Jump to content

Too close?
Am I stealing my sisters fav baby name?


  • Please log in to reply
27 replies to this topic

#1 Tippi-toes

Posted 09 April 2012 - 03:38 PM

We are 20weeks along (half way... Yay) and we are struggling with girls names. My sister has always loved Ella, not on my list but I came across Aela the other day and dh actually likes it. It's Greek and means wirlwind and is pronounced aye-lah.. . Sister is not currently in a relationship, nor planning kids any time soon, her future partner may hate the name, she may have boys, this bump may be a boy and this post maybe irrelevant... But anyway, am I blatantly stealing her name if we used it??? Even if she used Ella they would have different surnames and potentially diff nn's too?! Thanks

#2 LambChop

Posted 09 April 2012 - 03:40 PM

Why don't you just ask her ?

#3 Angelina Ballerina

Posted 09 April 2012 - 03:43 PM

Have a chat to your sister.

It seems like babies are a long way off for her so its probably not a big deal.

#4 YoBagaBaga

Posted 09 April 2012 - 03:44 PM

QUOTE (LambChop @ 09/04/2012, 03:10 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Why don't you just ask her ?


Agree.

I have also seen it spelt Ayla.
For what its worth I think it's different enough from Ella. I wouldn't mind if I was your sis but everyone is different.

#5 YandiGirl

Posted 09 April 2012 - 04:25 PM

I always loved the name Sarah. When I was pregnant with my daughter I mentioned to my MIL that I was planning on calling her Sarah. She then informed me that my husband's cousin had always planned on naming her daughter Sarah. Said cousin was pregnant at the time and hadn't learned the sex of her child so I decided to not risk it and gave my daughter another name.

She had two children in the end, both boys. As a result, I didn't ever get to use the name I always wanted for what in retrospect turned out to be a silly reason.

#6 oNeLoVe

Posted 09 April 2012 - 04:37 PM

I'd use it.  I know cousins who are called Ella and Ally.  *shrug*

#7 Kikki-B

Posted 09 April 2012 - 04:42 PM

My sister named her daughter Asha (6yrs ago) & I had my daughter last year and was going to use the name Ayla which my sister had no problems with although they sound almost the same. Just ask your sister, Its not like you are wanting to use the exact name she loves.
Because my husband & I could not agree on names we had a plan to let our baby choose her own name - Elena (my husbands choice) which means bright light (daytime birth) or Ayla which means moonlight (night time birth). She was born during the day so Elena (Leni) it is! So my worries about Ayla & Asha being so similar was all for nothing!
Good luck

#8 *Lena*

Posted 09 April 2012 - 04:45 PM

I'd use it. She isn't even in a relationship. I know the names I had decided I would call my children changed greatly. They have changed from child to child actually. When she does get a partner he may hate the name or she may never have a girl and then you will be disappointed. I regret naming DS2 what I did and it is a horrible feeling don't make the same mistake. First in best dress.

#9 Natttmumm

Posted 09 April 2012 - 04:48 PM

My cousin was pregnant just after me and we both liked the same name for a girl. I knew I was having a girl she didn't know. I was planning to se the name but 2 days before DD was born I heard another name I loved and we used that. My cousin ended up having a girl and used the name we both liked. We would both have been ok about it either way

#10 Guest_Cathode_*

Posted 09 April 2012 - 04:51 PM

It is a discussion you need to have with your sister. Not randoms on the internet original.gif

#11 Honeymummy

Posted 09 April 2012 - 05:11 PM

I would use it but still be prepared for her to use the one she loves when it is her turn.

#12 Bel Rowley

Posted 10 April 2012 - 08:21 AM

I would use it. Far too many variables at play with your sister, I don't think the names are all that similar, and who knows if and when she will ever have a daughter called Ella.

#13 mandaandstarr

Posted 10 April 2012 - 08:27 AM

I would maybe mention to your sister that it's a name you are thinking about and see her reaction. You never know she may not love Ella as much as she used to now that it's so popular... I stole the name my sil always wanted unintentionally because she never told me and I never told her what names we were thinking of using. First in best dressed wink.gif


#14 Kay1

Posted 10 April 2012 - 08:28 AM

You need to talk about it. My SIL wanted to use a name for her DD2 that was our favourite girls' name. We weren't TTC at the time so we kept quiet about it and didn't mention that it was our first choice for a girl too. In the end she didn't use the name as it clashed with the month her DD2 was born (its a month name). By then we were PG with #2 so since she hadn't used it we asked if she would mind if we used it. They were not sure if they would have any more kids - and obviously they may have no more girls so they agreed. As it turned out we had a boy - and are having another boy now and she had no more kids so no one got to use the name!! sad.gif laughing2.gif


#15 Ingrid the Swan

Posted 10 April 2012 - 08:43 AM

QUOTE (Cathode @ 09/04/2012, 04:21 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
It is a discussion you need to have with your sister. Not randoms on the internet original.gif


This.

