How many mothers out there are feeding a child over 2?
Following on from SarahM72's post...
, Apr 10 2012 09:30 PM
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Posted 10 April 2012 - 09:30 PM
I was just reading SarahM72's post about feeding her 2 y/o and the terrible comments her Dr made suggesting that she stop.
My DD is 3 years and 1 month old and I am still proudly feeding her before bed at night, during the night (she is a scallywag and often hops into bed with us!) and always when she wakes in the morning.
I am sure they are comfort feeds rather than me filling her little belly up (though who knows?).
I do recall once she was sick and vomited in our bed (sorry if TMI!!) and the amount of milk she bought up was incredible and shocked both DH and I as I really didnt think she was getting that much.
Anyway, congratulations to anyone who is practising extended breastfeeding and like SarahM72 putting up with silly comments made by others.
It would be really interesting to see how many Mum's reply here as I have to be honest and say that most of my friends gave up bf much earlier than this....
Posted 10 April 2012 - 09:38 PM
Not yet, but hopefully I will.
DS is turning one in a couple of weeks and I hope to BF him for a while yet.
Posted 10 April 2012 - 09:39 PM
I'm not anymore, but I breastfed til almost 25 months. I don't think our son would have ever stopped - I weaned him because I was going interstate for a few days when he was 27 months, and didn't want him to be unsettled from no breastfeeding while he stayed with my parents. If I hadn't gone away, I probably would have kept going for another few months if he'd wished.
Many in my mothers group (17 women) breastfed til 12 months - at least 10 of us - with most of the others feeding til at least 6 months. By 18 months only myself and another mum were still breastfeeding, and then only me before 2 years. A number of them were pregnant and had second babies by the time our kids were all two though.
Posted 10 April 2012 - 09:41 PM
DD1 will be 3 in a month. She has "boobies milk" at bedtime. I don't know anyone else who has BF this long. Most people were 1 year or less. I'll let DD1 decide when to stop.
I'm planning to feed DD2 until at least 2.
Posted 10 April 2012 - 09:46 PM
My DD and I stopped in about Dec last year at just over 2.5yrs
Posted 10 April 2012 - 09:47 PM
My nearly 3 yr old stopped a few months ago. I personally do not know a lot of people who feed past 12 mths, nearly none that go as long as I did with my three.
Posted 10 April 2012 - 09:48 PM
Not any more but I fed my daughter until she was about 3.5. She weened herself so it was entirely her choice!
Posted 10 April 2012 - 09:49 PM
I did ask DD about a month ago if she wanted to stop feeding in return for a special present (she desperately wants a moses basket for her baby doll) and the poor little thing got all teary and looked up at me and said in this tiny little voice (as if I was abandoning her) "But Mumma I love boo boo and I would be very sad if I didnt have boo boo anymore".
I almost cried when she said it as I felt guilty for even thinking about stopping!
Posted 10 April 2012 - 09:51 PM
My youngest was 2 years 8 months. I had all sorts of people telling me to stop, but we stopped when it worked for both of us. I did the same with my older two as well, but they stopped earlier. DS2 probably would have fed longer than the 16 months he did, but I was 3 months preg with DS3 and my milk just dried up. DS1 was only 10 months which was much earlier than I wanted, but he had other ideas.
Posted 10 April 2012 - 09:51 PM
I'm feeding my 3 year 1 month year old still, and plan to let her choose when to stop. I hope it will be before she goes to school, lol! I am also pregnant & I plan to tandem feed once bubs is born.
I think it's a bit more common than one might initially think, but because people tend not to talk about feeding longer-term/child-led weaning, we don't realise there's more of us out there
Posted 10 April 2012 - 09:52 PM
I fed my little boy until he was 3 and 1 month.
He would still be feeding if I let him but I needed to stop.
He tells me often Mummy I love your boobies
Posted 10 April 2012 - 09:53 PM
"But Mumma I love boo boo and I would be very sad if I didnt have boo boo anymore".
My nearly 3 yr old was very tired and emotional last night. She asked for some warm milk (in a cup) and then got agitated and kept saying "where is it" and pulling at my top. I realised she meant my breast and so I showed her. She was much happier, patted my chest and said, "there's boobie" and went on to drink her warm milk. It was poignent, but makes me realised waht a comfort BF was to her and that she still does remember the lovely bond.
Posted 10 April 2012 - 09:54 PM
I BF'd DS until he was 25 months, I stopped because I was pregnant and tandem feeding didn't interest me he could take it or leave it at that point anyway he wasn't all that upset when I stopped offering it to him. I'm still feeding DD and she is our last child so I will let her self wean, judging by how much she loves her milk I can't imagine her stopping until well past 2.
