wants some attention or because he's angry and can't express it. They are working on it but it's been going on for over a year and he still does it. I can't wait for him to leave at the end of the year and leave DD in peace!

Both parents have to sign an incident report (seperate ones) and they aren't allowed to tell the parent who bit their kid. DD dobs him in though so I know who it is. Some of the other parents really don't like it and actually tell their kids to stay away from him.

#10 tazcan

Posted 23 April 2012 - 10:46 AM

QUOTE
Most parents are understanding that it does happen and only get concern or upset if it goes on for a long period.


I don't think most parents are understanding when their child is bitten!  The daycare won't tell the parent who bit their child but with DD I always found out because she was talking well at 2 and told me who bit her. I wouldn't have confronted the parent about it (and I'm sure doing so would be against the daycare's rules), but it still made me very cross and concerned. She was once bitten on the face and if the bite had been a tiny bit harder she would have had a scar in the shape of teeth on her cheek forever. It just takes one bad bite for a scar, and I imagine being bitten is extremely painful.

At least you have warned the daycare and hoepfully they can intervene and keep an eye on your DS, particularly if he's getting frustrated.

#11 ubermum

Posted 23 April 2012 - 10:54 AM

It depends who he bites. If it's KylieMinOgues kid, it could start another EB hissy fit. wink.gif

#12 Catmummy

Posted 23 April 2012 - 11:00 AM

My son went through the biting stage. I am under the impression most children do it. He bit me hard enough to draw blood a couple of times, and we had one incident at daycare where he bit a little girl, however the next week he was bitten himself. In the end he was bitten more often than he bit someone else.

I didn't flip out, I understand that's what children do, however some mothers get really unreasonable when their child is bitten in such a situation.

He'll grow out of it, I promise OP

#13 tazcan

Posted 23 April 2012 - 11:37 AM

QUOTE
I am under the impression most children do it


I don't think most children bite but it is common enough - probably one child in a room of 20 would bite (as a statistic), at least that is what I have observed. If a child is bitten they might start to bite back in retaliation. One little girl was always biting my DD at daycare. DD had never bitten anyone, but one day the girl bit her (for about the 10th time in a period of a few weeks) and DD turned around and bit her back - that was the last time she bit DD. (and secretly I was very pleased DD had bitten her back, which is bad of me, but at least it stopped the problem).

Edited by tazcan, 23 April 2012 - 11:39 AM.


#14 Xander2

Posted 23 April 2012 - 11:44 AM

My DS has been the 'bite-ee' and also the 'biter' at his daycare.  I had to sign an incident form both times as did the other parents.  it's a phase they go through (he's 3 now and doesn't do it anymore, only lasted about 3 or 4 months I think) It's frustration in most cases not being able to express themselves properly.

My DD (15 months) hasn't started biting yet (although she has been bitten at daycare) but I'm sure her turn will come.

Good luck OP  original.gif

#15 Lightning_bug

Posted 23 April 2012 - 08:14 PM

QUOTE (tazcan @ 23/04/2012, 10:46 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I don't think most parents are understanding when their child is bitten!


I'm not suggesting they like it.  Not the Kumbaya-style understanding but more the gritting your teeth and accepting it happens.  Once or twice.  Basically, they're not about to come running with pitch-forks.

If you hadn't been understanding you would have confronted the other parent, or worse still the child.  

If biting was a recurrent thing I'd be more angry with the child care facility for not dealing with the issue appropriately.  When DS went through his stage our CC facility was fantastic.  They organised a meeting with us; gave us some tactics so we were on the same page at home and; they took a detailed diary of DS's day to identify triggers.

A good CC has training to deal with the issue.  If they didn't, I'd be looking elsewhere.




1 user(s) are reading this topic

0 members, 1 guests, 0 anonymous users

 

Special Ticket Offer, Save $8!

The Essential Baby & Toddler Show is back this April! Save $8 off the door price for a limited time only!

