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#51 Turquoise1

Posted 15 April 2012 - 11:00 PM

Hi Everyone,

Happy Sunday. The sun finally shines here in Turkey after a crazy Winter.

Emnut and Jenmad - thanks for the comments. Aside from my fiance, I have no friends or family in this city. Skype calls are a blessing but İ'm a very social person and I looove my friends. I don't know how I'll go without them. I return to Melbourne for the birth after we marry in September. I'll stay with my friend ın Upper Beaconsfield and research a nearby hospital. It's funny that some friends are telling me to come home for good medical treatment but the dr here was totally up for the early scan. The main difference here is they don't care about Iodine. It's not in my Elevit vitamin but I'll keep searching for it. Even though I've had the scan to make it feel real, I'm having a flat day today and I'm concerned about how our baby is. I relate to you Mums who are nervous in this early time.

Now bras. My friend said underwire bras will get too annoying soon. I've lost weight since being pregnant but my breasts are blooming! I'll research good quality maternity bras in London as my friend said they're great for before and after birth. She also said she'd send  me a Genie bra from those late night infomercials - they do look good.

Have a great start to the week. Nice to be connected!

#52 christmasiscoming

Posted 16 April 2012 - 09:58 AM

Ugghhh ... can I just tell you how much I despise trying to book hospitals and doctors appointments !!

It's just taken me an hour to work out that I cant go to the hospital I wanted to as I'm outside the catchment.  Dammit   cry1.gif   So I'll be off to the Mater Mothers hospital here in Brisbane.  They tell me that once they get my referral it'll take them between 4-6weeks to 'approve' the application ... WTF ... what needs approving??  I'm pregnant, you're a public hospital, I'm in your catchment ... what more needs to be approved?  Gggrrrr.

Then I had to book a doctor ... I tell you what, it does not pay to move suburbs these days - you cant get into a doctor !!  This morning I was told "they're not taking new bookings right now" and "we only take bookings for new patients a week in advance"  I'd hate to be sick today then !!  Luckily I got an appointment for Wednesday so I should be able to get my referral for the hospital, fax it off to them for 'approval' and then sit and wait for my acceptance  rolleyes.gif

At least it ticks it off my list of 'to dos' for today.  Now to get motivated, get myself and the boys dressed and head out to get our jobs done for today.  I think I've earnt a coffee !!

#53 caroldiem

Posted 16 April 2012 - 10:07 AM

christmasiscoming - Wow that is ridicolous you poor thing but hey i guess that's our lovely public health system. Instead of our so intelligent Federal government wasting 43 billion tax payer dollars on the NBN they should be pumping that into our healthcare system. Anyway that's the reason why i go private i don't trust the public health system. I hope you don't have any further hassles i can't believe it is so hard to get booked in with a GP. So basically if something goes wrong u have to sit in emergency for 4 plus hours. Another reason why i love private you don't wait as soon as your booked into the hospital once u see the OB anytime you have a concern you race up to the maternity ward and they let you straight in original.gif

Hope your day gets better i agree you do deserve a coffee  bbighug.gif

#54 christmasiscoming

Posted 16 April 2012 - 11:41 AM

I know *Caroldiem* ... this is why I am continuing to bang my head against the wall that we dropped our obstetric health cover late last year - would have been so easy if we were private patients again  cry1.gif  I loved knowing that I had one (two if you count the midwife) person looking after me for everything - I'm kind of cringeing about having to go to just a GP for my pregnancy stuff ... I'm just a bit worried about the level of knowledge, care and concern IYKWIM.

Here's hoping the new doctor is nice ...

Oh well, chin up from here !!  Nothing I can do about it now.  It will be a whole new experience LOL.

#55 meifong16

Posted 16 April 2012 - 11:47 AM

Hi everyone, thank you so much for all the good vibes. Just wondering....when do we normally go for our first OB visit? I still haven't see my OB yet and I'm now pass 8 weeks. My first appointment with her is 1 more month away!!!!

#56 christmasiscoming

Posted 16 April 2012 - 12:22 PM

*meifong16*   I would have thought most people would have an appointment by about 9-10wks with an OB or at least their midwife that works along side them.  If you're choosing to have one, you're going to need a referral to have your 12wk scan and the bloodtest referral to go along with the scan.  The scan can be done between 11.5wks and 13wks6days so in my experience you see your OB prior to this to firstly get to know each other, he'll check things out for himself and he'll give you the forms for your scan.

Have you actually seen anyone yet?  I gather you've maybe only been to your GP for the referral for the OB ...  

I think if it were me I'd call them and just see if they really aren't going to see you until after the 12wk mark, ask if they'll at least write you the the referral for your scan.  That way you can have it and take the results back to your first appointment with the OB.