Posted 10 April 2012 - 09:58 PM
My daughter is 2 years 3 months and still feeding. I breastfed my son until he was 2.5 - he weaned after my daughter was born. I've had a GP tell me to stop feeding right away because I was pregnant again, and when I miscarried she said it was because I was still breastfeeding. I think it is hard to know how many mums feed past 2 years as many only feed at night and don't talk about it, I know most of my family/friends don't realise I'm still breastfeeding my daughter.
Posted 10 April 2012 - 10:00 PM
not yet, but I will be in 4 weeks. Im expecting to tandem feed, as DD will be 26 months when bellyfruit arrives.
Ive had my share of 'comments' too but I a) tell them to STFU or b) avoid them in future
Posted 10 April 2012 - 10:00 PM
I'm Still feeding my little girl and she is 3 and a half, there are so many people around me that are not very happy about this
but we will both stop when we are ready.
Posted 10 April 2012 - 10:01 PM
I am really enjoying reading everyone's stories as I have been thinking about this topic a lot lately. My DD is 22 months and shows no signs of letting go of her "boobie time".
Yet I have also been told numerous times to wean her (mostly by doctors, but also by my own family). The only people who support my decision to continue BF are my husband and my aunt who I am very close to.
My DD shows absolutely no signs of giving up, so I am sure we'll still be going by the time she is three (though I am trying to conceive again at the moment, so things may change).
I love that my child can now communicate her needs. She tells me when she needs it for comfort, or to fall asleep for her day nap, and she will tell me which side she prefers and then swaps over when she feels like it! Teeth can sometimes be a problem, but she has never bitten me... just sometimes latched on the wrong way. On the whole, I feel so privileged to be able to continue to BF her.
Posted 10 April 2012 - 10:03 PM
I'm tandem feeding my 28 month old and 6 week old. I'm happy to keep feeding both boys until they decide they've had enough.
Posted 10 April 2012 - 10:03 PM
DD was feeding, somewhat sporadically, until a couple of weeks ago when I had a really bad bout of mastitis. She will be 4 on Thursday.
Lonelygoatherd, I am sure it is more common than people think! I know I felt kind of embarrassed that I was still feeding and didn't really talk about it unless I was being prescribed medication. Fortunately, none of the GPs I have seen have even batted an eyelid, I have been blessed!
Posted 10 April 2012 - 10:07 PM
I read the topic title and thought "Hopefully everyone is feeding their baby at 2"
Think I have had too much wedding anniversary champagne
ETA: I came here from recent topics so didn't know it was in breastfeeding
Edited by **Xena**, 10 April 2012 - 10:08 PM.
Posted 10 April 2012 - 10:10 PM
DS#1 had his last feed on his third birthday. I had tandem fed him with DS#2 but found out that morning I was pregnant with DS#3. I just couldn't face tandem feeding while pregnant.
DS#2 had his last feed on his third birthday. I tandem fed him with DS#3 but, as that age for stopping worked so well before and he was down to one side only 4-5 times a week, it seemed right to stop there.
DS#3 was my only child to self-wean. He was 23 months and 9 days old. I was 38 weeks pregnant at the time so, while I was very sad he didn't want it anymore, I was also kind of relieved as I was so tired, it was hot due to being summer, and my nipples were quite uncomfortable while he fed.
DD had her last feed on her third birthday. Of all of them I was least ready to stop with her. Probably mainly as I knew she's our last. DH kept saying no more as we'd agreed on 3 as our personal cutoff. She asked numerous times after that for 'mines' (so named by her as DH kept trying to tell her my boobs are his but she insisted they were 'mines"
) and it was so hard to say no. With the others I was fine with ending that part of our relationship as I was still feeding, just a different child. This time it was truely the end and I still miss it 3 months later.
Posted 10 April 2012 - 10:27 PM
Yes I am, DS2 is over 2 1/2 and I can't get him off!!
Posted 10 April 2012 - 10:32 PM
I BF DD3 (then 2.5yo), until I got pregnant with DD4. I fed DD4 until she was 3 yo and then fell pregnant with twins. My first 2 DD's I never BF at all- work commitments and no BF support. (This was over 14 years ago though). I got lots of insensitive comments and strange looks from people, but I couldnt really care less. Do what suits you and your little one/s.
Posted 10 April 2012 - 10:42 PM
Wow this is so great!
I never thought in a million years I would have so many 'yes me too!' responses so quickly - everyone should be so proud of themselves!!!!!
Another poster mentioned that most of her friends and family dont know she is still feeding and I just wanted to say that is the same for me too, there is only a handful of people who know we still feed as so many people just give negative comments. Funnily enough I thought DH wanted me to wean around age 2 but when I suggested I wean DD just after her third birthday he was quite against it and told me she will just wean herself and that its not hurting anyone. Too true.
Posted 10 April 2012 - 10:50 PM
I breastfed all of mine well past 2, but my youngest who will be 3 on Thursday still asks once a week or so. Usually in the bath.i dont mind one little bit.
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