Finding baby name inspiration in unusual places

Sometimes the greatest baby name ideas come from the most unexpected places, as these EB members show.

The case for inducing at 37 weeks

While we often think of pregnancy as a 40 week affair, experts agree that 37 weeks is actually “full term". So is there an argument for inducing all births at 37 weeks?

Does controlled crying really work?

Controlled-crying techniques may help some babies sleep through the night, but for many exhausted new parents, it's just a recipe for more tears all round.

How I taught my infant to use a toilet

As people become more aware of these benefits, I hope more parents will practice this method, so we can cut down on nappies and improve baby bonding.

'I thought it was impossible': Emily Symons pregnant at 45

Aussie actress Emily Symons has announced she is pregnant with her first baby.

Shallow water blackout kills fit, healthy dad

A little girl will grow up without her father after the fit and healthy 34-year-old passed away while doing something he had practised his whole life.

Afternoon naps may be bad for toddlers' sleep

You could be doing yourself a disservice by encouraging your toddler to have an afternoon nap, according to new research.

Best gifts for newborns, new mums and christenings

We've compiled a guide to some of the most popular presents for newborns and new mums, and for christenings and naming days.

Jaime King to be a mum again

Actress Jaime King is pregnant with her second child, giving 16-month-old James a sibling.

Nannies should receive government funding

The Abbott government should extend funding to nannies, and direct childcare payments to low and middle income families, a landmark study on childcare has found. 

Common skin irritations in newborns (and how to treat them)

As many as one in two newborn babies suffer from skin irritations in their first few weeks. So what are the most common rashes and irritations to look out for?

10 wall decals for the nursery or playroom

Wall decals are the answer to creating a beautiful nursery or children's space without lifting a paint brush, a spirit level or even a hammer.

Preschooler walks 2.4km home alone

Three-year-old Cain Trainor headed off home after his first day at a new preschool without telling anyone.

Video: Why mums get nothing done

In spite of being in an almost constant state of motion while looking after the kids and trying to keep things together at home, it can seem as though parents have managed to get nothing on the to-do list done by the end of the day.

The middle name game

The middle name is no longer an afterthought, and parents' inspiration comes from many places.

Have a baby or your money back - but there's a catch

A new IVF scheme offers couples the chance to fall pregnant and give birth - or get their money back. But there's more to it than you might think.

A rare glimpse inside the womb

A baby born still inside the amniotic sac gave US doctors a rare glimpse at life inside the womb.

Battered mum forced to write to her attacker ex in jail

Three years ago Jason Hughes viciously attacked his ex-partner. Now she has to write to him three times a year.

Woman pleads not guilty to ultrasound scam

A West Australian woman will fight allegations that she scammed expectant mums by selling them fake ultrasound pictures of babies.

Download now: Essential Kids Activity Finder app

Got bored kids? Quickly find the best activities for kids wherever you are in Australia with the Essential Kids app.

 
Advertisement
 
Advertisement
 
 
 

What's hot on EB

Brain damaged mum receives compensation

A Sydney mother who suffered brain damage when she was hit by a car while pushing her newborn baby in a pram has reached a confidential out-of-court settlement with the driver's insurance company.

Indigenous midwives break down the barriers

A culturally sensitive midwifery service has gained the trust and respect of Aboriginal women.

The Katering Show's next big delivery

Most mums-to-be plan to take things easy and perhaps have a little break from work as the birth of their baby draws near. Not Kate McCartney.

53 creative pregnancy announcements

Announcing that you're expecting can be a time to express your creativity, sense of humour and imagination. Check out how other parents and parents-to-be have broken the news to friends and family.

Why I have mixed feelings about Cindy Crawford's leaked photo

Last week an un-retouched photo of model Cindy Crawford surfaced, showing the 48-year-old mother-of -two posing in underwear.

How to create a Peppa Pig pancake

Thought your toddler could not love pancakes any more than they already do? How about if the breakfast treat came in the shape of every two-year-old's favourite cartoon character?