Hope that helps x

#57 ~MakkaPakka~

Posted 16 April 2012 - 12:40 PM

Christmasiscoming:  I am going to the mater mothers in  Brisbane as well.  My GP faxed through the referal and I had a letter the following week with my first appointment date at the hospital (being tommrow).  I was quite surprised as they were very quick this time around.  I am not actuly in their catchment but I have had all my babies there and have had complicatitons in the past which is why I get accpeted.  If it helps I have had nothing but praise for them during all my pregnancies, births and postnatal care.  I hope all goes well with finding a G.P.  I am thankful for my GP, she is amazing but also have to book a week ahead to see her.  Mind you if it is an emergency she will see me.

Just wondering if you kenw that there are different types of programs of care from the mater?  You can do attend a midwifery clinic instead of GP shared care.

Just found a link to some info for you

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I wil be back later to post more, M/S is getting the better of me  sick.gif

#58 Heather-Elizabeth

Posted 16 April 2012 - 12:53 PM

Just back from my ultrasound. All is well. 1 healthy baby in there. Measuring slightly behind my dates, new EDD is 25th of Nov. Which would be about right since my first was born at 40+5. Heart rate of 156 BPM. I'm so glad everything is ok.

Living in a small town, there is only the local hospital to go to. My GP is my OB, so I have seen her once to get my yellow card, and I don't see her again now until 11 weeks.

As for the NBN, I'm all for the money going to internet. Living in the country, the internet can be our main source of contact with anyone for anything. It costs my parents $240/month for satellite internet because that's the only option they have. It might not be needed in the cities, but it sure is out in the country.

That doesn't mean I don't also agree that more money should be going to public health.

#59 caroldiem

Posted 16 April 2012 - 12:54 PM

meifong16 - Generally you have your first appt with your Ob at 10 weeks, I would think 12 weeks is a little late because you need the referral for the scan from them, if i was you i would give your OB's office a call. As soon as i found out i was pregnant i booked in with my OB he is very popular and i didn't want to miss out original.gif

christmasiscoming - I think if you have a problem free pregnancy public will be fine i mean there are benefits it is a lotttt cheaper but i understand your concern about the care provided during pregnancy. Since you have experienced private before i would be interested to see once you experience the public system whether your conclusion is private is just a waste of money or whether it is worth it. I agree with MakkaPakka i have heard good things about the midwifery clinic i think it would be better then GP shared care.

EDZ - Glad to hear your scan went well that is fantastic news. In regards to the NBN you have a point and i agree it is needed in rural areas but i just wish it didn't cost soo much the other day i read an article about the NBN wasting money on stationary. I just think our public health and school systems should have a higher priority on the governments spending list then the NBN

Edited by caroldiem, 16 April 2012 - 12:57 PM.

#60 meifong16

Posted 16 April 2012 - 01:57 PM

Dear christmasiscoming and caroldiem,

I've already got my referral letter for the 10 week blood test and 12 week ultrasound from my GP. So far I've been seeing my GP. The OB is so popular I couldnt get any earlier appointments with her.

#61 caroldiem

Posted 16 April 2012 - 04:13 PM

Sounds all good then meifong16 original.gif I am counting down to my first OB appt one week to go i can't wait i have convinced my DH to come along for support if there is any bad news sad.gif

#62 mellmatho

Posted 16 April 2012 - 05:38 PM

I had my dating scan today. EDD 17TH NOVEMBER and only 1 bubba, heart rate is 167bpm and measuring 2.50cm

Fingers crossed I dont go way over as Im november 27th and my daughter is November 28th

#63 tanglez

Posted 16 April 2012 - 05:50 PM

Oh wow, disappear for a few days and much to catch up on! Very pleased to hear all is going well for everyone! Sorry for the lack of personals but it would take up a page and then some original.gif Much love and light regardless! I have hit the holy grail, the 12 week mark today and although I should be over the moon ecstatic, I just cant wait for my 12 week scan on Thursday to put my mind at ease! I am hoping the tears will go with the morning sickness now! I was worried I was depressed but then I realised I am not at all withdrawn, not despondent or flat or having trouble sleeping, I just cry over crazy things (both sad and funny!) Anyways, small price to pay I guess Bring on Thursday, I wanna see my lil one floating around with a healthy heartbeat and some awesome limbs going!

#64 whatnamenow

Posted 16 April 2012 - 06:02 PM

Is anyone else starting to have panics and regrets?

Not real regrets but i am just starting to freak out a little.   I mean my youngest child at the moment is 9 years old!   Why am i doing this all over again?