#16 Tippi-toes

Posted 10 April 2012 - 08:46 AM

QUOTE (Kikki-B @ 09/04/2012, 04:42 PM)
14471824[/url]']

Because my husband & I could not agree on names we had a plan to let our baby choose her own name - Elena (my husbands choice) which means bright light (daytime birth) or Ayla which means moonlight (night time birth). She was born during the day so Elena (Leni) it is! So my worries about Ayla & Asha being so similar was all for nothing!
Good luck


I think that is the coolest way ofchooseing a name! Anyway back on topic... I would 100% talk to her first if this bambino is a girl, just wanted to sound it out on eb first. At the moment she's a little sensitive, we're twins and nearing 30, many of our friends are settling down and haveing families and she's feeling it a bit! And I don't want to upset her which is why I am both putting off, but will definatly talk to her. She's my bf after all but sometimes it does help to gadge moods through randoms on the Internet! original.gif

#17 MuppetGirl

Posted 10 April 2012 - 10:50 AM

I wouldn't use it, but that is just because I would prefer not to end up with similar sounding names in the future, if indeed your sister ended up having a girl.

If your sister is fine with it and it is the name you want then I say go for it, but I much prefer having distinct and different names within a family original.gif

#18 la di dah

Posted 10 April 2012 - 02:46 PM

I don't think they're that close. Though if I'm understanding correctly, Aela is said like Isla is? Eye-lah?

Isla and Ella are too close for siblings, I would say, but fine for cousins. I'm not especially delicate about cousins' names being similar though.

Depends on your relationship with your sister, really.

I know my sister's top three for girls involve a lot of the same first initials mine do. The names aren't the same though (Liora/Lucinda, Ivy/Irene, etc.) so we're chill as can be.

#19 Etcetera

Posted 10 April 2012 - 05:29 PM

My sister said she liked Madeleine for a girl years before she had kids, so it was a name that I automatically crossed off my potential list.

She just had a baby girl and called Sofie.

Name your baby what you like and don't be influenced by whst others may or may not call their kids.

#20 Luci

Posted 10 April 2012 - 07:08 PM

If you do discuss it with your sister and she doesn't want you to use it will you be ok with that?

If it was me I think I would use the name. IMO it is similar but not too similar for cousins. I also think that no one owns a name - plus every name that sounds a bit like it.

Luci

#21 EsmeLennox

Posted 10 April 2012 - 07:12 PM

Years ago I taught cousins with virtually the same name - along the lines of Hannah Mary and Hannah Marie (not the actual names though) They had the same last name too, and we're in the same year at school. Now that, IMO, was too close. What you are thinking about is fine, not really remotely close to the same name - the pronunciation is too different.


#22 funkymum

Posted 10 April 2012 - 08:38 PM

O love the name.  I don't think its stealing her name at all original.gif

O love the name.  I don't think its stealing her name at all :)

#23 Imaginary friend

Posted 10 April 2012 - 10:13 PM

As I have said on other threads, I think similar names are fine for cousins - as long as the name is not exactly the same, I dont see a problem.

#24 Charmzy

Posted 10 April 2012 - 10:48 PM

If you like it, use it.

#25 Tall Poppy

Posted 11 April 2012 - 09:25 AM

It is similar, however, if you love it go for it. Choose what you will be happy with.




1 user(s) are reading this topic

0 members, 1 guests, 0 anonymous users

 

Tot meets his heroes, falls apart with excitement

Two-year-old Quincy finished his potty training last week, and as part of his reward he was able to meet his idols.

Beautiful in our eyes: Georgia's story

I will never deny the fact that grief has a place when you give birth to a child who brings a set of circumstances very different to what you imagined. Because for nine months, I thought I knew my Georgie.

'It's been phenomenal': widower dad of quads thankful for support

There was nothing Erica and Carlos wanted more than a baby.

Vin Diesel names daughter after actor Paul Walker

The actor said there was "no other person" he was thinking about when he chose the name.

How midwives can help women who experience domestic violence

More than half of women who live with abusive partners experience violence during pregnancy.

