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#1 *Lib*

Posted 10 April 2012 - 09:26 PM

We did. There was a newborn there, but she was BF and the matron of honours child, and my god child.

We invited a couple who replied with 2.5 coming. Was very akward telling them there would be no children at the wedding. The mother didn't come. Which is a shame because 8 years later we are still friends and I'd have liked to have had her there.

#2 Riotproof

Posted 10 April 2012 - 09:29 PM

No. I actually had a children's table of about 8 kids.. I think the youngest was 6, oldest was my nephew who was 12.
I was happy for people with toddlers to bring them, but they made other arrangements. That really was for the best, the parents had a chance to let their hair down.



#3 vanessa71

Posted 10 April 2012 - 09:30 PM

We had one child, my nephew, he was nearly 7 at the time. I would have preferred not to have any children, but I didn't want to put up with the whinging from my sister for the rest of my life.



#4 twinmumplus1

Posted 10 April 2012 - 09:30 PM

Yes I did - and besides one couple, there were no children to consider.  The couple that had childen (my eldest cousin) appreciated the child free night - her words.  Her youngest came - she was 1 1/2 months old.  I can not recall hearing her - she was the quietest baby!


#5 Mozzie1

Posted 10 April 2012 - 09:30 PM

Yep - one of the best wedding decisions we made!

#6 skylark

Posted 10 April 2012 - 09:31 PM

Our reception was in a cocktail bar, and children were prohibited by law from being in there, so we had a no kids policy. There was a new baby there. No one seemed to mind not being allowed to bring their children, though.

#7 Rainbow Lemur

Posted 10 April 2012 - 09:32 PM

We had children at our wedding.  We encouraged parents to bring their children but not many did.  We did not have a tradtional formal wedding.  It was lots of fun and some of the most beautiful photos of the day feature the children who added to the magic of the day.

#8 tickledpink72

Posted 10 April 2012 - 09:33 PM

We had a child free wedding, with the exception of my step-children who were our bridal party.  Hubby and I work in the wedding industry, and have seen many a parents night ruined by unruly, tired children running amok.  I am a VERY firm believer that children and weddings do not mix.  We've never regretted our decision.

#9 KnightsofNi

Posted 10 April 2012 - 09:33 PM

We had children. All the children in our lives are as important as the adults. (we got married pre children)

But we do not pretend to be elegant and did not have a 'elegant' wedding that meant we could not accommodate children.

#10 Guest_Starletta_*

Posted 10 April 2012 - 09:34 PM

We had 3 newborns and a couple of 1 year olds.

Thought we were being considerate but it didn't stop complaints about other stuff. It got back to me that they complained about the lack of a private breastfeedng space and that their prams couldn't fit at the tables. Can't win!

#11 JRA

Posted 10 April 2012 - 09:34 PM

Nearly.

My first had my nephew there, he was 5mths old, and his mum was my bridesmaid.


#12 Bodacious Prime

Posted 10 April 2012 - 09:34 PM

The only children at mine were part of the bridal party.

I did have someone ask if thet could bring their kids (4 of them). I turned them down.

#13 OscarAndTilly

Posted 10 April 2012 - 09:35 PM

We only had our daughter there (who was 2.5), however our situation was a little different.

My father was terminally ill and we had to bring forward our wedding plans. So we were married at my parent's house with close family and friends.

#14 auntpriscilla

Posted 10 April 2012 - 09:35 PM

QUOTE
The mother didn't come. Which is a shame because 8 years later we are still friends and I'd have liked to have had her there.


Yes. As you know, this is the risk that is taken when a child-free wedding is chosen.

We had a couple of older children (10 or 11 or thereabouts) but no others. Didn't know anyone with kids back then.  So it wasn't an issue for us and I don't have a firm view on it. I have had to miss a wedding or two because of the 'no kids' policy though.   That's ok.

#15 BeachedAsBro

Posted 10 April 2012 - 09:35 PM

Yep. No kids at my wedding, it was great. Mind you, there were no close children to invite. If in the same situation again, I'd definitely have no kids there.