At the moment i just am a bit overwhelmed with the reality that is crashing in on me.  My whole lifestyle at the moment is structured at an age where my kids are less and less dependant on me.  Even my house is not set up well.  ( and i'm a family daycare educator!!!) My whole downstairs is good for babies but not upstairs...  Having to carry a baby downstairs with me always...  ( down the stairs that i have already fallen down twice because of how steep they are!! )
Sorry everyone just wondering if anyone else is feeling the same....

#65 jenmad

Posted 16 April 2012 - 07:12 PM

Hi everyone

Meifong- Dont worry about not having had an appointment. I went to see my ob at 8 weeks. We chatted away like old mates for 20 minutes and then I left. No check for the heart beat, no blood pressure etc. Theres not a lot they do in the early days.

Charlottesmum- Post purchase dissonance? Haha. I guess your in a different situation to most. I'm more worried my kids are too close together. My mum had 11 year gap between her first three and no 4 - the surprise. She had lots of help and as an 11 year old it was s great having a baby in the house. My mum also likes that she now has been engaged longer with her kids and its kept her young. She was scared having him but now its the best thing that ever happened. My point being you will be thrilled and so will your older kids.

No opinion on the NBN but what about the 10k baby bonus. Are they serious. I really dont agree with that. Id prefer money is invested for everyone in our hospital system then handed out to buy babies. Aghhh....

Morning sickness is still raging. I made it to work today. Yay! Im totally exhausted and looking forward to going to Fiji in 2 weeks.

Our house cooled off today so another big relief. We are sold - and I guess homeless if we fail to find something else.

#66 shoopdeboop

Posted 16 April 2012 - 07:25 PM

QUOTE (charlottesmum04 @ 16/04/2012, 06:02 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Is anyone else starting to have panics and regrets?

Not real regrets but i am just starting to freak out a little.   I mean my youngest child at the moment is 9 years old!   Why am i doing this all over again?

At the moment i just am a bit overwhelmed with the reality that is crashing in on me.  My whole lifestyle at the moment is structured at an age where my kids are less and less dependant on me.

Yes! Exactly the same. I have ten year old twins. I barely even remember them being babies!! I really enjoy how they are so independent these days and I have some sense of freedom which I feel like I've never had before in my life!
I am definitely worried about going back to square one. No part of our house is baby safe at all. We are quite comfortable and happy with our homelife and I cannot imagine having to bathe, feed, clean up after a baby during our normally quiet evenings. A baby's really gonna throw a spanner in the works there!
That said.. we did plan it  laughing2.gif  
I think we will just adjust. I am quite confidant that my older kids will do anything needed to help out.

#67 clareaudrey

Posted 16 April 2012 - 07:32 PM

hi, im joining your group from Sydney. Looking forward to being part of an online community. Im due November 20 and am seeing OBGYN tmrw. cant wait!

#68 whatnamenow

Posted 16 April 2012 - 07:36 PM

Shoopdeboop  this one was planned too for us.  But i still sometimes feel like an alien has taken over my body..  Sucked the life/energy out of me, turned me off all my favourite foods and just made me not me.
I miss being me!!!!

#69 sentimentalist

Posted 16 April 2012 - 09:22 PM

charlottesmum04 I can relate as i have a 13 yr old, 10 yr old and 8 yr old and keep freaking abit about going back to the start with a newborn then baby then toddler, especially when you are so used to ones who can do everything for themselves, who dont need constant supervision etc!

AFM, I'm doing ok, very very tired still, and cranky still.... and feeling nauseus all day most days!

Got referals for my tests and scans and got a place in the birth centre at monash (which is great as we are not in catchment area!)

Looking forward to hitting 13 odd weeks when I should feel better!

#70 shoopdeboop

Posted 16 April 2012 - 09:42 PM

charlottesmum04- -and this alien has driven a wedge between me and my beloved coffee. I am not coping well with that at all  glare.gif
My brain wants the coffee but my stomach says you dare even smell it and I'll have your head in the toilet!

Clareaudrey- congrats, I'm also due Nov 20. I have my first appt on wednesday. I'm hoping that a scan will alter my due date as my brother is getting married a week later and I don't want to miss it!

#71 Ang1982

Posted 17 April 2012 - 08:48 AM

WOW Haven't been on since Easter Sunday and so much has happened. Welcome to all the newbies and very happy on the exciting progress of all you other mums to be.