Mum describes giving birth during Cyclone Pam

A new mother was told she must flee Port Vila hospital with her baby as Cyclone Pam bore down.

6 signs you're done having babies

There were a few signs I'm never going back to the land of maternity jeans, breast pumps and bassinets.

Marta Dusseldorp reveals breastfeeding cost her an acting job

Australian actress Marta Dusseldorp has revealed she was forced to withdraw from a Sydney Theatre Company production because a director did not approve of her breast feeding.

Female celebs (or their babies) with traditionally male names

Looking for a name that's a little bit different for a girl? Turn to names that have been traditionally used for males, as these celebs (or their parents) did.

'If you're anti-immunisation ... take a look at this picture of my son'

Greg Hughes is "an absolute shell of a man" as he and his wife Catherine struggle to come to terms with the loss of their newborn son Riley to whooping cough.

How an extrovert can raise an introvert

Introverts are often misunderstood as shy, and sometimes even rude. A timid child can be difficult to build rapport with, but it's important we nurture their sensitive natures.

Sheryl Sandberg's advice

'Choreplay': Help out at home to get more sex, Sandberg tells men

Forget foreplay. The new and improved route to intercourse is "choreplay" - it's good for your spouse, good for your house, and comes with the imprimatur of feminist du jour Sheryl Sandberg.

How to play with your baby

The first time your child learns a new skill at playtime is very exciting - for both you and your baby! Play is important to your child's development for a variety of reasons - here are some simple ideas for you to try at home.

I'm a single mother by choice

For me, being the best mother I can be means being a mum alone, at least for now. Thinking of my friends with inadequate partners, I wonder why more people don’t choose single motherhood.

Awkward wedding photos

Weird poses, surprise photobombs, bizarre editing: these are the wedding photos that should have never seen the light of day.

Four-week-old baby Riley Hughes dies of whooping cough

The mother of a four-week-old Perth baby who died after contracting whooping cough says her family has been left devastated by the loss of her "gorgeous, sweet" son.

Win a Ben & Holly's Little Kingdom prize pack

To celebrate the April 1 release of Holly's Magic Wand on DVD and Digital, we are giving away five DVD packs featuring the newest installment of Ben & Holly's Little Kingdom Holly's Magic Wand and many more hours of family entertainment! Enter Now!

Oh boy! Video shows family's reaction to baby surprise

Little Peyton Williams thought she was getting a baby sister named Charlee. But the two-year-old has had to settle for a doll dressed in pink after her baby "sister" turned out to be a boy.

How to help build up your baby's immune system

We all know that having a strong immune system is the best way to stay healthy – but what can we do to help it along?

'Nick, you need to call an ambulance': home birth mum's tragic death

A Melbourne mum who died after the home birth of her baby pleaded with her husband to call an ambulance because she felt she was going to die, the Victorian Coroners Court has heard.

When dads believe their baby doesn't 'like' them

Q: My two-month-old baby doesn't like me. He's perfectly content with my wife, but when I try to hold him, he gets upset and cries. I've backed off a little, thinking that he just needs a little time to get used to me, but that doesn't seem to be working. I'm starting to think I'm just not a very good dad. Is it too late for me to build a relationship with my baby?

When was the last time a stranger praised your parenting?

Wouldn’t it be great to get some nice feedback every now and then? After all, everyone likes to hear positive praise, particularly when it comes to parenting.

Special Ticket Offer, Save $8!

The Essential Baby & Toddler Show is back this April! Save $8 off the door price for a limited time only!

15 names on the verge of extinction

If you're looking to revive an older name, or don’t want anything near the top 1000 list, check out these rare monikers for your unique baby.

5 characteristics of great dads

It’s great to see a generation of dads who are more actively involved with caring, nurturing and loving their kids.

Why doesn't Australia have more breast milk banks?

When there’s no question that milk banks are important, why don’t we have more of them in Australia?

Carrie Bickmore announces birth of daughter

Television personality Carrie Bickmore has given birth to her second child.

 
Advertisement
 
Advertisement
 
 
 

What's hot on EB

Sign up to our 30 days of #PlayIQ challenge

Sign up to receive 30 amazing tips and ideas for play with baby during the month of April and submit a picture or tip on our social wall for a chance to win an amazing Fisher-Price prize pack.

Man faces jail after giving woman abortion pill smoothie

A Norwegian man is facing jail after putting abortion pills in his ex-girlfriend's smoothie, causing her to have a miscarriage.

