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#1 Tippi-toes

Posted 09 April 2012 - 03:38 PM

We are 20weeks along (half way... Yay) and we are struggling with girls names. My sister has always loved Ella, not on my list but I came across Aela the other day and dh actually likes it. It's Greek and means wirlwind and is pronounced aye-lah.. . Sister is not currently in a relationship, nor planning kids any time soon, her future partner may hate the name, she may have boys, this bump may be a boy and this post maybe irrelevant... But anyway, am I blatantly stealing her name if we used it??? Even if she used Ella they would have different surnames and potentially diff nn's too?! Thanks

#2 LambChop

Posted 09 April 2012 - 03:40 PM

Why don't you just ask her ?

#3 Angelina Ballerina

Posted 09 April 2012 - 03:43 PM

Have a chat to your sister.

It seems like babies are a long way off for her so its probably not a big deal.

#4 YoBagaBaga

Posted 09 April 2012 - 03:44 PM

QUOTE (LambChop @ 09/04/2012, 03:10 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Why don't you just ask her ?


Agree.

I have also seen it spelt Ayla.
For what its worth I think it's different enough from Ella. I wouldn't mind if I was your sis but everyone is different.

#5 YandiGirl

Posted 09 April 2012 - 04:25 PM

I always loved the name Sarah. When I was pregnant with my daughter I mentioned to my MIL that I was planning on calling her Sarah. She then informed me that my husband's cousin had always planned on naming her daughter Sarah. Said cousin was pregnant at the time and hadn't learned the sex of her child so I decided to not risk it and gave my daughter another name.

She had two children in the end, both boys. As a result, I didn't ever get to use the name I always wanted for what in retrospect turned out to be a silly reason.

#6 oNeLoVe

Posted 09 April 2012 - 04:37 PM

I'd use it.  I know cousins who are called Ella and Ally.  *shrug*

#7 Kikki-B

Posted 09 April 2012 - 04:42 PM

My sister named her daughter Asha (6yrs ago) & I had my daughter last year and was going to use the name Ayla which my sister had no problems with although they sound almost the same. Just ask your sister, Its not like you are wanting to use the exact name she loves.
Because my husband & I could not agree on names we had a plan to let our baby choose her own name - Elena (my husbands choice) which means bright light (daytime birth) or Ayla which means moonlight (night time birth). She was born during the day so Elena (Leni) it is! So my worries about Ayla & Asha being so similar was all for nothing!
Good luck

#8 *Lena*

Posted 09 April 2012 - 04:45 PM

I'd use it. She isn't even in a relationship. I know the names I had decided I would call my children changed greatly. They have changed from child to child actually. When she does get a partner he may hate the name or she may never have a girl and then you will be disappointed. I regret naming DS2 what I did and it is a horrible feeling don't make the same mistake. First in best dress.

#9 Natttmumm

Posted 09 April 2012 - 04:48 PM

My cousin was pregnant just after me and we both liked the same name for a girl. I knew I was having a girl she didn't know. I was planning to se the name but 2 days before DD was born I heard another name I loved and we used that. My cousin ended up having a girl and used the name we both liked. We would both have been ok about it either way

#10 Guest_Cathode_*

Posted 09 April 2012 - 04:51 PM

It is a discussion you need to have with your sister. Not randoms on the internet original.gif

#11 Honeymummy

Posted 09 April 2012 - 05:11 PM

I would use it but still be prepared for her to use the one she loves when it is her turn.

#12 Bel Rowley

Posted 10 April 2012 - 08:21 AM

I would use it. Far too many variables at play with your sister, I don't think the names are all that similar, and who knows if and when she will ever have a daughter called Ella.