AFM- Starting Easter Sunday I was in agony and started spotting so I went to the hospital and was there 13 hrs and they said I pulled a muscle and sent me home. After 4 hrs at home I got worse and started vomiting constantly so I called an ambulance and went back. After 2 hrs waiting on ambulance stretcher I was seen to and then 3 hrs later had a u/s to find out why I was in so much pain. Turns out I was bleeding internally. Seeing as they was so much blood they didnt know what had cause it so off to surgery I go. At this time I'm there by myself as DH is still away at work. Surgery reveals that as well as a pregnancy in my uterus I also have an ectopic pregnancy that has ruptured my left tube so that was removed. 3 ltrs of blood drained and a blood trannsfusion needed for me pls 3 days to recover in hospital. Only just feeling normal except for m/s. Seeing as anaesthesia is very dangerous in pregnancy let alone first trimester we had to wait until yesterday to see if bubs had survived. U/S showed bubs measuring 7w2d and a h/r of 149bpm. Hopefully this is the end of all the bad stuff and I can enjoy my pregnancy without any more complications. Sorry it was so long.

#72 christmasiscoming

Posted 17 April 2012 - 10:51 AM

OMG !!  That must have been sooo scary *Ang1982*  I would have been beside myself being there without my husband.  Glad to hear you're feeling a bit better though.  What a rough couple of weeks for you.

*mellmatho* That was my predicament too with my DS1 and DS2.  I went overdue with DS1 and he was born on 5 Feb which pushed it close to my birthday 8 Feb.  DS2 was actually due on my birthday so then I was thankful to be overdue with him so that we would all have seperate birthdays but it makes for a very busy February for us - 5th, 8th and 15th and if we're lucky Valentines Day gets a look in on the 14th also but it has become VERY low key these days LOL.

*charlottesmum04* I can relate to the fear and anxiety about 'why am I doing this again' completely except I'm on the other end of the spectrum whereby in November I'll have 3 kids who are 3 and under and I'll be responsible for doing everything for all of them  oomg.gif ffear.gif blink.gif   I'll have a 3yo, a 1yo and the newborn to tend with.  There is 2yrs 10days between my first two boys and I thought even that was a hard gap because DS1 was no where near independant enough to do much of anything by himself and now I'll have him and DS2 who will be 20months relying on me and a new baby as well to feed around the clock.  I am seriously doubting my coping ability at the moment.  I'm sure it'll "all just work out" as everyone says but it does seem somewhat daunting right now.  And then there's the financial side of a third child and how we're going to cope with that on one wage (including the purchase of a new bigger car).  

Right when you could do with a wine is the exact time you're not allowed any !!  That's just cruel LOL.

Hope everyone is feeling well today.  Slight queasiness again this morning for me but no bathroom trips so thankful for that.

Have a great day everyone.

#73 whatnamenow

Posted 17 April 2012 - 06:58 PM

christmasiscoming i can understand that too.  had my first jan 2000 my 2nd dec 2000, lost bub 3 may 2001, had my 3rd live bub july 2002 then lost one more in 2003.

my 3 are now 12,11, and almost 10.  so I have raised 3 under 3.  you can do it although it is a strain. It just ends up being 3 of everything and at least they are all at the same stage at the same timeish.  I think for me thats part of why i am so scared.  With all the others i was used to being pregnant.  It was almost natural to just be pregnant.

i feel for you.  DD2 i was in a similar situation, had surgery but was very lucky in that i just had internal bleeding for unknown reason and got to keep my tube.  It can be scary and dont be surprised if at your next OB appointment they want to do another scan just to make sure.  I had an insensitive OB tell me before even looking at it that i had lost my baby. I quickly discharged myself from Redcliffe Hospitals antenatal when 4 hours later i got the news that everything was fine.  At the end of the day take care of you and bubs and get well.

Shoopdeboop I hear you about the coffee.  I decided if i couldnt stomach it then i had to wean myself off entirely.  Its taken several weeks but i finally am used to not having my daily caffeine dose.

Everyone else i am thankful for your replies.  Makes me feel like i am not alone.  I am having a better day today.  Not so overwhelmed.  Booked my NT scan today in 2 weeks.  although considering I and 2 of my kids both have a genetic disorder already the other half and i are pretty convinced that this one will as well.  and as we have both said what are the chances that it will have 2 disorders so we think we are pretty safe..

#74 flyingfree

Posted 17 April 2012 - 07:31 PM

Looks like they are a few of us mums with older kids pregnant again with a larger age gap, I have DS1 13, DD1 nearly 10 and DS2 7 1/2.
Have you told your kids you are pregnant and how was their reaction.

Ang- I am glad everything is good will bub, what a scary time you have just had bbighug.gif

#75 Ang1982

Posted 17 April 2012 - 09:35 PM

charlottesmum04-It was exactly the same hospital it happened at too. I don't blame them as it is rare that it happens and once they saw one in the uterus they assumed all was ok.

My kids are 14,10 and 7. I always wanted another one and finally its happened. I was waiting till the right man as my other kids dads(2 of them) didnt stick around. Got married last year so now is our time.

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