If invited to a wedding now, I'd also arrange my DD to stay at home.

#16 *LucyE*

Posted 10 April 2012 - 09:36 PM

Yes.  

It did put some noses out but our wedding wasn't suited to children.  The youngest guest was 16 yrs old.

We had a lovely reception and I am not unhappy with our decision.



#17 baddmammajamma

Posted 10 April 2012 - 09:37 PM

Yes...it was just the two of us, plus the minister & our waitress from breakfast as our witness. We eloped on the shores of Negril, Jamaica because we didn't want to deal with any fuss and drama whatsoever.

We love our families and we love our friends, but neither of us wanted to wade through some of the wedding issues that routinely surface on EB!

#18 Bam1

Posted 10 April 2012 - 09:37 PM

No, my husband is African and you invite the whole family and the community. The community helps to supply the food and other items so it is not too costly. My husband doesn't understand these western weddings which can be quite sterile in comparison but does not have a problem attending without our children.

#19 Isolabella

Posted 10 April 2012 - 09:37 PM

No Children for my wedding. None of my siblings had children and neither did any of our friends have children.

The only people who had children were some cousins. Considering we had to cull first cousin invites (ie. too many first cousin's) we were NOT going to invite any first cousin's once removed (ie. their children). Even first cousins who were invited were only to bring a +1 if they were married/engaged or relationship longer then 2yrs. Numbers were tight with a 70 place reception venue and me having 16 first cousins (let alone their DH's and kids etc)

Also our reception location was on the waterfront at an open restaurant to the pier.... would have been a logistical nightmare with kids as NOT kid safe.

I am one who does not believe children should be at weddings.

My brother and I each had 3 children (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6yrs) when our sister got married. She included the kids as part of the bridal party for the ceremony, but they were not invited to the reception. We were happy to leave our children with babysitters and have a great night with our other halves not worrying about our kids.

My kids have only been invited to one wedding and TBH I would have enjoyed myself much more if we hadn't taken DS1 with us.

Edited by lsolaBella, 10 April 2012 - 09:39 PM.


#20 jodi

Posted 10 April 2012 - 09:40 PM

No way... we didn't want anyone to miss our wedding due to childcare issues, so everyone and their children were welcome!

We had a special table set up, covered in butchers paper; with helium balloons; colouring in pages; and buckets of coloured pencils!... we even had a special kids 'party' menu with party pies and sausage rolls and cocktails franks etc.

Willow was only 2 at the time and was still dancing on the stage at 1am! It was awesome... and EVERYONE came!  hheart.gif

edited to add: our five daughters were my bridesmaids and my stepson was the groomsman... it was a total family affair.

Edited by jodi, 10 April 2012 - 09:41 PM.


#21 squirt081

Posted 10 April 2012 - 09:43 PM

We had 2 kids at the wedding. Both were toddlers. Older kids weren't allowed.

#22 skylark

Posted 10 April 2012 - 09:46 PM

I think the kind of wedding varies immensely - some are big all-in family affairs where kids are great and add to the atmosphere (my little sister's wedding comes to mind), and others are most definitely grown up parties (whether sophisticated or rowdy or whatever) where children take away from the vibe. Neither type of wedding is better than another (despite what some of the sniffy "weddings without children are snobby/sterile" type responses in this thread might indicate), and no one should have children at their wedding if it will detract from what that particular event is designed to be.

#23 Rainbow Brite

Posted 10 April 2012 - 09:46 PM

We only allowed newborns at our wedding. Worked well for us and our friends/family.

#24 *Lib*

Posted 10 April 2012 - 09:47 PM

We were the first of our friends to get married, and none of our friends had kids except the newborn and a 7 year old who was flower girl, she didn't come to the reception. The child who wasn't invited was the child of our bestmans girlfriend. (reasonably new relationship at the time). They are now married.

#25 Mrscoolcoolpants

Posted 10 April 2012 - 09:50 PM

no and I regret it now. I heard thru the grapevine that my niece annoyed a few of the other guests, 1 of which had flown from overseas to attend the night. wish I had stuck to my guns.




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