#13 mandaandstarr

Posted 10 April 2012 - 08:27 AM

I would maybe mention to your sister that it's a name you are thinking about and see her reaction. You never know she may not love Ella as much as she used to now that it's so popular... I stole the name my sil always wanted unintentionally because she never told me and I never told her what names we were thinking of using. First in best dressed wink.gif


#14 Kay1

Posted 10 April 2012 - 08:28 AM

You need to talk about it. My SIL wanted to use a name for her DD2 that was our favourite girls' name. We weren't TTC at the time so we kept quiet about it and didn't mention that it was our first choice for a girl too. In the end she didn't use the name as it clashed with the month her DD2 was born (its a month name). By then we were PG with #2 so since she hadn't used it we asked if she would mind if we used it. They were not sure if they would have any more kids - and obviously they may have no more girls so they agreed. As it turned out we had a boy - and are having another boy now and she had no more kids so no one got to use the name!! sad.gif laughing2.gif


#15 Ingrid the Swan

Posted 10 April 2012 - 08:43 AM

QUOTE (Cathode @ 09/04/2012, 04:21 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
It is a discussion you need to have with your sister. Not randoms on the internet original.gif


This.

#16 Tippi-toes

Posted 10 April 2012 - 08:46 AM

QUOTE (Kikki-B @ 09/04/2012, 04:42 PM)
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Because my husband & I could not agree on names we had a plan to let our baby choose her own name - Elena (my husbands choice) which means bright light (daytime birth) or Ayla which means moonlight (night time birth). She was born during the day so Elena (Leni) it is! So my worries about Ayla & Asha being so similar was all for nothing!
Good luck


I think that is the coolest way ofchooseing a name! Anyway back on topic... I would 100% talk to her first if this bambino is a girl, just wanted to sound it out on eb first. At the moment she's a little sensitive, we're twins and nearing 30, many of our friends are settling down and haveing families and she's feeling it a bit! And I don't want to upset her which is why I am both putting off, but will definatly talk to her. She's my bf after all but sometimes it does help to gadge moods through randoms on the Internet! original.gif

#17 MahnaMahna

Posted 10 April 2012 - 10:50 AM

I wouldn't use it, but that is just because I would prefer not to end up with similar sounding names in the future, if indeed your sister ended up having a girl.

If your sister is fine with it and it is the name you want then I say go for it, but I much prefer having distinct and different names within a family original.gif

#18 la di dah

Posted 10 April 2012 - 02:46 PM

I don't think they're that close. Though if I'm understanding correctly, Aela is said like Isla is? Eye-lah?

Isla and Ella are too close for siblings, I would say, but fine for cousins. I'm not especially delicate about cousins' names being similar though.

Depends on your relationship with your sister, really.

I know my sister's top three for girls involve a lot of the same first initials mine do. The names aren't the same though (Liora/Lucinda, Ivy/Irene, etc.) so we're chill as can be.

#19 Etcetera

Posted 10 April 2012 - 05:29 PM

My sister said she liked Madeleine for a girl years before she had kids, so it was a name that I automatically crossed off my potential list.

She just had a baby girl and called Sofie.

Name your baby what you like and don't be influenced by whst others may or may not call their kids.

#20 Luci

Posted 10 April 2012 - 07:08 PM

If you do discuss it with your sister and she doesn't want you to use it will you be ok with that?

If it was me I think I would use the name. IMO it is similar but not too similar for cousins. I also think that no one owns a name - plus every name that sounds a bit like it.

Luci

#21 EsmeLennox

Posted 10 April 2012 - 07:12 PM

Years ago I taught cousins with virtually the same name - along the lines of Hannah Mary and Hannah Marie (not the actual names though) They had the same last name too, and we're in the same year at school. Now that, IMO, was too close. What you are thinking about is fine, not really remotely close to the same name - the pronunciation is too different.


#22 funkymum

Posted 10 April 2012 - 08:38 PM

O love the name.  I don't think its stealing her name at all original.gif

O love the name.  I don't think its stealing her name at all :)

#23 4kidlets

Posted 10 April 2012 - 10:13 PM

As I have said on other threads, I think similar names are fine for cousins - as long as the name is not exactly the same, I dont see a problem.

#24 Charmzy

Posted 10 April 2012 - 10:48 PM

If you like it, use it.

#25 Tall Poppy

Posted 11 April 2012 - 09:25 AM

It is similar, however, if you love it go for it. Choose what you will be happy with.




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