'He's a blessing': family of baby born without eyes

Jordy Jackson was born without eyes. He has anophthalmia, which affects one in every 100,000 babies born.

Win one of 5 Cadbury Easter Hampers

With Easter fast approaching, Cadbury are giving away 5 Cadbury Easter Hampers. Enter Now!

Super fit model Sarah Stage defends her pregnancy body

Model Sarah Stage has defended her pregnancy body after critics claimed her slim figure at eight-and-a-half months pregnant wasn't "normal".

Win a Ben & Holly's Little Kingdom and Peppa Pig prize pack

To celebrate the April 1 release of Holly's Magic Wand on DVD and Digital, Essential Baby and Entertainment One are giving away five bumper DVD packs featuring the newest installment of Ben & Holly's Little Kingdom Holly's Magic Wand and many more hours of family entertainment! Enter Now!

Why I post breastfeeding photos online

I love to take pictures of my children. In some of the pictures, my younger son is nursing.

The day I broke my baby

There are things I wish I didn't know. I wish I didn't know that companies make tiny braces, small enough to hold necks no bigger than a wrist.

The place just for dads of multiples

When a couple discovers they're expecting multiples, the dad can sometimes be almost forgotten in all the excitement and preparation. But one group offers a space just for dads of twins and higher-order multiples.

Brave mum calls for domestic violence law reform

A brave mum of two has shared details of the harrowing attacks she suffered at the hands of her partner in a bid to help other victims of domestic violence.

Why I had the new test for Down syndrome

Early last year I turned 35, and having just found out I was pregnant, I opted to have the new test for Down syndrome.

Geeky baby gear

If your family is more into Star Wars, gaming and the periodic table than most, you might want to check out these geek-chic baby items.

2015: the year of the sheep

According to the Chinese zodiac, babies born in the year of the sheep are creative and enjoy spending quiet time with their own thoughts.

Breakthrough genetic testing now available in Australia

Pregnant women will for the first time have access to locally analysed, accurate, non-invasive pre-natal genetic testing when the first Australian clinic to offer the services opens its doors next week.

Grandbabies: the babies born looking old

Not a day under 65 and a lifetime of struggle! That's the look of these newborns, who look adorably older than their real age. Social networking site Reddit recently featured user submissions of adorable grandbabies, here are our favourites.

Family kicked off flight after toddler seatbelt drama

An entire family was kicked off a Cathay Pacific flight when a misbehaving toddler refused to put his seatbelt on.

Stolen baby found after 17 years

A baby stolen from her mother's arms shortly after birth has been found through an astonishing coincidence.

53 creative pregnancy announcements

Announcing that you're expecting can be a time to express your creativity, sense of humour and imagination. Check out how other parents and parents-to-be have broken the news to friends and family.

IKEA hacks for the nursery and kids' rooms

Are you one of those that know the whole IKEA catalogue by heart? Love their stuff but want to personalise it? Here's some inspiration to help you realise the potential of IKEA furniture and fittings.

36 baby names inspired by food and drinks

A French court may have ruled out Nutella as a baby name, but that doesn't have to stop you from taking inspiration from the supermarket (or bottle shop). See what parents in the US have chosen for their delicious little ones.

Clever breastfeeding products

Check out this range of products designed to help make your breastfeeding journey more enjoyable, manageable and convenient.

 

Sign up now!

30 days of #PlayIQ challenge

Receive a daily email from Essential Baby during April with great play tips and ideas, then submit your baby at play photos to our Playwall, Instagram or Twitter for your chance to win.

 
Advertisement
 
 
Essential Baby and Essential Kids is the place to find parenting information and parenting support relating to conception, pregnancy, birth, babies, toddlers, kids, maternity, family budgeting, family travel, nutrition and wellbeing, family entertainment, kids entertainment, tips for the family home, child-friendly recipes and parenting. Try our pregnancy due date calculator to determine your due date, or our ovulation calculator to predict ovulation and your fertile period. Our pregnancy week by week guide shows your baby's stages of development. Access our very active mum's discussion groups in the Essential Baby forums or the Essential Kids forums to talk to mums about conception, pregnancy, birth, babies, toddlers, kids and parenting lifestyle. Essential Baby also offers a baby names database of more than 22,000 baby names, popular baby names, boys' names, girls' names and baby names advice in our baby names forum. Essential Kids features a range of free printable worksheets for kids from preschool years through to primary school years. For the latest baby clothes, maternity clothes, maternity accessories, toddler products, kids toys and kids clothing, breastfeeding and other parenting resources, check out Essential Baby and Essential Kids.