'It's a little life, not a little loss': pregnancy after miscarriage

I thought I was never going to be able to have a successful pregnancy. I decided that I wasn't going to form an emotional attachment with this baby.

Bonds Baby Search 2015: what you need to know

February 18 marks the start of one of the most prolific annual baby competitions in Australia: the Bonds Baby Search. And this year is going to be more special than ever.

Who will manage your Facebook account when you're gone?

This is not something that people like to talk about, but Facebook has announced that it will grant users more control over what happens to their pages after they die.

Struggling mum of four wins $188 million

Mother of four Marie Holmes was financially struggling after quitting her jobs at Walmart and McDonald's in order to care for her children.

Pregnant obese women a 'relatively new problem', coroner hears

A first-time mother whose daughter died hours after her frightening birth insists she was never told of the risks of being obese and pregnant.

'I'm angry as hell': the story behind mum's passionate vaccination plea

She has labelled parents who do not vaccinate their children "misinformed imbeciles" - and for that, she makes no apologies.

IKEA hacks for the nursery and kids' rooms

Are you one of those that know the whole IKEA catalogue by heart? Love their stuff but want to personalise it? Here's some inspiration to help you realise the potential of IKEA furniture and fittings.

8 different kinds of tantrums

I never thought I’d say this, but for a brief moment last week, Kim Kardashian and I had something in common: both our kids had public tantrums.

Polycystic ovary syndrome: symptoms, treatment and your fertility

Polycystic ovary syndrome (PCOS) is the most common female hormonal condition, affecting roughly one in 12 Australian women.

What's the best position for giving birth?

If doing it on your back is out, what's the best position for labour and birth?

Wife forgives snake catcher husband for car surprise

With Valentine's Day coming up, Nat Gilbert could be forgiven for thinking her husband might be planning a surprise for her.

Kids who meet milestones at their own pace

We usually only hear the success stories: tales of the two-year-old who’s talking, running and completely toilet trained. But other stories need to be told too.

Ruby shines as Bonds Baby

Sarah Kiss has a word of advice for proud mums and dads who are keen to enter their babies in this year's Bonds Baby Search Competition - just have fun.

Why dads should go to sleep school

If your family needs to go to sleep school, go with them. You are part of that family and you are part of the solution.

36 baby names inspired by food and drinks

A French court may have ruled out Nutella as a baby name, but that doesn't have to stop you from taking inspiration from the supermarket (or bottle shop). See what parents in the US have chosen for their delicious little ones.

Clever breastfeeding products

Check out this range of products designed to help make your breastfeeding journey more enjoyable, manageable and convenient.

 

Win a KitchenAid Mixer

Let's celebrate 300,000 fans on Facebook

To celebrate, and to thank our amazing fans, we?re giving away a KitchenAid Artisan Tilt-Head Stand Mixer.

 
Advertisement
 
 
Essential Baby and Essential Kids is the place to find parenting information and parenting support relating to conception, pregnancy, birth, babies, toddlers, kids, maternity, family budgeting, family travel, nutrition and wellbeing, family entertainment, kids entertainment, tips for the family home, child-friendly recipes and parenting. Try our pregnancy due date calculator to determine your due date, or our ovulation calculator to predict ovulation and your fertile period. Our pregnancy week by week guide shows your baby's stages of development. Access our very active mum's discussion groups in the Essential Baby forums or the Essential Kids forums to talk to mums about conception, pregnancy, birth, babies, toddlers, kids and parenting lifestyle. Essential Baby also offers a baby names database of more than 22,000 baby names, popular baby names, boys' names, girls' names and baby names advice in our baby names forum. Essential Kids features a range of free printable worksheets for kids from preschool years through to primary school years. For the latest baby clothes, maternity clothes, maternity accessories, toddler products, kids toys and kids clothing, breastfeeding and other parenting resources, check out Essential Baby and Essential Kids.