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#26 minidiamond

Posted 10 April 2012 - 12:16 PM

QUOTE (duckypond @ 10/04/2012, 11:15 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Not sure if that post was directed at me.  But if so, no, IVF was not an amazing journey.  It was a bloody emotional one with lots of hurdles along the way.  I know we were unbelievably lucky to conceive with the first cycle and that not everyone is so lucky.  The OP and PP asked a question.  I answered going by my experience.

Apology accepted.

No it wasn't Ducky.  I'm pretty sure you weren't the person on a previous thread of a similar nature that said IVF was an 'amazing' experience/journey ..... and I'm assuming from this post above that you don't feel that way.  I still can't really fathom how someone would say that but it is a very different experience for people.

QUOTE (zoelicious @ 10/04/2012, 12:08 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
What does OP and PP stand for?

zoe, OP=Original post/er & PP=previous post/er

Edited to remove sig, my apologies everyone

Edited by Liltuss, 10 April 2012 - 12:18 PM.


#27 Emily of New Moon

Posted 10 April 2012 - 12:27 PM

QUOTE (Liltuss @ 10/04/2012, 12:16 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
No it wasn't Ducky.


Then my apologies, Liltuss original.gif  Who would say it is an amazing journey??  I think it doesn't matter how many cycles you have ... one or 10+... it's always an emotional roller coaster ride.  We are lucky to have this amazing technology available (even though it is very expensive and based on luck to some extent with no guarantees of a successful conception / birth) ... but amazing journey??  No way.  I don't wish IVF on anyone.


#28 HRH Countrymel

Posted 10 April 2012 - 12:34 PM

Many people go on the first attempt - you just need to look into the IVF long haul buddy group to realise that.

If you read our stats. (best not to as you are still full of hope and excitement) you will realise that the clinics have a lot of first time lucky patients to average out their success rates when you take into account our multiple tries.



#29 spottydog

Posted 10 April 2012 - 12:34 PM

I agree to the PPs who said it certainly is not a amazing journey. Far from it.

OP i think going in with a optimistic attitude helps you get through the treatment, but i would expect a negative result each cycle, that way you dont get your hopes up.

Good luck, i do hope you are one of the lucky ones that gets your BFP first time original.gif

spotty.

#30 EloiseIVF

Posted 10 April 2012 - 01:03 PM

Absolutely agree with Spotty. Having just finished my first stim cycle and hoping against all hope I'd be a lucky first timer, I was brought down to earth with a great thud when I had zero fertilisations! From now on, no more expectations. And "amazing journey" - crickey, that poster must have had a pretty diabolical life up til now! More like "amazing pain in the butt" - or in my case, pain in the upper thigh, which is where I do my jabbing  ohmy.gif

Of course, an upside is that if I hang around long enough I may actually be able to figure out how people use the quote thingy to reference bits of previous posts  roll2.gif

Ellie x

#31 Stronger

Posted 10 April 2012 - 01:16 PM

Thanks for that info about symptoms!

Hmmm yeah can't imagine describing IVF as an amazing journey....more like a very emotional, expensive, painful and inconvenient one. I have just done my first full cycle and I am hoping I am one of the lucky ones who gets a BFP first time as I am really not sure if I can handle another round!

Best of luck to everyone!

#32 minidiamond

Posted 10 April 2012 - 02:19 PM

Hoping,  I also meant to say that from memory you posted not so long ago about Syd clinic reccs.
If you ended up with Genea, they do 'quote' 3 cycles as average, although in the case of oldies like me, my FS pushed that out to 4-5.

As countrymel said, there are plenty of those who get lucky on the first strike - but given the average, you'll see that the long termers balance things out.

I hope you are one of the lucky ones !

#33 hoping4bubs

Posted 11 April 2012 - 07:24 PM

Thanks everyone for coming in and giving support, hearing the good, the bad and the ugly is exactly what I was after.

I'm really nervous, no let me rephrase that, I'm paralysed by my fear of failure, I'm so desperate for it to succeed, I guess I'm setting myself up for failure thinking like that.



#34 Stronger

Posted 11 April 2012 - 11:30 PM

QUOTE (hoping4bubs @ 11/04/2012, 05:24 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Thanks everyone for coming in and giving support, hearing the good, the bad and the ugly is exactly what I was after.

I'm really nervous, no let me rephrase that, I'm paralysed by my fear of failure, I'm so desperate for it to succeed, I guess I'm setting myself up for failure thinking like that.


If it helps, I feel EXACTLY the same way as you...I find out on Friday if our first IVF attempt is successful or not and I am so scared I am just not sure if I want to take that phone call! I am so so desperate for it to work!

Best of luck to you original.gif

ETA - do you have any children already or are you TTC#1?

Edited by raffi06, 11 April 2012 - 11:31 PM.


#35 hoping4bubs

Posted 12 April 2012 - 06:55 AM

Oh my goodness Raffi, I've got everything crossed for u. Let me know how ur results are tomorrow.

TTC # 1 for us. We would like more but we'll wait and see if we get blessed with 1

#36 roses99

Posted 12 April 2012 - 07:10 AM

QUOTE (leebec @ 09/04/2012, 07:38 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Every single person I know in real life who has done or are doing IVF get it first go. I have done 2 fresh & 2 frozen and nothing and they wonder why I get upset and won't see them when they are gloating and full of it about how wonderful they are that IVF worked first go, so yes it can happen 1st go

I'm sorry your friends are so insensitive  sad.gif  They, of all people, should know how difficult the TTC journey can be.

OP, I've known someone who has got a BFP after their first IVF (which came after six years of TTC and various other treatments). And I know people who needed two or three attempts.

I think it's fine to feel positive about it; it's not worth thinking 'woe is me, this will never work'. But I would still have a plan for if it doesn't work. Maybe you could write yourself a letter to read in that event. Or, better yet, have a plan to go away for a weekend or go to a day spa or something.

It's good to be hopeful, but prepare yourself for the possibility that it won't work first time. And that, if that's the case, you'll still get other cycles. And those other cycles will have the benefit of being based on what your FS has learned about this first cycle.

#37 naomi_j86

Posted 12 April 2012 - 07:19 AM

A friend of mine had had a massive car accident, so all organs were crushed, heaps of scar tissue, was never expected to get pregnant...

She fell pregnant first time with IVF, and although struggled for a fair while in between, went on to have 3 natural pregnancies.

#38 MamaSummer

Posted 24 November 2014 - 07:18 PM

I have just finished egg collection (16 eggs/ 4 fertilised).

Day 5 is tomorrow so hoping they are all going strong (day 3 all 4 were looking really good).

All going well will have them frozen and 1 transferred back next cycle (was a little overstimulated).

There is so much hope...just staying positive and happy.

I know 3 women who have done IVF - 2 were successful on first go, 1 was not.

Baby dust to you all!!

#39 MamaSummer

Posted 27 December 2014 - 01:20 PM

Christmas Eve I did a preg test and was amazed to see that I got a positive! (8dp5dt)

It was my first ever IVF/ FET transfer.

Best wishes to everyone.

#40 KatyCakes

Posted 27 December 2014 - 01:39 PM

Most definitely can work first time! Currently 31wk along with our first after 1 embryo transfer. I had ongoing acupunture before and after treatment. We had been trying for about 3 yrs and had prepared for a long ivf roller coaster ride but we seem 'lucky' I also have a friend who's first cycle was successful.

Good luck OP! :)


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